would you let your SO cuddle with a friend of the opposite sex?

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purbeast0

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Originally posted by: Mandos
Amazing amazing thing... I'm experiencing something like this, I have a friend who I cuddle with quite a bit, play with her hair, ya know, give her massages, its sorta like we are each others SO's except she draws the line, no kissing, no super intamite moments, no touching anywhere ya know... but its just wonderful, It's like having a relationship without the sex or lust, and I quite enjoy it, but she has a fiance and I often wonder how he would feel about it. He lives 6 hours away, and I also have a friend hwom she treats the same way, whenever we are all watching a movie togehter she kinda takes us both, its pretty nice.

I think she only does it so she has some sort of intamacy and keeps herself faithful to her guy so far away, ya know? She is a dear, and its all innocent..

But if I were asked by my SO, I'd probably say no... I am simply not comfortable enough with it, and I havent got high enough self esteem to let it happen...

:confused:
 

JulesMaximus

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Jul 3, 2003
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Originally posted by: Mandos
Originally posted by: Buck Armstrong
Originally posted by: Mandos
...but she has a fiance and I often wonder how he would feel about it.

Do you really "wonder" how he'd feel about it? Aren't you pretty sure exactly how he'd feel about it?

Originally posted by: Mandos
...but its just wonderful, It's like having a relationship without the sex or lust...She is a dear, and its all innocent..

So General Patton has never saluted during the act? You've got alot more self-control than I do...

Well, from the rumors I've heard, he sounds like an amazing man, the bits of conversation I've seen or heard between them, he's very caring and considerate and a great guy. I really have no idea how he feels, or whether he evenknows Knowing her, I'd say he does know, and just accepts it.

And honestly, and very surprising to myself, I've never got a hardon or anything of the sort with her, and it is very strange to me. I'm a very lustful guy and I've never experienced anything of the sort with her, its just, iunno, different for some reason.

Um, which team are you on? :confused:
 

Jzero

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Oct 10, 1999
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I do not condone cuddle-bitchery in any way, shape, or form. I will not be a cuddle bitch except to my own wife, and I would not approve of my wife taking a cuddle bitch aside from me.
 

Triumph

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Oct 9, 1999
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I am very good friends with one of my best friend's wife. She'll give me very affectionate hugs and put her arm through mine occasionally, but not in any sort of sexual way. I don't have a problem with this, she doesn't have a problem with this, he doesn't have a problem with this, and I wouldn't have a problem with a girlfriend of mine acting like this towards her male friends. But I don't think this counts as cuddling, we certainly don't cuddle on the couch while watching TV or anything like that, and I wouldn't expect a SO to think that that would be OK.

But how many of you have cuddled with girls who aren't your girlfriend, when you are both single? If so, then cuddling isn't exclusive, otherwise you two would be dating. So in a way it's kinda contradictory to say you'll cuddle with a friend if you're both single but not if either of you are in a relationship.
 

cKGunslinger

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Weird.

Depends on the definition of cuddle. Spooning each other in bed and making out - no. Hugging, holding hands, laying on each other while watching TV or whatever - why not?

I do it with my female friends or my SO's sisters sometimes and don't see the big deal (Admittedly, this has caused a few issues with my SO on occassion.) She's never asked or seemed wanted to do it to anyone (male, that is), but if she did, I wouldn't really care. As long as she wasn't trying to hide it or let it go too far (I know she wouldn't.)

I think that some of you people are terribly insecure. Or maybe it's just me..

Oh - Texas.
 

skace

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Jan 23, 2001
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Originally posted by: Triumph
But how many of you have cuddled with girls who aren't your girlfriend, when you are both single? If so, then cuddling isn't exclusive, otherwise you two would be dating. So in a way it's kinda contradictory to say you'll cuddle with a friend if you're both single but not if either of you are in a relationship.

It may not be exclusive but it is an 'opener'. It is body language. It shows this person likes/wants you near him/her. People don't just cuddle for a year without it going anywhere unless they are 8 years old.
 

axnff

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NE == NO

Can we get some explanation of this "friend" of yours? What his/her argument, and in which state(s) does (s)he think this is acceptable?
 

tyler811

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wife no but then she would not even consider it. Girlfriend (no I do not have one) Sure but dont bother coming back Mi
 

Mandos

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Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: Mandos
Originally posted by: Buck Armstrong
Originally posted by: Mandos
...but she has a fiance and I often wonder how he would feel about it.

Do you really "wonder" how he'd feel about it? Aren't you pretty sure exactly how he'd feel about it?

Originally posted by: Mandos
...but its just wonderful, It's like having a relationship without the sex or lust...She is a dear, and its all innocent..

So General Patton has never saluted during the act? You've got alot more self-control than I do...

Well, from the rumors I've heard, he sounds like an amazing man, the bits of conversation I've seen or heard between them, he's very caring and considerate and a great guy. I really have no idea how he feels, or whether he evenknows Knowing her, I'd say he does know, and just accepts it.

And honestly, and very surprising to myself, I've never got a hardon or anything of the sort with her, and it is very strange to me. I'm a very lustful guy and I've never experienced anything of the sort with her, its just, iunno, different for some reason.

Um, which team are you on? :confused:

I'm straight
 

blakeatwork

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Jul 18, 2001
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Anything Red were to say in this thread can be taken as gospel, as he would be the foremost authority..
 

gutharius

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Wouldn't care and no they wouldn't need to ask.

However, if it were with the same sex that may be a problem. I follow the philosophy that one must follow their heart as they have no other choice.
 

Koing

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Oct 11, 2000
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No. That is for me to do.

Koing
 

eakers

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i already posted in this thread once but i'm gonna say it again "HELL NO"
but he wouldnt put me in that situation