Why I don't use facebook anymore

[Dark4ng3l]

http://mashable.com/2010/04/10/facebook-dating/

That article is spot on. Reading it reminded me of my relationship with my ex who was a girl that I knew in high school that reconnected with me me through facebook after we ended up seeing each other again at the funeral of a mutual high school friend who killed herself... Doesn't help that it was a long distance relationship between 2 manic depressive 22 year olds with almost 0 free time between college, work and driving 3 hours to spend time with each other.

Right from the first point I see myself doing that stupid thing. We could only really talk during the evening and I spent so much time analyzing the stupid updates for no reason lol. The came the Big Bang Theory video and it reminded me of how I switched my status before her and she ended up removing her family from her friends before accepting because she didn't want them to find out through facebook...

So do any of you guys have some crazy/stupid facebook affecting your relationships stories?

 

[Homerboy]

http://mashable.com/2010/04/10/facebook-dating/

That article is spot on. Reading it reminded me of my relationship with my ex who was a girl that I knew in high school that reconnected with me me through facebook after we ended up seeing each other again at the funeral of a mutual high school friend who killed herself... Doesn't help that it was a long distance relationship between 2 manic depressive 22 year olds with almost 0 free time between college, work and driving 3 hours to spend time with each other.

Right from the first point I see myself doing that stupid thing. We could only really talk during the evening and I spent so much time analyzing the stupid updates for no reason lol. The came the Big Bang Theory video and it reminded me of how I switched my status before her and she ended up removing her family from her friends before accepting because she didn't want them to find out through facebook...

So do any of you guys have some crazy/stupid facebook affecting your relationships stories?

no.
I'm a grown adult and use Facebook and tend to have mature relationships in my life.

 

[rockyct]

The overall level of maturity on your facebook is basically the level of the least mature person in your group of friends. Hopefully everyone has left that drama at their high school, but many in college (and after) do not, and that's the source of the drama. Facebook does not directly create fake drama, but it can bring the drama out. If you didn't have Facebook, you'd obsess about something else like a text or a voicemail.

 

[destrekor]

southpark beat you to it

 

[JM Aggie08]

No. I don't suck.

 

[Matthiasa]

This topic... so original.

 

[dennilfloss]

The overall level of maturity on your Facebook is basically the level of the least mature person in your group of friends.

OMG!! In my case, that means Nik! D:

 

[JM Aggie08]

OMG!! In my case, that means Nik! D:

:awe:

 

[guyver01]

So do any of you guys have some crazy/stupid facebook affecting your relationships stories?

no. because, as someone older than 12, i don't let an online website affect real life relationships.

 

[Sumguy]

Uh...me and my friends mostly just use Facebook to set up events and trade random funny shit we find on the internet. My more mature friends debate about things in notes.

Don't know about any of this drama bullshit, because when someone doesn't like someone else they *gasp* don't fucking friend them.

 

[adlep]

Don't talk about Facebook

 

[Key West]

Listen, no one gives a shit if you use or don't use facebook.

Most of us use it as a just another social medium to have fun with. I go out with my friends, call my friends, text my friends, & facebook my friends.

How does the user's suckability have anything to do with fb?

 

[djheater]

no.
I'm a grown adult and use Facebook and tend to have mature relationships in my life.

Agreed.

 

[theflyingpig]

no.
I'm a grown adult and use Facebook and tend to have mature relationships in my life.

Link to your facebook for proof.

 

[gorcorps]

From the sounds of it, facebook is NOT the problem... you (and her) are. You both have some weird fucking issues man, really.

 

[Rumpltzer]

Using Facebook would allow the government and alien overlords to be better able to read my mind.

It would also allow me to be more easily found by ex-gfs... and then I'd have to post about the consequences on ATOT.

 

[tcsenter]

They missed #6: publicly professing or sharing things with 200 friends - many of whom may be co-workers or people you rarely see - that traditionally are shared only with a small handful of your close day-to-day friends.

e.g. A few of my female FB friends start bubbling and cooing on Facebook over the guy at date #2 or #3. Putting pictures of them on their Wall, so on and so forth, as though they had just gotten engaged or something. Worse, they would post some status update like "Soooo happy" and their friends would post replies like "Congratulations!" or "I'm soo happy for you!". Date #3, are you kidding me? How happy can you be?

Sure nuff (as any person could reasonably predict), it was far too much too fast for the guy's comfort level and they would bail. A few days later, the friend was back to their 'guys suck, blah blah blah' posts. Completely clueless.

PSA for women: We don't generally like the "Hello World, Meet My New BF!" treatment until we've been dating a few weeks. Date #2, #3, or #4 isn't enough to start sending out the public announcements. We figure you're talking about it with a small number of good friends, and that's all.

 

[zerocool84]

How about you use everything maturely and then you won't have and problems? If you're so immature that it's affecting your life then Facebook isn't the problem.

 

[tcsenter]

They missed #6: publicly professing or sharing things with 200 friends - many of whom may be co-workers or people you rarely see - that traditionally are shared only with a small handful of your close day-to-day friends

Oops, I guess they did cover this a little under #3. My bad.

 

[Pegun]

http://mashable.com/2010/04/10/facebook-dating/

That article is spot on. Reading it reminded me of my relationship with my ex who was a girl that I knew in high school that reconnected with me me through facebook after we ended up seeing each other again at the funeral of a mutual high school friend who killed herself... Doesn't help that it was a long distance relationship between 2 manic depressive 22 year olds with almost 0 free time between college, work and driving 3 hours to spend time with each other.

Right from the first point I see myself doing that stupid thing. We could only really talk during the evening and I spent so much time analyzing the stupid updates for no reason lol. The came the Big Bang Theory video and it reminded me of how I switched my status before her and she ended up removing her family from her friends before accepting because she didn't want them to find out through facebook...

So do any of you guys have some crazy/stupid facebook affecting your relationships stories?

If drama is going to be caused by people on facebook, they don't deserve to be my "friends" and I delete them/restrict it so they can't see anything on my profile.

 

[speedy2]

From the sounds of it, facebook is NOT the problem... you (and her) are. You both have some weird fucking issues man, really.

Exactly. Facebook wouldn't suck so much if it weren't for the retards all on it. This is just like saying guns kill people. User error people....user error.

 

[meltdown75]

I bet the author of that article has a lot of profile pics.

 

[Genx87]

Sadly I have witnessed this with friends. And these are people who are in their early 30s. Facebook is a place for the attention starved to display their insecurities.

 

[meltdown75]

Sadly I have witnessed this with friends. And these are people who are in their early 30s. Facebook is a place for the attention starved to display their insecurities.

it's also a place for people to showcase who they want everyone on their friend list to believe they are.

for example, i have a friend that constantly updates his status re: his daughter. "taking my daughter to the park"... "my daughter is sick " ... "i have my daughter all week"

the reason he does this is because he wants to make his ex look like a crappy parent. it's way way wayyyyyy too obvious, and i would put my life savings on it.

i usually try to do a funny or quirky status update.

the dumbest thing i ever did was change my profile pic to a doormat when my ex left me. that got me a lot of attention, and now that i look back at it, i wanted people to side with me and was playing the victim.

a good rule of thumb is... if someone else were to do it and it would annoy you... then don't do it. as a result, most of my updates nowadays are about fast food, or bacon.

 

[thraashman]

I love all the people trying to claim that they don't do this dramatic crap or the Facebook bragging. I've posted on ATOT enough to know that less than 1% of this community is capable of not joining every internet trend they find. I have tons of friends I've seen do this dramatic shit on Facebook. I posted a a Calvin & Hobbes quote as my status only to have friends not realize what it was and think I was depressed.