Wife going on many business trips

[Dari]

Wife got a new job in January and she's been going on so many business trips. Two weeks ago it was California. Tomorrow it'll be Shanghai for a week. Then it'll be Tokyo in two weeks. That means I have to take more care of our son. This is a lot harder than I thought with the wife not being around. Before, things were great. I would play with my son and put him to sleep during the week. On weekends I would play with him. Now I have to leave work early on some days and work from home on others. And I can no longer go drinking after work or eat out. I have to cook. My parents don't return calls because they don't want to deal with winter weather up north and all these business trips are so sudden. I'm also weary of outsiders taking care of my first-born.

There's got to be a better way.

 

[IronWing]

Get a second wife.

 

[T_Yamamoto]

There is no other way. You could take fraternity leave (talk to boss about your situation)

 

[MaxPayne63]

Get a maid and a piece on the side. Problem solved.

 

[Dari]

There is no other way. You could take fraternity leave (talk to boss about your situation)

Fraternity leave? You mean paternity leave. Even if I could it wouldn't look right. Maybe I should just get a skirt.

 

[pontifex]

op sounds like an ass who makes his wife do all the work with his kids.
probably why she got the job with so much travel so she doesn't have to deal with him

 

[HeXen]

Get a maid and a piece on the side. Problem solved.

This, preferably 2 pieces plus the maid on the side.

 

[nanette1985]

Hope you're learning this important lesson - how hard your wife's life is.

 

[Dari]

Get a maid and a piece on the side. Problem solved.

What do you look for in a maid? Someone old? Young? The incident on the Upper Westside where the maid killed the kids she was supposed to be taking care of has reinforced my bias against outsiders.

Hope you're learning this important lesson - how hard your wife's life is.

Yeah, I know. She has so much patience.

 

[Fritzo]

There is no other way. You could take fraternity leave (talk to boss about your situation)

Is that when you ask your boss for time off to party at Tri Cappa Lambda's frat house?

 

[Sahakiel]

Prioritize.
Your career or your child.
Pick one.

 

[Mixolydian]

youre married?

 

[Vdubchaos]

Sorry to hear OP. I would never want my wife (or myself) to have a job that requires travel. Screw that. Was this part of the deal when she took the job or just came out and about out of nowhere?

I would go nuts without her within a day. Not just from a father perspective but husband perspective as well. I just want/need my wife around as much as possible.

Prioritize.
Your career or your child.
Pick one.

Yep. Or better yet, his wife's career.

Hope you're learning this important lesson - how hard your wife's life is.

Any mother's life in general (single or married).

Just keep your head up OP and do your best. Give it time and it will become a routine. It's much easier to deal with it when you simply have no choice...

 

[Slew Foot]

grandparents

 

[UglyCasanova]

How old is your child? I'm mister mom most of the time, and while it does restrict what I can do sometimes and is work for sure, I wouldn't trade it. Enjoy your kids and learn to enjoy cooking is my advice. I don't get to go out drinking anymore either, but my daughter is on the foot of my bed now playing My Little Ponies, she's been having very serious conversations with them for half an hour now.

 

[Vdubchaos]

How old is your child? I'm mister mom most of the time, and while it does restrict what I can do sometimes and is work for sure, I wouldn't trade it. Enjoy your kids and learn to enjoy cooking is my advice. I don't get to go out drinking anymore either, but my daughter is on the foot of my bed now playing My Little Ponies, she's been having very serious conversations with them for half an hour now.

Good points/well said (same here). I hardly ever even want to get out anymore hehe.....he will get there

 

[MarkXIX]

She will cheat on you. Bottom line.

 

[Mixolydian]

Get a new wife.

ftfy

 

[Uppsala9496]

Man up and learn to take care of your kid. Welcome to parenthood.

 

[Dari]

Sorry to hear OP. I would never want my wife (or myself) to have a job that requires travel. Screw that. Was this part of the deal when she took the job or just came out and about out of nowhere?

I would go nuts without her within a day. Not just from a father perspective but husband perspective as well. I just want/need my wife around as much as possible.



Yep. Or better yet, his wife's career.



Any mother's life in general (single or married).

Just keep your head up OP and do your best. Give it time and it will become a routine. It's much easier to deal with it when you simply have no choice...

We agreed that, if I was to work in government, she would get a child since she was afraid of being a childless widow. But I came back without a scratch. Now, she says she did not get a doctorate in statistics for nothing and wants to put it to good use. IMHO, she reneged on the prior agreement but we cannot undo that.

How old is your child? I'm mister mom most of the time, and while it does restrict what I can do sometimes and is work for sure, I wouldn't trade it. Enjoy your kids and learn to enjoy cooking is my advice. I don't get to go out drinking anymore either, but my daughter is on the foot of my bed now playing My Little Ponies, she's been having very serious conversations with them for half an hour now.

3 year old this year.

 

[1sikbITCH]

op sounds like an ass who makes his wife do all the work with his kids.
probably why she got the job with so much travel so she doesn't have to deal with him

Regardless of whatever you perceive the mother thinks of the father, this mother routinely abandons her child for weeks at a time.

WTF.

Edit - I will expand - take the child, go off on you new life. Do not abandon the child.

 

[UglyCasanova]

We agreed that, if I was to work in government, she would get a child since she was afraid of being a childless widow. But I came back without a scratch. Now, she says she did not get a doctorate in statistics for nothing and wants to put it to good use. IMHO, she reneged on the prior agreement but we cannot undo that.



3 year old this year.

That's the best time, look at this as a blessing, enjoy your kid. Sounds like you have a pretty smart wife too. Sucks she had to travel so much, but if she's enjoying you should be happy for her too.

 

[UglyCasanova]

Regardless of whatever you perceive the mother thinks of the father, this mother routinely abandons her child for weeks at a time.

WTF.

Edit - I will expand - take the child, go off on you new life. Do not abandon the child.

She doesn't abandon her child, the child is well cared for and she's earning income for the family. If someone goes off on military duty for months on end, are they abandoning their family? Sometimes in the real world people have to leave for a while.

 

[Vdubchaos]

We agreed that, if I was to work in government, she would get a child since she was afraid of being a childless widow. But I came back without a scratch. Now, she says she did not get a doctorate in statistics for nothing and wants to put it to good use. IMHO, she reneged on the prior agreement but we cannot undo that.

Really? It's better to be a widow with a child than without? Interesting....

Now, she says she did not get a doctorate in statistics for nothing and wants to put it to good use. IMHO, she reneged on the prior agreement but we cannot undo that.

You said doctorate in statistics? Say what?

Also you said Shanghai? Man, knowing Asian business culture that just sounds.....scary (no matter how smart/trustworthy your wife might be).

 

[Greenman]

Do what most people do and pay strangers to raise your kid.