Would you read it? Would you tell your significant other if you did?

[Theb]

In the movie Weatherman Nicholas Cage and his ex-wife go to a counseling group and one of the trust excercises is for both of them to write something they're not proud of - that the other person doesn't know about - on a piece of paper and give it to the other person, then the other person doesn't read it and you trust each other.

So if your wife or husband handed you a piece of paper with something they're ashamed of written on it, that you're not supposed to read, would you read it?

 

[tfinch2]

fvck yes I would read it

 

[shimsham]

nah.

 

[FoBoT]

i would follow the rules

 

[BigToque]

With my ex-gf, there isn't a single thing that I could write that she didn't already know.

 

[kogase]

No. I'd also never write anything like that and give it to my spouse... if I had one.

 

[loup garou]

I'd burn it.

 

[RaistlinZ]

I'd write "Meh" on the card. That way, if she does look then I could argue that she doesn't trust me and I won't have to worry about her knowing my secret.

One of my Motto's to Live By: "If you want to keep something secret, keep it secret"

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: FoBoT
i would follow the rules

 

[BigToque]

Originally posted by: RaistlinZ
I'd write "Meh" on the card. That way, if she does look then I could argue that she doesn't trust me and I won't have to worry about her knowing my secret.

One of my Motto's to Live By: "If you want to keep something secret, keep it secret"

My motto is, if you truly love someone, there are no secrets.

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: RaistlinZ
I'd write "Meh" on the card. That way, if she does look then I could argue that she doesn't trust me and I won't have to worry about her knowing my secret.

Truly this is the best way. :thumbsup:

 

[Aharami]

Originally posted by: RaistlinZ
I'd write "Meh" on the card. That way, if she does look then I could argue that she doesn't trust me and I won't have to worry about her knowing my secret.

hah. good idea

 

[Looney]

Hm interesting topic. Anyways, i wouldn't read it. If i did, then obviously i don't trust her enough, so the relationship is doom anyways.

 

[HardcoreRobot]

nothing i could write that would suprise an SO

tho i wouldnt want to read what they could have possibly written, ignorance is bliss

 

[Malak]

You are damn skippy I'd read it. The idea of not sharing secrets does not show trust, that's the dumbest BS I've ever heard. Tell your SO everything, that's trust.

 

[Theb]

Nicholas Cage's character read the one his wife gave him during the first bathroom break. He confronted her about it- she got mad and read the one he gave her.

I would read it. I can't resist curiosity, even if I know I'll be happier not knowing something. I watched the movie with my wife and we both said we'd read it if we were in that situation.

 

[DaShen]

I wouldn't read it, but because I would want to I would burn the paper.

 

[fbrdphreak]

Were I to do something stupid like that, I would not read it. However I can almost guarantee my gf would read it as she has trust issues (only partially inspired by me, mostly inspired by her mother having like 7 husbands...).

 

[Lola]

trust is something that is SO very important in a successful relationship. It takes time to build and if it is lost, it takes an even longer amount of time to gain back.

I would not read it.

 

[hypn0tik]

I wouldn't. I'm confident that my gf wouldn't either.

 

[Chiropteran]

Originally posted by: BigToque

Originally posted by: RaistlinZ
I'd write "Meh" on the card. That way, if she does look then I could argue that she doesn't trust me and I won't have to worry about her knowing my secret.

One of my Motto's to Live By: "If you want to keep something secret, keep it secret"

My motto is, if you truly love someone, there are no secrets.

Two people can keep a secret if one of them is dead.

 

[Trey22]

No need, the wife I don't keep have any secrets from each other.

No, I'm not being naive... we have that strong of a commitment to each other.

 

[Schadenfreude]

Nope. Anything she doesn't want me to know, I don't need to know.

Not being overly naive/a walking mat but I trust her commitment 100% and my rule is I walk as soon as I see a hint of mindfvcking from any girl anyways.

 

[Biggerhammer]

I'd write mine, take hers, and we would both read them. Welcome to married life. If you have secrets, you're hurting yourself and your spouse.

I've already told her all the juicy ones. It'd have to be something like 'got drunk and peed out the window on the neighbor's dog' that I just hadn't gotten around to telling her yet 🙂

 

[theknight571]

I would put the note in my pocket...and if I could make it past the first 10 min it would be a no brainer for not reading it, since I would forget about it until I found it in the washing machine.

When we got married I knew there were some secrets my wife was hiding from me...because she told me so.

She has since shared them with me, but it wasn't ever a problem.