Why does CHRISTIANITY condemn SEX before marriage?

[eigen]

Because it affirms living a life ( your own) on this earth.The act is selfish and does not affirm or reinforce ties to a collective body ( the church)

 

[Tetsuo]

Originally posted by: y2kc
wear your hat (condom) and get some, when you are done, ask jesus to forgive you and you're all set.

lol, repent!

 

[WayneTeK]

thanks for all your replies guys.. it means a lot. thank you.

 

[Gravity]

Well, sex with your wife, after you are married is God's plan for you. If you give that up, then you are gonna miss out on the best plan.

There are lots of reasons that pre-marital sex is wrong. One of the reasons is that you chemically bond to the person you have sex with. Believe it or not, there is a chemical exchange that emotionally bonds you to your sex partner. Do you want to be bonded to someone other than your wife? Do you want to have the memory of the first woman constantly reminding you of your impurity?

Micah 6:8 reminds us....."he has shown you oh man, what is good, and what does the Lord require of you? To love mercy, to act justly and to walk humbly with the Lord your God.

BTW, you think Jesus had sex? Hm? No. If you are a Christian, follow in His ways.

 

[Gravity]

Originally posted by: Dacalo
It all depends on your beliefs.

I was not raised as a Christian, but I recently converted. I am 24 and I am still a virgin.

Sure, sleeping around is frowned upon in Korea, but that is changing, as a lot of junior high and high kids are sleeping around.

I have had more than a dozen oppotunities to sleep with girls, but everytime, I have resisted.
Sure, it is difficult I must admit, but I stick by my beliefs and I am saving my virginity for my wife.

Dude, the reward for your obedience is coming. Be patient, what your God has in store for you has been missed/will be missed by almost everyone in this forum. Stay pure!!

 

[TekDemon]

Originally posted by: TekDemon
OMG I just realized that he uses Tek in his username and mine is Tekdemon. Oh god...

Does this mean that all asian geeks who were brought up in a household that caused sexual repression put Tek in their usernames?!?

NOooOOOOoooOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

man I don't even get a chuckle from this?
I guess everybody's hell bent on focusing on the religious part of his problem =p and not the asian part. Oh well.

I will just have to rep the asian repression 1000% to make up for it =p

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: Rob9874

Originally posted by: DougK62

Originally posted by: EmperorRob

Originally posted by: Citrix
11:7 The pig is unclean to you because its hoof is divided (the hoof is completely split in two9), even though it does not chew the cud.10 11:8 You must not eat from their meat and you must not touch their carcasses;11 they are unclean to you.

Acts 10:13 - Then a voice told him, "Get up, Peter. Kill and eat." Surely not, Lord!" Peter replied. "I have never eaten anything impure or unclean." The voice spoke to him a second time, "Do not call anything impure that God has made clean."

So if they're both legit quotes then which one is right? Was your god confused when he wrote it? Or maybe it's just been so jacked up over the years that we have NO IDEA what the "original" Bible said. So how can this bastardized Bible be taken seriously?

I would venture to guess that once Jesus came, it changed some of the rules and laws of the Old Testament.

Jebus was a virgin, he never came!

 

[StevenYoo]

Originally posted by: Rob9874
Sorry if my point didn't make sense. Yes, I enjoy sex. And I didn't mean sex is less enjoyable if you have it before marriage. But I'm talking about the sacredness of sex is lost when it is an act we've done with strangers/acquaintences. You have to be able to understand sex beyond the physical pleasure. To me, it means more if it's something you've only shared with one person. I know, you won't be any good at it. But again, let's get past the physical pleasure, and think of it as an emotional act. I don't think many people can do that anymore. Sex no longer has value beyond the surface level.

Think of it this way (assuming you have a wife that you love more than anything), doesn't it feel good to give your wife something you've had to save up to buy? And the more sacrifice you put into it, the better the gift. If you had to save for 4 years to buy her a new car, it means alot to her. It shows that she means something to you. Well, when you can give your wife your virginity, it's something you've been saving your whole life for her, even before you knew her. It shows her how important she is to you. If you buy her a card, or give her a kiss, that's nice, but you' ve probably done that with all your girlfriends. But sex is the one thing that she can say is exclusively hers.

I know this sounds corny, but maybe one ATOT member can see my point. I don't mean to say premarital sex is bad. I'm merely explaining why I wish I would have waited. The enjoyment I got from my premarital sex does not outweight the feeling of regret. I know this much, I wish my wife had waited for me. The thought of her naked with past boyfriends makes me sick! 🙂

very well said, IMO. :beer:

 

[Czesia]

According to the Christian belief, sex should be saved for marriage. As far as I'm concerned, it actually makes alot of sense, whether the people in this forum choose to believe in Jesus or not. First of all, why take a chance of contracting or passing on STDs? While bacterial infections are treatable (chlamydia, syphillis, etc), the viral infections are not (HIV, AIDS, etc.). As far as the act itself is concerned, sex is a serious thing and is meant to encompass love. This makes it a very intimate act with another person. When two people marry, they have committed to each other "for better or for worse... until death do us part", and so promise to always honour eachother and stay together. Prior to marriage, there are no such promises, paving the way for disloyalty and hurt. And when you finally do meet your future wife/husband, you'll have to share with them your intimate experiences with others, and that can be a lot of very heavy baggage, and doesn't typically attract the ladies/men.

There's nothing to say you have to abstain from sex forever, but you have the opportunity to save your virginity for one person. Your virginity can only be given away once.

Also, there are lots of other people like you who believe the same things. IMO, when the day comes that you can finally say that you saved yourself for marriage, you will be thankful that you waited, and you'll never hae to experience any regret. You should take this very seriously, because if you choose to have premarital sex, you can reverse that decision anytime. Once you have had premarital sex, there is no turning back.

It all comes down to what you choose... the ball's in your court.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: Rob9874

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: Rob9874
I think the Christian church condemns it because it's supposed to be something sacred between a husband and wife. We have desacrilized sex to merely an act of pleasure. I wanted to wait so that it was more special with my wife. I didn't make it, but I wish I had. Sex is great, but before you have it, you build it up greater than it is. My advice is to wait if you can. It's disappointing if you've waited this long. You'll think, "That was nice, but not so good I couldn't have waited." Believe me, I'm married, and sometimes I prefer to take matters into my own hands.

Doesn't really make sense what you said. Do you enjoy sex still?

What you are saying is the more sex you have the less it becomes, so basically whether you wait until marriage and it deteriorates versus just starting early you will eventually be in the same game?

I had sex before marriage, I don't think it takes away anything. I think when it does for people it is because they are really upset their partners didn't wait and by them waiting they could have that to use as an example.

I knew a couple that is divorced now because her husband (who knew she was with other guys before him) would always blame any disagreement on her prior intercourse ("If you had only been with me you would agree with anything I say" etc)....she divorced him eventually as he would bring this stuff up at get togethers and out. He needed counselling....I used to egg him on about it and I think he thought I had been with his wife as well 😉....

I think more sex = good.

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Sorry if my point didn't make sense. Yes, I enjoy sex. And I didn't mean sex is less enjoyable if you have it before marriage. But I'm talking about the sacredness of sex is lost when it is an act we've done with strangers/acquaintences. You have to be able to understand sex beyond the physical pleasure. To me, it means more if it's something you've only shared with one person. I know, you won't be any good at it. But again, let's get past the physical pleasure, and think of it as an emotional act. I don't think many people can do that anymore. Sex no longer has value beyond the surface level.

Think of it this way (assuming you have a wife that you love more than anything), doesn't it feel good to give your wife something you've had to save up to buy? And the more sacrifice you put into it, the better the gift. If you had to save for 4 years to buy her a new car, it means alot to her. It shows that she means something to you. Well, when you can give your wife your virginity, it's something you've been saving your whole life for her, even before you knew her. It shows her how important she is to you. If you buy her a card, or give her a kiss, that's nice, but you' ve probably done that with all your girlfriends. But sex is the one thing that she can say is exclusively hers.

I know this sounds corny, but maybe one ATOT member can see my point. I don't mean to say premarital sex is bad. I'm merely explaining why I wish I would have waited. The enjoyment I got from my premarital sex does not outweight the feeling of regret. I know this much, I wish my wife had waited for me. The thought of her naked with past boyfriends makes me sick! 🙂

Well then I guess I better not post these pictures I have. I keed, I keed, she made me destroy them!

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: Czesia
According to the Christian belief, sex should be saved for marriage. As far as I'm concerned, it actually makes alot of sense, whether the people in this forum choose to believe in Jesus or not. First of all, why take a chance of contracting or passing on STDs? While bacterial infections are treatable (chlamydia, syphillis, etc), the viral infections are not (HIV, AIDS, etc.). As far as the act itself is concerned, sex is a serious thing and is meant to encompass love. This makes it a very intimate act with another person. When two people marry, they have committed to each other "for better or for worse... until death do us part", and so promise to always honour eachother and stay together. Prior to marriage, there are no such promises, paving the way for disloyalty and hurt. And when you finally do meet your future wife/husband, you'll have to share with them your intimate experiences with others, and that can be a lot of very heavy baggage, and doesn't typically attract the ladies/men.

There's nothing to say you have to abstain from sex forever, but you have the opportunity to save your virginity for one person. Your virginity can only be given away once.

Also, there are lots of other people like you who believe the same things. IMO, when the day comes that you can finally say that you saved yourself for marriage, you will be thankful that you waited, and you'll never hae to experience any regret. You should take this very seriously, because if you choose to have premarital sex, you can reverse that decision anytime. Once you have had premarital sex, there is no turning back.

It all comes down to what you choose... the ball's in your court.

Well I will say that the STD part was not the reason why....pneumonia and tuberculousis were probably a lot more common risks......

However what about the 'christain' kings....people tend to forget all their concubines (women they were not married too).....they were above God's law then?

The sex in marriage thing along with no contraception was a method to increase believers and subjects (in the case of the Kings).

STD's are laughable as a reason because if you practice safe sex you are going to be pretty safe....hurting loved one's feelings is usually in only the cases of 'young' love and/or one partner is clearly more experienced.

That is jealousy by the way usually and not a good thing. Chances are even if they were a virgin in these cases there would be 'something else'.

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