Why womans always interested in you when your not available???

[CHfan4ever]

Call me crazy but i am the only one who see that womens give you interest when you are not available?

Your in a relationship, all the girls around with smile at you, even ask you out!Your relationship is over?Bah...you dont look interesting..

Am i the only one that see that happenning????

Why girls why??

 

[quakefiend420]

they want what they think they can't have...liek the thrill of the chase, etc. etc.

 

[Queasy]

I think it is one of Murphy's Laws.

 

[Amused]

Because you don't look so desperate and pathetic then.

Think of how you act when you're hooked up, and act that way when you're single.

 

[loic2003]

They see that you have a g/f and realise that you must have a decent enough personality, they know then you must be pretty decent.

Also, you have more confidence talking to other women when you're going out with someone as there's no undertone that you're hitting on them since you already have a woman.

This is my experience anyhow...

 

[phisrow]

The theory I've generally heard is that in absence of certain information(and interpersonal interactions generally occur in such an absence) people are quite sensitive to social signals. If a person has no particular reason to think well or ill you you as a romantic object, they are quite likely to interpret someone else's expressed interest in you as a sign that you are interesting, and respond occordingly(and the opposite, in cases without expressed interest).
Beyond that, people generally suffer from selective memory, so it is quite likely that your perception isn't entirely objective.
I don't think that this phenomenon is exclusive to females, by any means, as it relies upon generally valid human responses to limited data.

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: loic2003
They see that you have a g/f and realise that you must have a decent enough personality, they know then you must be pretty decent.

Also, you have more confidence talking to other women when you're going out with someone as there's no undertone that you're hitting on them since you already have a woman.

This is my experience anyhow...

Some guys still try to pick up women even if they are already in a relationship.

Same goes for women picking up men.

 

[Gravity]

Wait until you get married!!!

The ring seems like a magnet.

Also, you can take a look at yourself and see if you are giving off signals of "availability."

Heck, you might be so smokin hot that there's no way they can help themselves. You may have to learn to live with it.

 

[PingSpike]

I think its because I'm not such a bitter douchebag now that I have some one decent.

 

[StageLeft]

Originally posted by: quakefiend420
they want what they think they can't have...liek the thrill of the chase, etc. etc.

Also they know there is not committment or anything. I was at a bar with some guys and noted that these guys, who definitely are not stylin', had no problems at all dancing with women and I came to the conclusion that if you're married it's really easy to get chicks!

Because you don't look so desperate and pathetic then.

Think of how you act when you're hooked up, and act that way when you're single.

That too!

 

[StageLeft]

Originally posted by: Gravity
Wait until you get married!!!

The ring seems like a magnet.

Also, you can take a look at yourself and see if you are giving off signals of "availability."

Heck, you might be so smokin hot that there's no way they can help themselves. You may have to learn to live with it.

I think that a lot of single guys looking to hookup shoulid seriously consider getting a cheap wedding band.

 

[quakefiend420]

Originally posted by: Skoorb

Originally posted by: Gravity
Wait until you get married!!!

The ring seems like a magnet.

Also, you can take a look at yourself and see if you are giving off signals of "availability."

Heck, you might be so smokin hot that there's no way they can help themselves. You may have to learn to live with it.

I think that a lot of single guys looking to hookup shoulid seriously consider getting a cheap wedding band.

LOL

 

[cerebusPu]

i think its something about preceived interest and social proof. when lacking direct evidence, people tend to rely on other peoples opinions to make an opinion about you.

 

[richardycc]

no kidding, I think its the same way why gay guys have more female friends, because the chicks dont look at him as a threat (trying to get into their pants), so they are more friendly toward them...

 

[jessicak]

The same thing happens to us females. Once you get one guy to like you, more and more begin to.

 

[Trygve]

A lot of people do believe in the "all the good ones are taken" line--I've known some women who would flat-out refuse to consider dating someone who wasn't already involved (because if he's available, there must obviously be something wrong with him).

In my experience, the critical part is whether they know if I'm in a relationship or not. I might have known them for a while, but it's not until they know I'm "taken" that I suddenly become attractive and appealing. Same thing with breaking up. If they think I'm still with so-and-so, the appeal lingers on...but when they find out that I'm available, the previous offers and expressions of interest turn into "oh. um. never mind."

So, obviously, the thing to do is either 1) invent a fictional SO or 2) just be open to dating several women at once.

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: Trygve
A lot of people do believe in the "all the good ones are taken" line--I've known some women who would flat-out refuse to consider dating someone who wasn't already involved (because if he's available, there must obviously be something wrong with him).

In my experience, the critical part is whether they know if I'm in a relationship or not. I might have known them for a while, but it's not until they know I'm "taken" that I suddenly become attractive and appealing. Same thing with breaking up. If they think I'm still with so-and-so, the appeal lingers on...but when they find out that I'm available, the previous offers and expressions of interest turn into "oh. um. never mind."

So, obviously, the thing to do is either 1) invent a fictional SO or 2) just be open to dating several women at once.

I be thinking that you might want to stay away from women that are only attracted to you when you are already in a relationship.

That's highly mentally, psychologically, and emotionally unhealthy! I wouldn't want to date a woman who is only attracted to me when i"m actually with someone.

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: Trygve
A lot of people do believe in the "all the good ones are taken" line--I've known some women who would flat-out refuse to consider dating someone who wasn't already involved (because if he's available, there must obviously be something wrong with him).

In my experience, the critical part is whether they know if I'm in a relationship or not. I might have known them for a while, but it's not until they know I'm "taken" that I suddenly become attractive and appealing. Same thing with breaking up. If they think I'm still with so-and-so, the appeal lingers on...but when they find out that I'm available, the previous offers and expressions of interest turn into "oh. um. never mind."

So, obviously, the thing to do is either 1) invent a fictional SO or 2) just be open to dating several women at once.

I be thinking that you might want to stay away from women that are only attracted to you when you are already in a relationship.

That's highly mentally, psychologically, and emotionally unhealthy! I wouldn't want to date a woman who is only attracted to me when i"m actually with someone.

Yeah, I don't think you're really losing out having those women not attracted to you.

 

[Promethply]

Probably now they're confident that you're a good catch, since another woman already wants you

 

[huesmann]

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
I be thinking that you might want to stay away from women that are only attracted to you when you are already in a relationship.

That's highly mentally, psychologically, and emotionally unhealthy! I wouldn't want to date a woman who is only attracted to me when i"m actually with someone.

Date them? Just bang them!

 

[StageLeft]

YOU'RE

 

[tikwanleap]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
YOU'RE

BWAHAHAHAAHA.

:beer:

 

[Bryophyte]

They don't really want to date you, they just like flirting. It's safe to flirt with you when you're in a relationship because you won't do anything about it, but when you're single, you might fvck up the game by actually trying to date them.