wow. My friend is a loser.

TechBoyJK

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I have a friend that I grew up with. He lived right down the street. My parents never had any money, and his parents spoiled him. I've almost always had a job since I was 15. He had a couple petty jobs when he was a teenager, but never lasted long. He did manage to get two associate degrees, but he has never done anything with them and has been out of school for several years.

Fast forward to today. He is 29, almost 30. Still lives at home, has never moved out, and sleeps in teh same bed as he did as a baby. Same bedroom, etc. He hasn't had a job since he was in his early twenties, and that job lasted about a week. He's done some freelance webdesign here and there, but it's been for like $20 here, $50 there. He's probably made a total of $500 over the years doing webdesign. He literally helps his parents out around the house for an allowance of about $30 per week.

He's had two cars totalled from driving drunk. His parent's bought him a new one each time, except the last. They said they wouldn't buy him a car until he got a job.

He recently finally got an interview at WALMART, got hired, went through training, etc. His job would stocking shelves on the latenight shift. I get to work at 8am, and saw he was online via aol im. (I have jivetalk on my blackberry) and ask him how was work. He says it was boring and alot of work.

Last night, I IM him again and ask him if he is looking forward to his next shift and he says:

I quit. I just couldn't handle the late hours. I'm not used to it. Plus the job was boring, only paid $9.50 an hour, was alot of work, I had to carry alot of stuff around, and I worked with a bunch of losers. I can't stand to be around a bunch of high school drop outs and retards. Job just wasn't for me.

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He literally worked one shift. WTF? He said his parents are livid but he apparently told them he just couldn't handle the job and wasn't going to subject himself to such stress.


 

DeadByDawn

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Sad, but there are a lot of people out there that just can't handle the real world for whatever reason.

Sounds like his parents are part of the problem.
 

moshquerade

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definitely a loser, but no one is telling him he's a loser, just saying it behind his back. tough love needed.
 

Kirby

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As long as he's not bumming money off of you, what's the problem? If his parents want to support him until they kick the bucket, that's their prerogative I guess.
 

meltdown75

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you're so much better than he is.

there, we can end the thread now b/c that's apparently what you needed to hear.
 
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Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
I have a friend that I grew up with. He lived right down the street. My parents never had any money, and his parents spoiled him. I've almost always had a job since I was 15. He had a couple petty jobs when he was a teenager, but never lasted long. He did manage to get two associate degrees, but he has never done anything with them and has been out of school for several years.

Fast forward to today. He is 29, almost 30. Still lives at home, has never moved out, and sleeps in teh same bed as he did as a baby. Same bedroom, etc. He hasn't had a job since he was in his early twenties, and that job lasted about a week. He's done some freelance webdesign here and there, but it's been for like $20 here, $50 there. He's probably made a total of $500 over the years doing webdesign. He literally helps his parents out around the house for an allowance of about $30 per week.

He's had two cars totalled from driving drunk. His parent's bought him a new one each time, except the last. They said they wouldn't buy him a car until he got a job.

He recently finally got an interview at WALMART, got hired, went through training, etc. His job would stocking shelves on the latenight shift. I get to work at 8am, and saw he was online via aol im. (I have jivetalk on my blackberry) and ask him how was work. He says it was boring and alot of work.

Last night, I IM him again and ask him if he is looking forward to his next shift and he says:

I quit. I just couldn't handle the late hours. I'm not used to it. Plus the job was boring, only paid $9.50 an hour, was alot of work, I had to carry alot of stuff around, and I worked with a bunch of losers. I can't stand to be around a bunch of high school drop outs and retards. Job just wasn't for me.

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He literally worked one shift. WTF? He said his parents are livid but he told him he just couldn't handle the job and wasn't going to subject himself to such stress.

Did you tell him the above bolded was what they were thinking of him? :p
 

TechBoyJK

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Originally posted by: meltdown75
you're so much better than he is.

there, we can end the thread now b/c that's apparently what you needed to hear.

lol i have my own problems, I just think it's funny how resistant he is to the real world and having to work and shit like that. He just won't lift a finger for anybody.
 

RapidSnail

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Perhaps you could bring up a conversation about personal responsibility and maturity. If he responds earnestly, you could offer advice, if not, never touch the subject again. It's not intrusive or arrogant to try to help someone you know and love who is on the wrong path, just don't push it further if he doesn't want it.
 

halik

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Are his parents super loaded? If not, his parents are idiots... or he deals drugs.
 

moshquerade

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Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
Originally posted by: meltdown75
you're so much better than he is.

there, we can end the thread now b/c that's apparently what you needed to hear.

lol i have my own problems, I just think it's funny how resistant he is to the real world and having to work and shit like that. He just won't lift a finger for anybody.

do you tell him, even jokingly, that he needs to get his life together?
 

TechBoyJK

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Originally posted by: halik
Are his parents super loaded? If not, his parents are idiots... or he deals drugs.

They used to be. His dad had a thriving auto detailing business and his mom had a thriving jewerly business. As they got older, his mom folded the jewerly business so she could go back to school. Eventually his dad scaled back on the detailing business and eventually went to work for the city as the chief maintenance engineer. His mom is done with school, but wants to retire, but can't because he is such a draw on their finances and they don't have as much in teh bank any more from supporting him and paying for his previous auto accident damages. His dad's auto detailing shop has all but closed, and his dad's diabetes is apparently starting to take a dive and he may have to retire soon.

Yet, here he his, completely taking for granted their support. He should have grinded at that job and ONLY quit when he found something better. Instead he bails and goes right back to sucking on his mom's nip.
 

spaceman

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Dec 4, 2000
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dude...
he aint heavy..



HES YO BROTHER!!!!!!!!
:music:

So on we go.!!!!!!!!
(His welfare is of my concern.)
(No burden is he to bear.)
(We'll get there.)!!!!:music:
 

TechBoyJK

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Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
you are who you hang out with

I don't hang out with him much anymore. I live in a different city, and he can't afford to even come out here. I never go to his house anymore since I don't like hanging out in the same bedroom we kicked it in when we were 8.
 

kranky

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Had he gotten a job which required giving full-body massages to supermodels, he still would have quit. He's just decided he's not going to work, and it doesn't matter what the job is. It was convenient for him to apply for a job he could easily claim was too hard and had bad hours.
 

moshquerade

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Originally posted by: TechBoyJK
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
you are who you hang out with

I don't hang out with him much anymore. I live in a different city, and he can't afford to even come out here. I never go to his house anymore since I don't like hanging out in the same bedroom we kicked it in when we were 8.

still have the Power Rangers poster on his wall?