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Do we all share a defective gene that predisposes us to be selfish, intolerant, unaccepting, uncaring, impatient, and narrowminded? 
Why is it so difficult for humans to be nice to one another?
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Shut up, its mine! Im tired of stupid posts like this, your too short to post here!, whatever!, come on already!, It has to be this way because.. It just is!
It's Human nature.
Besides, if every single individual of one species would be nice against everyone else, this species would become extinct rather soon. Sometimes you've got to be mean to survive.
Besides, if every single individual of one species would be nice against everyone else, this species would become extinct rather soon. Sometimes you've got to be mean to survive.
A good question would be why is it so easy to find people who will be rude to and steal from or otherwise screw you?
I hate being constantly on my guard against people like that.
I hate being constantly on my guard against people like that.
First rule of people: They're greedy and stupid.
Second rule of people: They are ruled by fear, however sublimated.
Understand this, and be willing to capitalize on it, and you will be a very rich person.
Now, given that I personally find it amazing and encouraging that we all get along as much as we do. Things like school shootings get lots of press, but I'm honestly dumbfounded that they aren't more commonplace worldwide. It just points to the fact that people, despite being greedy and stupid are generally pretty nice and don't want trouble.
Second rule of people: They are ruled by fear, however sublimated.
Understand this, and be willing to capitalize on it, and you will be a very rich person.
Now, given that I personally find it amazing and encouraging that we all get along as much as we do. Things like school shootings get lots of press, but I'm honestly dumbfounded that they aren't more commonplace worldwide. It just points to the fact that people, despite being greedy and stupid are generally pretty nice and don't want trouble.
<< Besides, if every single individual of one species would be nice against everyone else, this species would become extinct rather soon. Sometimes you've got to be mean to survive. >>
For other species, yes. But I guarantee that if humanity was rid of hate and anger towards each other then the world would become a much better place to live in
<< Things like school shootings get lots of press, but I'm honestly dumbfounded that they aren't more commonplace worldwide. >>
One word: culture.
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<< Besides, if every single individual of one species would be nice against everyone else, this species would become extinct rather soon. Sometimes you've got to be mean to survive. >>
For other species, yes. But I guarantee that if humanity was rid of hate and anger towards each other then the world would become a much better place to live in >>
It's not easy to accomplish this. In fact, I'd be surprised to see it happen within the next 200 years.
Many people mistake kindness for weakness. They think a gentle manner is synonymous with a submissive and ineffectual personality, and that can be the farthest thing from the truth.
It's usually quite a shock for people to discover that while I may possess a compassionate nature, I also set definite boundaries and I do not tolerate disrespectful, malicious behavior.
Generally speaking, all the people in my life are relatively nice people because that's who I choose to surround myself with.
It's usually quite a shock for people to discover that while I may possess a compassionate nature, I also set definite boundaries and I do not tolerate disrespectful, malicious behavior.
Generally speaking, all the people in my life are relatively nice people because that's who I choose to surround myself with.
<< Many people mistake kindness for weakness. They think a gentle manner is synonymous with a submissive and ineffectual personality, and that can be the farthest thing from the truth.
It's usually quite a shock for people to discover that while I may possess a compassionate nature, I also set definite boundaries and I do not tolerate disrespectful, malicious behavior.
Generally speaking, all the people in my life are relatively nice people because I won't waste my time on assholes. >>
I'm exactly the same way.
"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me!" I'm a fast learner. I don't let it happen.
Animosity breeds more animosity. Someone pisses you off. So you become an angry mofo, so you piis someone else off....and on and on it goes until someone loses an eye or hits hit in the face with a masonry hammer or hacked with a meat cleaver, or something along those lines. Isn't violence fun?
In "Brave New World" everyone is nice to everyone else, everyone is happy (almost). There is no war, no crime. BNW
If we could all accept that we are who we are, and we accept that we all have limitations the world would be a better place. Honesty is treated with scorn because people have become accustomed to "user-friendliness", that is, we must act nice to each other and tell each other what we believe they should hear.
People are generally jerks because they feel that they need to prove something to those around them. People live their lives in terms of other people instead of in terms of themselves, it leads to unnecessary competition.
If we could all accept that we are who we are, and we accept that we all have limitations the world would be a better place. Honesty is treated with scorn because people have become accustomed to "user-friendliness", that is, we must act nice to each other and tell each other what we believe they should hear.
People are generally jerks because they feel that they need to prove something to those around them. People live their lives in terms of other people instead of in terms of themselves, it leads to unnecessary competition.
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<< Do we all share a defective gene that predisposes us to be selfish, intolerant, unaccepting, uncaring, impatient, and narrowminded? >>
Everything a human does is selfish in some way.
yllus
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<< In "Brave New World" everyone is nice to everyone else, everyone is happy (almost). There is no war, no crime. BNW >>
BNW is a world free from individuality, free from truth, a world where measured IQ is quite low and happiness is maintained by pharmaceutical means. Uh, this is not the perfect world I'm hoping for.
My take is humans strive to be better than one another in every capacity possible - this engenders hostility and it leapfrogs from there. Also, nice is boring and most of us hate boring.
<< Also, nice is boring and most of us hate boring >>
LOL, I am 'nice' and have never been accused of being boring! In fact, I've been a bit too exciting and stimulating for some tastes. Being nice does not mean being milquetoast... I'm as wild a woman as any could handle but I still strive to be conscientious and caring. Howver, sometimes being "nice" is not being good at all. You can give your kids candy all day long because you are being 'nice' but really you are being stupid and indulgent. "Nice" is not really a good word for what we are really talking about, which is moral development....
Consider Kohlberg's Theory of Moral Development.
You can strive to be a Nazi or you can look to the Ghandis and Mother Theresas of the world for your inspiration...
Some of us think that the really, truly boring people are the assholes, not the 'good guys'. Assholes are predictable, where it can be kind of exciting to see a nice person lose their composure.
After all, nice people struggle with the darker side of themselves, too.... the difference is, they have the mettle to overcome the baser drives. A lot depends on how you define and understand power. Some see power as cruelty and brute strength while others see it as the ability to inspire the best in others.
Hayabusa Rider
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No, not in Matrix. it was Clockwork Orange. What was done there and a lobotomy for everyone would eliminate all those embassing emotions some would like to sweep under the rug. The fault Horatio is not in society, but in ourselves. So you teach kids how to deal with these feelings, not try to make friggin Vulcans out of them.
Geekbabe
Moderator Emeritus<br>Elite Member
<< Many people mistake kindness for weakness. They think a gentle manner is synonymous with a submissive and ineffectual personality, and that can be the farthest thing from the truth.
It's usually quite a shock for people to discover that while I may possess a compassionate nature, I also set definite boundaries and I do not tolerate disrespectful, malicious behavior.
Generally speaking, all the people in my life are relatively nice people because that's who I choose to surround myself with. >>
Amen Isla !!!
<--- knew she felt a kindred spirit lurking around here
AreaCode707
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I think it's human nature to act that way... our first natural priority is to look out for number one, which of course collides with the desires of others to look out for themselves. People pursue their objectives and when they cross objectives with someone else, they seek to overrun and conquer the people whose objectives oppose theirs. So, change your objectives to instead serve others and those problems are on the way to being resolved.
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