would you be offended if your SO refused to take your last name?

[bmacd]

if your gf/fiance refused to take your last name in marriage, could you still be with them?

-=bmacd=-

 

[amol]

No, because I don't think my last name would fit with a lot of names

 

[KarenMarie]

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[mugs]

My post from the thread KarenMarie linked to:

I actually wouldn't blame my fiancee if she wanted to keep her last name. Her last name is Smith, my last name is constantly mispronounced, constantly misspelled (it's only 6 letters!), and it's Spanish so people who've never seen me in person always assume I'm Mexican.

 

[CheesePoofs]

My mother kept her last name when she married my dad. I think I'd be fine with it too.

 

[Amplifier]

If you last name's focker then no.

 

[dug777]

i would be offended, but not THAT offended

 

[Amplifier]

Well Dug777 is a pretty bad last name.

 

[moshquerade]

i have a unique last name. i'm keeping it no matter what.

 

[t3h l337 n3wb]

No. I come from a Chinese family, and in China, women don't change their names when they get married Of course, this creates some confusion, because my dad doesn't live with me and my mom, because he has a job in Pittsburgh, and we live in Indiana. So, it leads to people thinking that they're divorced...

 

[mrrman]

take both names...seems common amongst my friends.

 

[nageov3t]

I'd probably be weirded out if she did.

it seems like such a weird situation, and I know that if our positions were reversed, I definitely wouldn't want to change my last name, so why should I expect her to do so?

 

[JulesMaximus]

If she refused and put forth a decent argument I guess I could accept it. There really isn't any compelling argument in favor of the way we do it now.

No, I wouldn't be offended.

 

[shilala]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
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Since I saw ya...
I was going to tell you that a kid I work with has his mother's hyphenated surname. It's Paul-Cook. It's the only time I've ever seen that happen.
Thought you might be interested...

 

[Jassi]

Whats in a name? .....

</shakespeare>

 

[mugs]

take both names...seems common amongst my friends.

I think it's common when the wife has children from a previous marriage, or when the husband has a vagina.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: loki8481
I'd probably be weirded out if she did.

it seems like such a weird situation, and I know that if our positions were reversed, I definitely wouldn't want to change my last name, so why should I expect her to do so?

Because you both have been socially conditioned to do so?

 

[dug777]

Originally posted by: Amplifier
Well Dug777 is a pretty bad last name.

lmao :laugh:

 

[dug777]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
i have a unique last name. i'm keeping it no matter what.

how can you have a unique last name? surely your parents/siblings had it too?

 

[ElFenix]

getting professional degrees changed is a pain in the ass

 

[StormRider]

As long as I get to make love to her at least once a month then it wouldn't bother me.

 

[mugs]

how can you have a unique last name? surely your parents/siblings had it too?

And what's so amazing about it that you'd want to defy tradition and possibly insult your husband over it?

 

[whistleclient]

no. she's an actress, so she'd want to keep her same name because she's built up her resume with it.

 

[Vette73]

Originally posted by: t3h l337 n3wb
No. I come from a Chinese family, and in China, women don't change their names when they get married Of course, this creates some confusion, because my dad doesn't live with me and my mom, because he has a job in Pittsburgh, and we live in Indiana. So, it leads to people thinking that they're divorced...

Maybe a Asian thing? My girlfriend is from vietnam and as far as I know they, as a whole, don't take the last name. But any children will get the fathers last name. So she has already told me she WILL keep her last name. Mind you we have been going out only 3 months, but we ARE getting married. At leats that is what I have been told.

 

[eLiu]

eh i wouldn't care