They are trying their best to make updates seamless and blind I think, and that's probly just fine for most people not posting on a tech forum since at least they get them now instead of a jacked up computer for something there was a fix released for a year ago.

Every one of you that works on people computers has sat down at one and groaned when it has fiftyhundredmillion updates not installed and is full of malware and BS that could have been at least partially avoided with up to date patching, can you imagine how frustrating and expensive it is for MS to fix stuff (when they do) and then have it STILL be grief and bad PR because people don't use the fix? Absolutely there are growing pains, but mandatory security updates, without asking, in the background, I'm down with that. As a geek I'd like to be involved, but I'll suck it up for the sake of making computers safer and saving hours when I do have to work on one. Yes they are going to screw things up from time to time, they are as human as you or I, but it's a step in the right direction imo.
As to the p2p updates, is it really that hard to verify file integrity? We've been swapping movies and music and software for decades that way and it seems just fine, as long as they are responsible about it I don't see a problem really. I've no doubt some crazy russian hacker or such will find a way to screw it up for everyone from time to time, but I don't think that's a reason not to move forward, only be vigilant.
I'm actually pretty surprised at the big steps MS has taken on several fronts with 10. They are making people think (and complain lol) and I'm sure are spawning ideas for new ways to do things. And that's what progress is about, even if one individual idea does not work out. Look at Google(i'm sure MS has), they have been using us all as beta testers from pretty much day 1 and it's pushed the tech world forward. I'm up for some trouble if it means progress myself.