That doesn't make it right.
This is not the time for the military to cling and cave to old prejudices and the mental infancy of some who serve. Our military needs every highly skilled, trainable, and intelligent person it can recruit and retain, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, or various preferences not related to their service.
If someone in the military has a problem sharing close quarters with a gay, bisexual, or transgendered person or cannot deal with other people's sexual and various other preferences, perhaps it's time we stop coddling them and insist, instead, that they grow up and get their sh!t together.
Sure, the military needs highly skilled, trainable, and intelligent people. The jobs have not gotten any easier and the operational tempo requires motivated manpower.
However, military service is not an ordinary job where you leave the workplace and go home to your little cozy refuge of privacy. You are warm bunking, sharing a communal shit, working 18 hours side by side, while in highly stressed situations. There is little to no guarantee of privacy and only unit discipline prevents incidents natural to such conditions.
This means that many jobs are psych screened. This means that those who volunteer are looking for teammates that are simpatico. This means that those who are selected for service abandon much of the individuality they so easily enjoyed as civilians. You are no longer white, black, brown, yellow but green, blue, tan.
One of the advantages of DADT is that sexual orientation is, for practical matters, off the table. You start making it an identifiable distinction and
you are now adding an element of pink that is not in keeping with the valued and valuable homogeneity of the services.
The military population is a young one. People enter in their late teens and the bulk of service people are under thirty. That means testosterone and estrogen are pumping mighty high. Sexuality is both suppressed and exaggerated. Serving in combat operations heightens the tension. Command channels much of it, but not all of it. Whenever it gets out of control there is trouble that no one needs.
Add just one variant to the already heightened sexual tension - homosexuality. How do you deal with this in single sex units, like infantry or armor? (I was going to add subs, but I think they just started opening up slots to females on boats.) Infantry tends to get a lot of violence oriented types (hehehe,) youth means less control of emotion, less mature ways of expressing angst and hierarchical bullying is often a way of life.
We are talking a very small minority population here, three percent or less are identified as homosexual, but if they make a point of their "uniqueness" they will gain the attention they seek and not very pleasant things to follow.
Of course, a good command structure and a good NCO corps will maintain discipline. But why add to the burden by outing this aspect of individuality? Why make sexuality, of all things, the aspect that requires attention? I'd rather concentrate on physical fitness, marksmanship, tactical skill and leadership development.
I keep coming back to DADT as a pretty good interim solution, pending a significant change in how society views sexual orientation. I don't criticize anyone's homosexuality, I just want it out of the workplace. Same for heterosexual misbehavior.
Sexual orientation is irrelevant as to how well you can individually pull a trigger. But the military is not just a collection of individuals, it is
only effective when you can field cohesive units. The jury is still out as to how well the working tip of the spear will function under conditions of enforced sexual political correctness.
Notwithstanding your singular focus on homosexual civil rights, you are generally articulate and thoughtful in your opinions here. I do offer the slippery slope argument, that allowing one variant from heterosexuality implies that other variants also have a claim. Do you see any line out there that should not be crossed, or should all the wide ranging expressions of human sexual impulse be equally protected?