would you let your SO cuddle with a friend of the opposite sex?

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Buck Armstrong

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Originally posted by: LordMorpheus
They can do whatever the hell they want.

How many girls have you ever cuddled with that you didn't fvck, and usually directly after or before said "cuddling"? For myself, and probably alot of guys, it would be few to none.

Usually, when a girl's in your arms with her boobs and hips pressed against you, somebody's gotta pay the price. :)
 

TheLonelyPhoenix

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I'm from PA. Currently in Virginia.

I would let her, simply because I don't see it as cheating and some girls just like being held... I've had a few long distance relationships (ranging from 40 minutes to 7 hours drive), and I understand it can get lonely.

Not to mention, I've cuddled with other girls while still in a relationship, so I couldn't really tell her "no", could I? :p

Edit: Now, if I was actually there in the room and she chose to cuddle with another guy instead of me... that's a different story... ;)
 

Mandos

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Amazing amazing thing... I'm experiencing something like this, I have a friend who I cuddle with quite a bit, play with her hair, ya know, give her massages, its sorta like we are each others SO's except she draws the line, no kissing, no super intamite moments, no touching anywhere ya know... but its just wonderful, It's like having a relationship without the sex or lust, and I quite enjoy it, but she has a fiance and I often wonder how he would feel about it. He lives 6 hours away, and I also have a friend hwom she treats the same way, whenever we are all watching a movie togehter she kinda takes us both, its pretty nice.

I think she only does it so she has some sort of intamacy and keeps herself faithful to her guy so far away, ya know? She is a dear, and its all innocent..

But if I were asked by my SO, I'd probably say no... I am simply not comfortable enough with it, and I havent got high enough self esteem to let it happen...
 

Buck Armstrong

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Originally posted by: Mandos
...but she has a fiance and I often wonder how he would feel about it.

Do you really "wonder" how he'd feel about it? Aren't you pretty sure exactly how he'd feel about it?

Originally posted by: Mandos
...but its just wonderful, It's like having a relationship without the sex or lust...She is a dear, and its all innocent..

So General Patton has never saluted during the act? You've got alot more self-control than I do...
 

Mandos

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Originally posted by: Buck Armstrong
Originally posted by: Mandos
...but she has a fiance and I often wonder how he would feel about it.

Do you really "wonder" how he'd feel about it? Aren't you pretty sure exactly how he'd feel about it?

Originally posted by: Mandos
...but its just wonderful, It's like having a relationship without the sex or lust...She is a dear, and its all innocent..

So General Patton has never saluted during the act? You've got alot more self-control than I do...

Well, from the rumors I've heard, he sounds like an amazing man, the bits of conversation I've seen or heard between them, he's very caring and considerate and a great guy. I really have no idea how he feels, or whether he evenknows Knowing her, I'd say he does know, and just accepts it.

And honestly, and very surprising to myself, I've never got a hardon or anything of the sort with her, and it is very strange to me. I'm a very lustful guy and I've never experienced anything of the sort with her, its just, iunno, different for some reason.
 

mobobuff

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That's a big negatory.

And for those of you stuck on the semantics part of it... the term "let" in the question does not mean physically, insofar as going out of your way to stop it from happening. Rather it means would you still be with that person if they HAD done it. So save the bleeding heart crap, please?
 

xirtam

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Depends on who the friend is, the history with the friend, the definition of "cuddling," the reasons for said cuddling, and...

well, no.

Colorado.
 

0roo0roo

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fack no, thats the exclusive job of the so. if she does that, she better let me tap some ass on the side as fair trade. going outside of relationship for emotional intimacy this is not cool...it is the equivalent of cheating for a woman.

gay man doesn't count though.

ca
 

moshquerade

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hells no - NY

unless it was my best friend and we were drunk and doing a 3some... or somethin :D
 

slickcat

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not in a million years would it be ok with me. She would no longer be my SO if she even bothered to ask me the question and meant it. Friends don't cuddle.
 
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Lola

no, i would say i would be upset if they did, and i would not with anyone else but SO either.
MI
 

purbeast0

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Originally posted by: jagec
Originally posted by: spanky
well i would tell her that i dont feel comfortable with it, but who am i to tell her what she can or cannot do.

So you let her walk all over you?
Would you be OK with her having sex with a male friend of hers? You know, just friendly-like.

sorry jagec. i agree with spanky. i would tell my GF that i am not comfortable with it, but i am not the one who makes her decisions, nor is she the one who makes my decisions.

i would never have to worry about this in the first place anyways, and even if my GF asked me and then i told her it makes me feel uncomfortable, there is no way she would do it. this happens when we go out to bars and clubs and guys will come up and ask her to dance if i'm not around here for a second.

sorry if i'm not insecure about my relationship like some people are :roll:
 

JulesMaximus

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My wife would never ask me that nor would she feel it is even remotely appropriate to do so.

I'm in California BTW.
 

JulesMaximus

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Originally posted by: Mandos
Amazing amazing thing... I'm experiencing something like this, I have a friend who I cuddle with quite a bit, play with her hair, ya know, give her massages, its sorta like we are each others SO's except she draws the line, no kissing, no super intamite moments, no touching anywhere ya know... but its just wonderful, It's like having a relationship without the sex or lust, and I quite enjoy it, but she has a fiance and I often wonder how he would feel about it. He lives 6 hours away, and I also have a friend hwom she treats the same way, whenever we are all watching a movie togehter she kinda takes us both, its pretty nice.

I think she only does it so she has some sort of intamacy and keeps herself faithful to her guy so far away, ya know? She is a dear, and its all innocent..

But if I were asked by my SO, I'd probably say no... I am simply not comfortable enough with it, and I havent got high enough self esteem to let it happen...

That's what Michael Jackson said...