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Why is it some really ugly/out of shape people won't settle with "equal" mates

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etalns

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Why is it that some really unattractive/large people seem to think they're better than others who are of the same physique. I'm not saying looks are everything, but they are obviously important. Some of them sit there and laugh at any large or ugly girl that gets suggested and say they'd never go out with so and so, when they're easily uglier...it baffles me.

Skywalker66, this is directed to you.
 
Defense mechanism, repression, denial, whatever you wanna call it. I know plenty of people of like that.

Are there any pics of skywalker?
 
Originally posted by: bleeb
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Why? I've found that its certainly not untrue. I know quite a few very unattractive people that seem to think that they are above going out with their "type".
 
Originally posted by: bleeb
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I'm just tired of people who are horrendously unattractive saying that they wouldn't go out with anyone who is ugly, or fat...when they themselves are no picture of paradise.
 
I think it has to do with the fact they are probably insecure about themselves so they look to belittle others (to improve their own self esteem) or to find someone who is better looking than them... which almost everyone does. No one wants to be attracted to someone who isn't beautiful ya know? Of course this is on a much superficial level.
 
Originally posted by: bleeb
I think it has to do with the fact they are probably insecure about themselves so they look to belittle others (to improve their own self esteem) .
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Strangely, most appropriate for this board. I've never seen a bigger collection of judgmental pricks than here. Obviously this isn't true for everyone that posts here....but by and large, the collection of posters here seems to hate the overweight, ugly, non-genius, smoking, religous, domestic driving, etc...

I'm guilty of acting the same way on occasion but I try to keep myself in check. A good portion of my friends (real friends, that I would kill or die for) are people that would cause most of the members here to drown in a rainstorm.
 
Originally posted by: Qosis
Originally posted by: bleeb
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I'm just tired of people who are horrendously unattractive saying that they wouldn't go out with anyone who is ugly, or fat...when they themselves are no picture of paradise.
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Yes I'm also curious why people would want to date someone attractive. Can anyone help unravel this mystery?

 
Originally posted by: Qosis
Why is it that some really unattractive/large people seem to think they're better than others who are of the same physique. I'm not saying looks are everything, but they are obviously important. Some of them sit there and laugh at any large or ugly girl that gets suggested and say they'd never go out with so and so, when they're easily uglier...it baffles me.

Skywalker66, this is directed to you.
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Actually many people think looks are dead last in importance, or close to it. Or, if that's too much to swallow, they at least believe that this narcisistic drive toward illusory societal 'ideal's is a very large part of everything wrong with our nation. In other words, a lot of people don't like what you like so get over yourself.
 
Originally posted by: PrinceofWands
Originally posted by: Qosis
Why is it that some really unattractive/large people seem to think they're better than others who are of the same physique. I'm not saying looks are everything, but they are obviously important. Some of them sit there and laugh at any large or ugly girl that gets suggested and say they'd never go out with so and so, when they're easily uglier...it baffles me.

Skywalker66, this is directed to you.
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Actually many people think looks are dead last in importance, or close to it. Or, if that's too much to swallow, they at least believe that this narcisistic drive toward illusory societal 'ideal's is a very large part of everything wrong with our nation. In other words, a lot of people don't like what you like so get over yourself.
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That's just something ugly people say.

 
It's instinct, motivated by preservation of the species.

People who are "unfit" seek mates that are much better than themselves in order to dilute the undesirable genes while preserving any genes that might be useful. It's hit and miss, but that's the basic idea.

If you believe in breeding instinct anyway.
 
Originally posted by: yukichigai
It's instinct, motivated by preservation of the species.

People who are "unfit" seek mates that are much better than themselves in order to dilute the undesirable genes while preserving any genes that might be useful. It's hit and miss, but that's the basic idea.

If you believe in breeding instinct anyway.
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It's NOT instinct.. if you look at a female passing for attractive in the 1800's vs. today's ideal, they're nothing alike. Thus, it's what society tells us is attractive.

Not everyone is so shallow to base their dating upon looks. If you do, you're in for quite a disappointment in about 15 years after you have a couple of children and the breasts start to sag and the butt starts getting bigger and the butt starts to sag and. . .

Personally, I've always found looks to be secondary.. I've been married to a woman who 15 years ago I'd have considered to be quite a bit above average (and consider myself just average). But, I've dated drop dead gorgeous (too bad they didn't have my wife's personality) and I've dated ugly (again, they didn't have the personality either.)
 
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