wife changing last name to husband's

[rh71]

Only asking for those who chose to do it. Did your wife (or you if you're the wife) slack on this? It just seems like a major PITA and if I had to change mine on everything, I'd be a little reluctant also. We've been married since 2004 and she still has her maiden name (no hyphenation, etc. and that's not even planned, she will take my name).

Now we have kids coming in a couple months and they'll have my last name. Are we looking at further complications if she doesn't do it before then? If she does it now, wouldn't all her insurance (with all the doctor visits now) be messy? And after birth, scrambling around to change her name will be the last thing on her mind.

- Social security
- credit cards (call each individually?!)
- dmv
- HR at work
- deeds ?
- ... ?

If it were just a couple places, it would be easier. Everything seems so connected to each other that you have to do it at once or not at all.

 

[sdifox]

My wife didn't change her last name. Too much work. Not an issue at all with insurance.

 

[paulxcook]

My wife changed hers, because men are better.

 

[AnnonUSA]

Unless there is a professional reason for her to keep her last name, I believe it shows a lack of respect to you, to not adhere to a common tradition and take your name.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: paulxcook
My wife changed hers, because men are better.

/end thread

 

[kranky]

If she hasn't done it in 4 years, she's not going to do it. But it won't create any additional problems because you have children.

 

[PHiuR]

I wouldn't mind. As long as the kids had my name or at least a joint last name.

 

[Linflas]

It was pretty easy for my wife since she moved from Canada to the US 3 days after our wedding. She never had to do the change of name thing since she did not exist in any records here.

 

[vi edit]

My wife changed hers. I don't remember it being that big of a burden. She just made a list on a piece of paper of all the things that needed updated (accounts, utilities, contracts, ect). It took a few weeks to get all of them done but the hardest part was just getting ahold of CSR's that knew what to the first time.

 

[JDub02]

My wife changed hers. Pretty simple overall. She'll need a new social security card. Just fill out a form with a number off of your marraige license and turn it in at your local social security office. Her name is changed at his point.

Head off to the DMV with the new social security card for a driver's license.
Call credit card companies to get name changed on CC's.

 

[BornStar]

My wife took my last name as soon as we got married. Had she waited much longer it would have been a lot more difficult for professional reasons.

 

[rh71]

Originally posted by: kranky
If she hasn't done it in 4 years, she's not going to do it. But it won't create any additional problems because you have children.

The thing is having the children under my name will make her feel more motivated to do it. She talks about it but it's not as simple as talking and making it happen. I know that it's not that she's unwilling... if it can be done online, it would be done.

At least you answered the question about the kids since that's why I posted to begin with.

 

[waggy]

my wife changed last names. i don't recall it being that hard at all. just filled out some paperwork with proof of marriage. in fact i think it was rather easy

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: kranky
If she hasn't done it in 4 years, she's not going to do it. But it won't create any additional problems because you have children.

unless she wants the kids to take her name instead of yours...


my ex still has my last name and we have been apart for a couple years.

 

[TwiceOver]

After you get the forms it doesn't take that long to change everything else.

 

[vi edit]

Originally posted by: BornStar
My wife took my last name as soon as we got married. Had she waited much longer it would have been a lot more difficult for professional reasons.

Good point. We purposely got married before my wife graduated with her degree/license to make that part a lot easier.

 

[rasczak]

Originally posted by: rh71
Only asking for those who chose to do it. Did your wife (or you if you're the wife) slack on this? It just seems like a major PITA and if I had to change mine on everything, I'd be a little reluctant also. We've been married since 2004 and she still has her maiden name (no hyphenation, etc. and that's not even planned, she will take my name).

Now we have kids coming in a couple months and they'll have my last name. Are we looking at further complications if she doesn't do it before then? If she does it now, wouldn't all her insurance (with all the doctor visits now) be messy? And after birth, scrambling around to change her name will be the last thing on her mind.

- Social security
- credit cards (call each individually?!)
- dmv
- HR at work
- deeds ?
- ... ?

If it were just a couple places, it would be easier. Everything seems so connected to each other that you have to do it at once or not at all.

my wife did the same thing, she procrastinated til the very end. finally when we were going to have our first kid she made the name change.

 

[SpunkyJones]

I don't remember my wife having that much trouble changing her name, and believe me, if she had a problem she would have let me known about it.

 

[Vehemence]

Lazy bitch needs to know her role!

 

[jonks]

Originally posted by: AnnonUSA
Unless there is a professional reason for her to keep her last name, I believe it shows a lack of respect to you, to not adhere to a common tradition and take your name.

1955 :roll:

 

[PricklyPete]

My wife did it in like 2 days tops. She may have one credit card left with her old name on it...but it never gets used and she's just slack on closing it. It isn't that big a deal. No reason to procrastinate.

In the long list of things you have to do in life...this seems like one of the easier ones.

 

[JulesMaximus]

My wife took my last name when we were married.

Why didn't she just do it then?

BTW-When my Mom married her husband they both took her maiden name so they both changed their names. :laugh:

 

[Raizinman]

Sometimes it good to change your last name.

My wifes first name is Tootie.

My last name is Fruite.

See how taking on your husbands name can be good? She is the life of the party and when restaurants call her name, everyone looks.

 

[Vette73]

My wife kept her name. Kids will have mine. Seems more common over seas, she being from Vietnam.

 

[lokiju]

Sure it's some work but it's not that hard man.

My wife had everything change within a few months after we were married.

You just have to show most place your marriage license and they'll change it.