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Will this relationship last?

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No Lifer
I have a friend who is 30 engaged to a 27 year old. They're getting married in June, been engaged probabaly 3-4 years. They squabble ALL the time. Furthermore she does not want to leave this area in pursuit of better work. Our area kind of sucks job wise, especially for what he does ...so basically he wants to move to get a better job but she absolutely does not (neither of them are making good money and his future is very questionable here).

As far as I can tell they much both think this is all they can do, or in a habit or something...its weird, they've been together a long time, but I know that if I _really_ wanted to move to get work and my wife wanted to sit in a small town because of her family and was content with a small-time job I could not bear it for long.
 
Hey, no one said love is easy. It's a conscious effort to keep it going, and it usually involves compromising.
 
Something's (or someone)got to give eventually. Obviously this is a serious problem (a major conflict of interests/desires) but they are choosing to ignore it in their decision to get married. There are probably deeply rooted issues here that will only start to surface AFTER they get married. Such is the way of 'love'.

Just hope that they iron out their problems before any children arrive...

Some people <cough><cough> are attracted to difficult situations for various personal/subconscious reasons and nothing we can do or say will stop them.

May they be blessed with lots of patience, forgiveness, and insight...



 
I agree, it's all about compromises when you are married. They both need to give a little if they want things to work. If not, maybe they were not meant to be together!:frown:
 
there's a lot more to life than high paying jobs

Family, for one
love, for another
comfort of a small town, plus it's a good place to raise kids

maybe he's the one that should take a look at what's really important
 
Well ok she is making $24k, he is making 30k. He also doesn't like his job much and has no opportunities to find a new one around here...at $55k although its the average family income around here I personally could not live my life on it.
 
Sounds to like she is trying to find an excuse for the relationship to fail... Possible that it has played out...

This is of course based on what you have told me...

😉
 
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