Wife is finally free -- UPDATE 10/9

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I'm just in awe of the formality of it all...

You can't just live your life? It requires an announcement? Seriously... if you leave a church, what can they do? There's no mormon army.

These things blow my mind. One more reason not to live in the states... y'all are crazy.
 

pcgeek11

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Congrats.

To be honest, it's fairly alarming that you have to do anything more than simply stop having anything to do with the church by your own free will. Having to write a letter and threaten legal intervention if otherwise? Exactly what kind of religion is Mormonism, anyway? :eek:

This. What you did makes no sense.
 

child of wonder

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Wow, so you were too busy to send in A LETTER to get YOUR WIFE FREE, from some cult. And you feel this is newsworthy, why, exactly?

You were held powerless by YOU. I laugh out loud (notice I didn't use LOL, but took the time to type it out) at how mentally crippled you are.

Organized religion is for weak people, period, dot.

So glad you could get your WIFE away from the evil, polygamist, child abusing bad aliens. Or something. Congrats on actually realizing you weren't physically incarcerated behind bars. And welcome to 2011. Joseph Smith Jr. says hi.

As I stated earlier, we were willing to put up with it while I worked for the local bishop. Obviously had we sent out the letter then, he would have immediately been informed and I didn't want to risk losing the work.

And as for the last year, we've simply been too lazy to send off the letter. Nothing more.

You, on the other hand, are a fool. Keep your blithering and sophomoric commentary to yourself.
 

waggy

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As I stated earlier, we were willing to put up with it while I worked for the local bishop. Obviously had we sent out the letter then, he would have immediately been informed and I didn't want to risk losing the work.

And as for the last year, we've simply been too lazy to send off the letter. Nothing more.

You, on the other hand, are a fool. Keep your blithering and sophomoric commentary to yourself.

so the church is so dangerous that you have to save her and get her "free" yet you let her stay in such a bad situation for a job?

fucking hypocrite.
 

child of wonder

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This. What you did makes no sense.

If you simply stop attending church, you're marked as "inactive" in the church records. This makes them make more effort to reach out to you to bring you back into the fold.

Per law, if a person tells a church authority they are no longer a member of a church then that's it -- you're no longer a member. The missionaries or visiting teachers knocking on our doors don't qualify as "church authority" so simply telling them we're not members doesn't do anything.

I agree, it's pretty ridiculous one even needs to go to such formal lengths to leave a religion, but Mormonism is, by definition, a cult. It's not your run of the mill church in which if you just stop showing up you're likely not to hear from them again.

Mormonism demands 10% of your gross income in tithing. It's in their financial interests to keep you as an active, tithing member.
 

child of wonder

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so the church is so dangerous that you have to save her and get her "free" yet you let her stay in such a bad situation for a job?

fucking hypocrite.

"Dangerous?" No, try "annoying."

Again, I use the term "free" to simply convey that we don't have to deal with dipshits knocking on our door, calling, or sending letters trying to convince my wife to come to church again.

In an ecclesiastical sense, it's as liberating as putting ourselves on the "Do Not Call" list.
 

dud

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from the Mormon church.

She's wanted to officially quit the church for a while but we never got around to sending in the letter mostly because I was doing IT work for the local bishop and we were afraid I might lose the work if she quit.

Now we've moved away and after several unsolicited visits from local Mormons we finally decided to do it.

She sent a letter to the official record keeping office to declare she's no longer a member. We got a letter back saying they can't remove her name from the records unless a local bishop talks to her first. Only 2 days letter he came by when we weren't home and left a note asking her to call him.

So my wife sends another letter telling them that the moment they received her first letter she was no longer a member and she doesn't need to talk to anyone. If she doesn't receive a letter confirming she is no longer in their records she'll gladly speak to a lawyer or the press.

This weekend she got the confirmation letter in the mail. She hasn't considered herself a member of the church for many years but it's nice to make it official and to be rid of the missionaries and visiting teachers knocking on our door.

Cliffs:

Wife finally left Mormon church officially



Another in a long line of threads where I have to ask what the OP was thinking (if they were at all) when they posted this. Why would you ever think that posting something like this in a public forum was a good idea? What gave you any indication that anyone would care to know this? This is a private issue that is best kept PRIVATE.

Do you want a cookie, a prize ... or what?
 

child of wonder

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Another in a long line of threads where I have to ask what the OP was thinking (if they were at all) when they posted this. Why would you ever think that posting something like this in a public forum was a good idea? What gave you any indication that anyone would care to know this? This is a private issue that is best kept PRIVATE.

Do you want a cookie, a prize ... or what?

Forgive me, but isn't this a discussion board? You know, a place where people talk about various things? This is the "Off Topic" area, right?

I'm simply sharing something that's happened to me in the interest of sparking discussion the same as when someone posts that they got a new job or that they've remodeled their kitchen.

If you don't feel like participating in the discussion then go away.
 

dud

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Forgive me, but isn't this a discussion board? You know, a place where people talk about various things? This is the "Off Topic" area, right?

I'm simply sharing something that's happened to me in the interest of sparking discussion the same as when someone posts that they got a new job or that they've remodeled their kitchen.

If you don't feel like participating in the discussion then go away.



Sorry dude but you're off-the-wall, out-of-this-world amazing (I could have used a few expletives but they would have been wasted on you).

You have joined a select group of what I like to call "Internet fools" who don't have a "filter" to know when to stop. I try my best to keep my private life ... PRIVATE. You (and the rest of the "fools" feel (for some bizarre reason) that it is necessary to post any/all personal information on the Internet. Why? Why would you want to do this? Who would care or want to know this? Does it make yourself feel better to air your (and your wife's) VERY personal information for THOUSANDS OF TOTAL STRANGERS to see?

I have to wonder about the Child of Wonder ...


I am outa here to places were sanity (and common sense) reign ...
 

child of wonder

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Sorry dude but you're off-the-wall, out-of-this-world amazing (I could have used a few expletives but they would have been wasted on you).

You have joined a select group of what I like to call "Internet fools" who don't have a "filter" to know when to stop. I try my best to keep my private life ... PRIVATE. You (and the rest of the "fools" feel (for some bizarre reason) that it is necessary to post any/all personal information on the Internet. Why? Why would you want to do this? Who would care or want to know this? Does it make yourself feel better to air your (and your wife's) VERY personal information for THOUSANDS OF TOTAL STRANGERS to see?

I have to wonder about the Child of Wonder ...


I am outa here to places were sanity (and common sense) reign ...

Since your vehement and passionate responses indicate to me that you have a horse in this religious race, I can only conclude you find the sharing of this information distasteful.

You know what -- leaving a phony and made up cult is no more private than canceling a Netflix subscription. The sad thing is, canceling Netflix is FAR easier.

Do us all a favor and keep your misdirected and pent up anger to yourself. Better yet, sit down with your pastor and discuss it if it bothers you so much.
 
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lol. Let me start it off by saying I do believe in God but distance myself from organized religion because I've found that most involved in organized religion are complete liars, frauds, molesters, etc...

I'm just wondering where you were when your wife decided to join this group of nutjobs?
 

lxskllr

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I'm just wondering where you were when your wife decided to join this group of nutjobs?

Most are born into it, as I was unfortunately born into Catholicism. Some break free, others don't. Me, and Child's wife are free.
 

child of wonder

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Most are born into it, as I was unfortunately born into Catholicism. Some break free, others don't. Me, and Child's wife are free.

Yes, her family is Mormon. She was born into it.

She was never a serious Mormon, but was still indoctrinated. It took a while for her to completely let it go.
 

Pliablemoose

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Another in a long line of threads where I have to ask what the OP was thinking (if they were at all) when they posted this. Why would you ever think that posting something like this in a public forum was a good idea? What gave you any indication that anyone would care to know this? This is a private issue that is best kept PRIVATE.

Do you want a cookie, a prize ... or what?

I find it interesting as hell, thanks for the post CoW, I had no idea Mormons didn't take Benadryl or that it was so difficult to leave the church.
 

maidaa

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I find it interesting as hell, thanks for the post CoW, I had no idea Mormons didn't take Benadryl or that it was so difficult to leave the church.


+1

And i can not understand all the attacks on OP, this is a OT forum, where we discuss things


Thanks OP!
 

Gardener

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I am outa here to places were sanity (and common sense) reign ...

Awesome dud!

Interesting post CoW, I've seen that the Mormon church is far more aggressive than the other major christian sects when it comes to holding onto its membership.

Good on you for handling the issue formally in writing. Do you live in an area with a high percentage of Mormons?
 

brandonb

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People in this thread remind me of Mel Gibson in Braveheart. "Freeeeedommm!" Like church is somehow mandatory, and you are somehow now liberated.

Most churches like you to send a letter so you can get off their mailing lists. Just like any organization, they like to have a membership list. You go, you sign to get on, you leave, you sign to get off the list. Of course they might want to talk to you. Big deal. Tell them you have no interest in being a member and send them on their way.

I love how you guys avoided not talking to the dudes because you feared what exactly?
 

child of wonder

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Awesome dud!

Interesting post CoW, I've seen that the Mormon church is far more aggressive than the other major christian sects when it comes to holding onto its membership.

Good on you for handling the issue formally in writing. Do you live in an area with a high percentage of Mormons?

No higher than most other areas outside of Utah. However, that doesn't stop them from being tenacious.

brandonb said:
People in this thread remind me of Mel Gibson in Braveheart. "Freeeeedommm!" Like church is somehow mandatory, and you are somehow now liberated.

Most churches like you to send a letter so you can get off their mailing lists. Just like any organization, they like to have a membership list. You go, you sign to get on, you leave, you sign to get off the list. Of course they might want to talk to you. Big deal. Tell them you have no interest in being a member and send them on their way.

I love how you guys avoided not talking to the dudes because you feared what exactly?

As I said, up until a year ago I did computer work for a company owned by the local Mormon bishop. Not wanting to risk losing that extra source of income, we put off sending the letter to rescind her membership until losing that extra income no longer mattered. We were willing to put up with the annoyance until then.

Once we moved away, we still got about 4 visits from missionaries, a few letters, and phone calls. Finally a month ago we decided to stop putting it off and send the letter.

Use of the word "freedom" and "liberated" isn't to seriously imply we felt trapped or imprisoned. Just that it feels good to not have to deal with it anymore.
 

waggy

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People in this thread remind me of Mel Gibson in Braveheart. "Freeeeedommm!" Like church is somehow mandatory, and you are somehow now liberated.

Most churches like you to send a letter so you can get off their mailing lists. Just like any organization, they like to have a membership list. You go, you sign to get on, you leave, you sign to get off the list. Of course they might want to talk to you. Big deal. Tell them you have no interest in being a member and send them on their way.

I love how you guys avoided not talking to the dudes because you feared what exactly?

he feared getting fired. so staying in the church was good enough long as they were paying his bills. but when done they finally say she wants out.
 

child of wonder

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he feared getting fired. so staying in the church was good enough long as they were paying his bills. but when done they finally say she wants out.

The church didn't pay any of my bills. I was doing some IT work for a business owned by the bishop.
 

edro

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YESSSS!!!

That means there is a spot open!
My chance to finally become a Mormon is here!
 

PrayForDeath

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Another in a long line of threads where I have to ask what the OP was thinking (if they were at all) when they posted this. Why would you ever think that posting something like this in a public forum was a good idea? What gave you any indication that anyone would care to know this? This is a private issue that is best kept PRIVATE.

Do you want a cookie, a prize ... or what?

If you are not interested in the OP's topic, then how about you leave the thread? Nobody's forcing to read and post here...
 

bignateyk

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Jesus Christ (of latter day saints), that sounds worse than trying to cancel a credit card :biggrin:

"Hi, I'd like to cancel my credit card"

"Are you sure? Why don't I put you on hold so you can speak to my manager first"

"Fuck you, just cancel my god damn credit card"