would you still feel connected to a person?

[shortspanishguy]

When I was 18 I got a girl pregnant. She had an abortion and we broke up 3 months later.

We spoke on and off for about 3 months but now never speak. She got very jealous when I moved on to another gf who I have now been with for almost 6 years and bascially cut me off.

I still feel like I have an odd connection to this girl. I wonder if she feels the same way?


Has anyone here ever been in this situation?

Please, I dont want this to turn into a discussion on abortion.

 

[JDrake]

Guilt?

 

[shortspanishguy]

Originally posted by: joedrake
Guilt?

Guilt is there but im not sure its the driving factor.

 

[drinkmorejava]

I suppose it'd only be human to still feel something for someone you almost had a kid with. I'd prefer "you killed a kid and now God wants you to feel miserable though.".

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: shortspanishguy
When I was 18 I got a girl pregnant. She had an abortion and we broke up 3 months later.

We spoke on and off for about 3 months but now never speak. She got very jealous when I moved on to another gf who I have now been with for almost 6 years and bascially cut me off.

I still feel like I have an odd connection to this girl. I wonder if she feels the same way?


Has anyone here ever been in this situation?

Please, I dont want this to turn into a discussion on abortion.

of course you are going to feel connected to this girl. you made a baby together, even though you chose to terminate it.

 

[QED]

Yeah, I think so.

I honestly don't know how you couldn't feel connected. You never forget the first girl you had a crush on, the first girl you held hands with, the first girl you kissed, the first girl you bagged or the first girl you got pregnant.

I'd imagine the feeling also holds for the first girl you got an abortion with. You at least now share one more thing in common: the occasional thought of how your life might be different if you had actually gone through and had a son or daughter together. What would your son look like now? Would he have his fathers ears, or his mothers eyes? Would his favorite sport be your favorite, too?

 

[Fenixgoon]

Originally posted by: MathMan

Yeah, I think so.

I honestly don't know how you couldn't feel connected. You never forget the first girl you had a crush on, the first girl you held hands with, the first girl you kissed, the first girl you bagged or the first girl you got pregnant.

I'd imagine the feeling also holds for the first girl you got an abortion with. You at least now share one more thing in common: the occasional thought of how your life might be different if you had actually gone through and had a son or daughter together. What would your son look like now? Would he have his fathers ears, or his mothers eyes? Would his favorite sport be your favorite, too?

well sign me up captain!:disgust:

frankly, the ONLY girl you should ever get pregnant is your wife. how bout some damn personal responsibility?:|:|:|:|

edited for extra bolding

 

[elektrolokomotive]

Originally posted by: shortspanishguy


Please, I dont want this to turn into a discussion on abortion.

Guess that didn't work.

 

[tweakmm]

Originally posted by: Fenixgoon
frankly, the ONLY girl you should ever get pregnant is your wife. how bout some damn personal responsibility?:|:|:|:|

I'm pretty sure he didn't mean to get her pregnant.

 

[Fenixgoon]

Originally posted by: tweakmm

Originally posted by: Fenixgoon
frankly, the ONLY girl you should ever get pregnant is your wife. how bout some damn personal responsibility?:|:|:|:|

I'm pretty sure he didn't mean to get her pregnant.

i'm sure of that, but mathman makes it sound like "oh, everyone gets a girl pregnant - no big deal" just like first kiss/first time holding hands.

 

[dawnbug]

Originally posted by: Fenixgoon

Originally posted by: tweakmm

Originally posted by: Fenixgoon
frankly, the ONLY girl you should ever get pregnant is your wife. how bout some damn personal responsibility?:|:|:|:|

I'm pretty sure he didn't mean to get her pregnant.

i'm sure of that, but mathman makes it sound like "oh, everyone gets a girl pregnant - no big deal" just like first kiss/first time holding hands.

He was just trying to say that it was probably one of the big events in his life, just as your first kiss, etc. are also major events.

 

[badmouse]

There's no way to keep abortion out of the discussion. Of course you're connected - your mom & dad parts already connected to make the next generation. That's a huge connection. What's the meaning of life? To make more life. You did that, whether you meant to or not, whatever you did about it.

Happens.

 

[shortspanishguy]

Originally posted by: drinkmorejava
I'd prefer "you killed a kid and now God wants you to feel miserable though.".

Everyone who is saying that I chose this, this is NOT the case. Last time I checked I cant force her to do anything.

I gave my input to her and she disregarded it. I told her to keep it and then when she didnt she felt regret and I was blamed even further.

 

[imported_nautique]

I def think that it's normal that you are feeling this way because it was a big event in your life. Almost having a child. But it has been 6 years and if it didn't work then I doubt it would work now.

 

[EKKC]

she lied, didnt have the abortion, gave birth and will soon ask you for child support $$$.
your feeling "connected" is a premonition of things to come (thinner wallet, remortgaging, etc etc etc)

 

[hypn0tik]

Originally posted by: shortspanishguy

Originally posted by: drinkmorejava
I'd prefer "you killed a kid and now God wants you to feel miserable though.".

Everyone who is saying that I chose this, this is NOT the case. Last time I checked I cant force her to do anything.

I gave my input to her and she disregarded it. I told her to keep it and then when she didnt she felt regret and I was blamed even further.

Hahahaha. That made me lol.

'Giving your input to her' is what made the baby in the first place.

 

[MisterJackson]

I think you just associate the girl with the trauma of the situation, that's all.

 

[altonb1]

Originally posted by: hypn0tik

Originally posted by: shortspanishguy

Originally posted by: drinkmorejava
I'd prefer "you killed a kid and now God wants you to feel miserable though.".

Everyone who is saying that I chose this, this is NOT the case. Last time I checked I cant force her to do anything.

I gave my input to her and she disregarded it. I told her to keep it and then when she didnt she felt regret and I was blamed even further.

Hahahaha. That made me lol.

'Giving your input to her' is what made the baby in the first place.

heh...

 

[lightweight]

Originally posted by: Fenixgoon

Originally posted by: MathMan

Yeah, I think so.

I honestly don't know how you couldn't feel connected. You never forget the first girl you had a crush on, the first girl you held hands with, the first girl you kissed, the first girl you bagged or the first girl you got pregnant.

I'd imagine the feeling also holds for the first girl you got an abortion with. You at least now share one more thing in common: the occasional thought of how your life might be different if you had actually gone through and had a son or daughter together. What would your son look like now? Would he have his fathers ears, or his mothers eyes? Would his favorite sport be your favorite, too?

well sign me up captain!:disgust:

frankly, the ONLY girl you should ever get pregnant is your wife. how bout some damn personal responsibility?:|:|:|:|

edited for extra bolding

How about stop pushing your goddamn morals on everyone. :thumbsdown:

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: shortspanishguy
When I was 18 I got a girl pregnant. She had an abortion and we broke up 3 months later.

We spoke on and off for about 3 months but now never speak. She got very jealous when I moved on to another gf who I have now been with for almost 6 years and bascially cut me off.

I still feel like I have an odd connection to this girl. I wonder if she feels the same way?


Has anyone here ever been in this situation?

Please, I dont want this to turn into a discussion on abortion.

of course you are going to feel connected to this girl. you made a baby together, even though you chose to terminate it.

DING DING DING...

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: LadyBuggy

Originally posted by: Fenixgoon

Originally posted by: tweakmm

Originally posted by: Fenixgoon
frankly, the ONLY girl you should ever get pregnant is your wife. how bout some damn personal responsibility?:|:|:|:|

I'm pretty sure he didn't mean to get her pregnant.

i'm sure of that, but mathman makes it sound like "oh, everyone gets a girl pregnant - no big deal" just like first kiss/first time holding hands.

He was just trying to say that it was probably one of the big events in his life, just as your first kiss, etc. are also major events.

Ummmm... :roll: I think I am going to have to side with Fenixgoon on this one. An abortion is totally different from a first kiss.

 

[Gillbot]

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: shortspanishguy
When I was 18 I got a girl pregnant. She had an abortion and we broke up 3 months later.

We spoke on and off for about 3 months but now never speak. She got very jealous when I moved on to another gf who I have now been with for almost 6 years and bascially cut me off.

I still feel like I have an odd connection to this girl. I wonder if she feels the same way?


Has anyone here ever been in this situation?

Please, I dont want this to turn into a discussion on abortion.

of course you are going to feel connected to this girl. you made a baby together, even though you chose to terminate it.

DING DING DING...

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: shortspanishguy
When I was 18 I got a girl pregnant. She had an abortion and we broke up 3 months later.

We spoke on and off for about 3 months but now never speak. She got very jealous when I moved on to another gf who I have now been with for almost 6 years and bascially cut me off.

I still feel like I have an odd connection to this girl. I wonder if she feels the same way?


Has anyone here ever been in this situation?

Please, I dont want this to turn into a discussion on abortion.

well my first time was with a girl who it was also her first time for. We broke up a couple months later and all told were only together for a few months. She ended up getting knocked up by this guy 3 months after we were done. I see her around from time to time and she would always stare at me.....I saw her working in a supermarket the other day and I actually spoke to her. It was weird.

 

[Compton]

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: shortspanishguy
When I was 18 I got a girl pregnant. She had an abortion and we broke up 3 months later.

We spoke on and off for about 3 months but now never speak. She got very jealous when I moved on to another gf who I have now been with for almost 6 years and bascially cut me off.

I still feel like I have an odd connection to this girl. I wonder if she feels the same way?


Has anyone here ever been in this situation?

Please, I dont want this to turn into a discussion on abortion.

of course you are going to feel connected to this girl. you made a baby together, even though you chose to terminate it.

DING DING DING...

I don't know what planet you're from, but most men on Earth can't get an abortion even if they wanted to. Besides, he said he told her to keep the child.

 

[shortspanishguy]

Originally posted by: Compton

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: shortspanishguy
When I was 18 I got a girl pregnant. She had an abortion and we broke up 3 months later.

We spoke on and off for about 3 months but now never speak. She got very jealous when I moved on to another gf who I have now been with for almost 6 years and bascially cut me off.

I still feel like I have an odd connection to this girl. I wonder if she feels the same way?


Has anyone here ever been in this situation?

Please, I dont want this to turn into a discussion on abortion.

of course you are going to feel connected to this girl. you made a baby together, even though you chose to terminate it.

DING DING DING...

I don't know what planet you're from, but most men on Earth can't get an abortion even if they wanted to. Besides, he said he told her to keep the child.

I think you might be the only person who read all my comments. Thanks