Would you . . . ?

[HannibalX]

Would you give up your hobby of computers and gaming for a... woman? This is the choice I am faced with now.

Each of these things (woman and comps) will consume mass majorities of my time, so which do I pick? Love or Frag? Which would you pick.

I have a feeling I may be saying good bye to AnandTech

 

[Sacotool]

What are you, some kind of homo? Of course you choose the woman!

 

[uncouth]

what kind of women are we talking about here?
what kind of computer are we talking about here?

these factors would greatly alter my choice...

 

[Robert]

Try a little compromise:

For every 30 minutes you're on the computer, you owe your girl 30 minutes of "bonding" time.

 

[XMan]

Hmm.

Definitely a toughy, Trin.

You have to ask yourself a few questions before you can really decide, though.

How do you care for this person? Is it infatuation, or is it the deeper, more pure love that makes you want to spend the rest of your life with her? Whether or not she's gorgeous is a moot point - I had a friend of mine quit the VFD basketball league cause his new girlfriend was a "hottie" and she didn't like him spending time with the boys.

When you say give up computers, how do you mean? If you mean cutting your online gaming out, and perhaps spending an hour or so on the 'net every day, and/or curtailing your monthly upgrades, that's one thing. If you truly care for this person you will understand where she's coming from. Ours is a very self-indulgent hobby, and when you're in a relationship, you have to make sacrifices of "me" for the greater benefit of "us." Now, if she wants you to sell off all of your hardware, and become a computer monk, that's a bit on the extreme side. Computers are very useful for things other than playing games.

Trinitron, in all honesty, you have to realize this - is a computer game really better than spending time with someone you care about? A game doesn't give you anything; it doesn't teach you anything about the beauty and life of the human condition . . . it's a toy, and sometimes we have to grow up and put away childish things.

 

[uncouth]

Also, people should accept you for who you are, not for who they want you to be...
You should allow yourself to change your life because someone else likes you more if you do. I know that I would not get a nose job for a girl if she insisted that I needed one. Your situation is similar, with your nerdliness substituted for an ugly nose.

 

[UG]

The computer is a reflection of you. The woman is a reflection of you.

They are roughly equivalent.

The computer is cheaper.

 

[HannibalX]

Wow, thanks for the replys, especial Xerox. No, I'm not a homo, if I was I would have saud guy not woman

I'm gonna think about this one for a while - damn; this is tough.

 

[XMan]

Don't know if I should have been so honest considering the ear-chewing you gave me over in the X-Men thread . . .

 

[Russ]

This one is a no-brainer. Kick the broad to the curb.

Russ, NCNE

 

[Doomer]

Dunno about computers being cheaper.

 

[DarkManX]

if a girl told me I can her her but no comp at all id rather take comp, I spend more time then I should on the computer, but if I had something better to do with my free time I would, I dont know if I would be able to live without computer access. I have been fascinated by electoronics from as far as I remember, I remember takeing real electronic devices apart ever since I was 4, and a computer was the 1st thing I successefuly can take apart and rebuild 10000000000x.

 

[MrsSkywalker]

I don't see why it has to be one or the other. Contrary to popular belief, there are women out there who don't mind if their man likes to use the computer and play games. I can certainly vouch for that! I was your basic use-the-computer-for-word-processing chick before I met my husband. After that, I found that the computer was an interest we could both share. In fact, I just got done running a set of benchmarks for him...and I even took the time to learn what the numbers mean So, it can happen! Maybe she wants to get involved with your interest in computers. Who knows? If not, then just tell her that gaming and using the computer are things that you really enjoy and if she's worth anything, you two could reach a compromise.

 

[nEoTeChMaN]

A good woman wouldn't let you give up your computer.

nEo

 

[Yeeny]

Well, if its a matter of giving it totally up, I would say no way. Nobody that loves you should want you to give up something you love totally. But if she is asking you to cut back, and you are not sure what to do, I think you already have your answer to whats more important.

 

[HannibalX]

Sorry Xerox - that thread got kinda silly, I just made two little statments and then everyone starts twisting my words around to make totaly different meanings of what I said and ment, heh. No hard feelings.

 

[Impact55]

I fell in love with my current girlfriend and obviously havent been posting here as much , but I find time with her well justified, unlike previous girlfriends. I still spend time on the net and am still a casual gamer, it's not like your getting married or something... right? Unless your playing 24/7 than you'll have plenty of time to balance things out, just make sure you don't get the kind of girlfriend that calls you every hour to make sure everythings "OK".
EDIT: One thing that I think is a harder decision is friends or girlfriend. I mean I am closer to my friends than most girls, except the one I have now, and so usually I will go with her, but I don't spend as much time with my close friends The thing with the computer is you can be on it at late night like now or in the morning when your not with your girlfriend so it is not as hard to jungle as going out to a movie with say your best friends or your girlfriend.

 

[RSI]

It's all a matter of time management. Manage your time effectively, and voila.

 

[SlipperyFreudian]

being computer people is part of who we are, if she demands that u give up the computer for her, then she doesnt like u for who u are, she is liking the idea of who she wants you to be. tell her the computer stays and if she wants u for who u are, then she will also.

 

[flood]

heh... I met this girl 2 years ago...
ever since, I've spent less time on the comp and more time with her...
It just kinda happened...
I didnt realize it until I would read these forums and there wasnt a single thread that I had read.

 

[zippy]

Yeah, your computer love is part of who you are, if she doesn't like that...what else won't she like about you that she will find out about later?

I say you stick to the ladies on those web sites. hehehe

 

[randomlinh]

I have to say the woman. In the long run, it may cost more, but you get more from it Well, at least IMO anyhow.

 

[Hyper99]

The time you spend with your girlfriend is lot more worthwhile
then spending your time here.
We are all here just to have a laugh
Dude the priority on the woman is much higher
This is just child's play I'm sure there are time where I would not
be here at anandtech for a week and wouldn't missed a thing.
If you here all the time, it can get really boring.
The computer is a thing, your girlfriend or wife to be is a living soul that need your attention more then anything else.
I met a few folk very few here that is is even worth talking to at all, the rest I haven't a clue what they saying.

 

[Hyper99]

Trinitron you be suprised most married men are here 24hrs a day
at Anantech forum.
Remember your wife take care of the kid while you have all the free time in the world.

Just kidding, um you going have all your free time taken away.
It a trade off but that what it take to be a parent.

 

[ltk007]

2 important questions

How hot is she?

How willing is she to put out?


A computer can only be so much fun until cyber sex becomes more interactive.