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would you be offended if your SO refused to take your last name?

My post from the thread KarenMarie linked to:
I actually wouldn't blame my fiancee if she wanted to keep her last name. Her last name is Smith, my last name is constantly mispronounced, constantly misspelled (it's only 6 letters!), and it's Spanish so people who've never seen me in person always assume I'm Mexican.
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No. I come from a Chinese family, and in China, women don't change their names when they get married 😛 Of course, this creates some confusion, because my dad doesn't live with me and my mom, because he has a job in Pittsburgh, and we live in Indiana. So, it leads to people thinking that they're divorced...
 
I'd probably be weirded out if she did.

it seems like such a weird situation, and I know that if our positions were reversed, I definitely wouldn't want to change my last name, so why should I expect her to do so?
 
If she refused and put forth a decent argument I guess I could accept it. There really isn't any compelling argument in favor of the way we do it now.

No, I wouldn't be offended.
 
Originally posted by: KarenMarie
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Since I saw ya...
I was going to tell you that a kid I work with has his mother's hyphenated surname. It's Paul-Cook. It's the only time I've ever seen that happen.
Thought you might be interested...
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Originally posted by: loki8481
I'd probably be weirded out if she did.

it seems like such a weird situation, and I know that if our positions were reversed, I definitely wouldn't want to change my last name, so why should I expect her to do so?
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Because you both have been socially conditioned to do so?
 
how can you have a unique last name? surely your parents/siblings had it too?
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And what's so amazing about it that you'd want to defy tradition and possibly insult your husband over it?
 
Originally posted by: t3h l337 n3wb
No. I come from a Chinese family, and in China, women don't change their names when they get married 😛 Of course, this creates some confusion, because my dad doesn't live with me and my mom, because he has a job in Pittsburgh, and we live in Indiana. So, it leads to people thinking that they're divorced...
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Maybe a Asian thing? My girlfriend is from vietnam and as far as I know they, as a whole, don't take the last name. But any children will get the fathers last name. So she has already told me she WILL keep her last name. Mind you we have been going out only 3 months, but we ARE getting married. At leats that is what I have been told. 😕



 
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