Why do parents argue over stupid stuff?

[NFS4]

Man, it's been nice. My parents have been gone since Thursday morning down to the beach. It was nice and quiet in the house and it was just me and the dog. They haven't been in the door 20 minutes and they're into a big argument over some stupid sh!t (my mom told my dad not to wash any of her clothes in the suitecase--he shrinks stuff up). He took offense and BOOM

I'm sitting here trying to watch the CART race and there going back and forth. And to make matters worse, my dad was sitting at the table while my mom was arguing with him and he started laughing---BIG MISTAKE

They're finally stopped now. But there is a victim in all of this--ME. Because they left the damn basement door open and damn mosquitoes flew up here and are biting the living sh!t out of me. ()@$* damnit I can't stop itching!! :|

 

[apoppin]

Why does anyone argue over stupid stuff? Way too complex to get into in a relationship (power struggle, need for attention, hurt feelings, etc.). Part of it is lack of proper communication skills. Sometimes it's just mood, tiredness or even hunger (notice a lot of fights start before dinner).

I guess the best answer I can think of is 'cause were human.

EDIT: Do you know what happened in your parent's case while they were at the beach? It may be the continuation of an earlier argument. Maybe you should take the dog to the beach and get away yourself.

 

[RSI]

<< Part of it is lack of proper communication skills. >>

That's most of it

If people weren't at such a lack of communicational skills, they would be able to sort out their differences much more easily. Then there wouldn't be half as many 'stupid arguments'

But yeah NFS4 I know EXACTLY what ya mean

 

[NFS4]

They had a good time from what I gather...their 27th anniversary was on the 21st.

 

[UG]

Everyone knows that it's the kids that stress parents to disfunction.

 

[NFS4]

<< Everyone knows that it's the kids that stress parents to disfunction. >>


I had nothing to do with it The dog came running in here to me when they got loud and was crying for me to put her up on the bed

 

[MisterM]

<< Man, it's been nice. My parents have been gone since Thursday morning down to the beach. It was nice and quiet in the house and it was just me and the dog. They haven't been in the door 20 minutes and they're into a big argument over some stupid sh!t >>



Welcome to my world!

It`s always like this for me too...the moments my parents are away the first thing I usually think is something along the lines of &quot;Ah....finally, peace and quiet!&quot;.

I usually try to spend the time when they are away by myself, just relaxing, or I get some very good friends over and we just chill out...

 

[ltk007]

You think your parents argue over stupid stuff. My sister accidently printed something out on a piece of cardboard from the case of photo paper we had. She thought it was a special kinda of paper LOL. Well first my dad heard it and thought she had accidentally used the $.30 a piece photo paper. He yelled at her for a good 5 minutes until she showed him it (it was on useless cardboard). He continued to yell for almost 20 minutes cause she might have accidentally printed it on the expensive paper. I was laughing my ass off. The kid next door was scared from the yelling and asked his mom if they could give us some paper.


My dad is an idiot. I don't even listen to him anymore. When I make honor roll he lectures me for 10 minutes because I didn't get all As (he got C-Fs when he was a kid. His excuse is that school is easier now. What an oaf). Basically I just tell him to shut up and throw all the stupid things he's done in his face. So instead of yelling at me now he yells at my mom about me.

 

[NFS4]

My dad is wrong 90% of the time. He used to yell me and I'd get upset. It doesn't even phase me anymore because I dish it out 3 times harder than him. I AM JUST LIKE MY FATHER--STUBORN AS ALL GET OUT. And when he argues with me, it's like arguing with a younger/smarter him. And he CAN'T win

 

[ltk007]

LOL, I'm the exact same way NFS4. The only difference is my father is wrong 99.9% of the time. I make him shut his mouth so fast he's afraid to talk to me. He hates being wrong.

 

[UG]

It's parents' way of telling kids to put off getting married until they have acquired the requisite maturity.

 

[NFS4]

<< I make him shut his mouth so fast he's afraid to talk to me. He hates being wrong. >>


Yep, same here. Even when I'm wrong (which is rare), I make him out to be the bad guy

 

[Tripleshot]

Thanks to all of you for reminding some of us parents of our failings and the way they impact our children. We shall try to do better by you as a whole.I hope your parents will re think thier responsibilities to you children that there is more to life than a roof over your head,food in your belly,and clothes on your back.You are sensitive and need to have space from real world issues that may degrade your internet surfing needs or your concentration on your favorite fragging game.

How selfish of us parents.

 

[ltk007]

I think the one of worst things parents do (besides neglect, beating, and other really serious stuff) is argue over stupid stuff. If the arguement is pointless, why argue in the first place. It just makes children combatitive and LOUD! It also hurts the marraige.

 

[NFS4]

<< Thanks to all of you for reminding some of us parents of our failings and the way they impact our children. We shall try to do better by you as a whole.I hope your parents will re think thier responsibilities to you children that there is more to life than a roof over your head,food in your belly,and clothes on your back.You are sensitive and need to have space from real world issues that may degrade your internet surfing needs or your concentration on your favorite fragging game.

How selfish of us parents. >>


I'm trying to hold back the tears

Seriously though...if you're wrong, you're WRONG!

 

[apoppin]

Here you are picking on your parents. How do you think it will go in your own families when you have all their pressures (job, money, sex and health problems) with your own family.

Strange you have all the answers now and even stranger that you will forget them when you are in your parent's place with your own family,

Appreciate them them now. They won't always be with you and you WILL (probably) miss them when they are gone. They may not be the best parents but they are yours and FAMILY is very important when your &quot;friends&quot; come and go.

 

[UG]

A kid's ultimate punishment is becoming a parent.

 

[kranky]

&quot;When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years&quot; - often attributed to Mark Twain, but author is unknown.

 

[ltk007]

I know my parents are a lot better than others (my mom is an excellent parent, my dad has more than his fair share of failings), but still, itsn't it a teenager's duty to bitch about his parents?

 

[NFS4]

<< Here you are picking on your parents. How do you think it will go in your own families when you have all their pressures (job, money, sex and health problems) with your own family.

Strange you have all the answers now and even stranger that you will forget them when you are in your parent's place with your own family,
>>


I'm not picking on them, just citing my pet peeves

 

[NFS4]

Besides, they bitch about us all the time

 

[ltk007]

I've never really liked my father, he's too much like me for us to get along (I'm like version 5.01 and he's 1.01 alpha. I'm more stable, and much more advanced). I do appreaciate that he makes money, I don't like the way he verbal abuses my family. He did convince my mom to let me build my computer. I guess I have to appreciate that

 

[UG]

It's only a matter of time. It's inevitable. Your own kids eventually will be saying the same things about you!!

Sometimes, life is too much fun.

 

[NFS4]

I love my parents. It's just that when my dad and I get into an argument (or when he gets into an argument with my mom), he starts it off as he is ALWAYS right even if he is dead wrong.

Even if he knows he wrong, he will still continue and make you try to sound like YOU'RE are the one with the problem

 

[MisterM]

The problem with my father is that he is extremely capitalistic, and self employed.

I don´t have an problem with capitalist`s (I`m one myself ), but he has this nasty habit of judging people by the amount of money they made.
Usually, when he is defeated, and beaten senseless by my superior argumentation and articulation skills , he starts of with something like &quot;Oh yeah, you can`t tell me anything! You only did *enter amount of $ I made at my last summer job*, I usually don`t even ignore people like that!&quot;
Well, duh, I kinda am his son, and I am making a lot more money than he did at my age!
He also usually does treat me and my mother like employees, which I just cannot stand, and then expects me to act accordingly. Argh! I hate that!

I have to admit that he is an very very good businessman, eventhough he is past his prime, and it could have been a lot worse than this for me.




<< Here you are picking on your parents. How do you think it will go in your own families when you have all their pressures (job, money, sex and health problems) with your own family. >>



I know I probably would go crazy under that kinda pressure, that`s why I plan on making as much money as possible before marriage, so that I can spend more time with my family later on. See, I too am an improved version of my father, I learn from his mistakes!



<< Thanks to all of you for reminding some of us parents of our failings and the way they impact our children. We shall try to do better by you as a whole.I hope your parents will re think thier responsibilities to you children that there is more to life than a roof over your head,food in your belly,and clothes on your back.You are sensitive and need to have space from real world issues that may degrade your internet surfing needs or your concentration on your favorite fragging game.

How selfish of us parents. >>



That`s completely offtopic, go to your own thread!
Besides, this is all in good fun IMHO, do you have to take this so seriously? Sheesh! Put some smilies in there!
Relax, chill out, we are all just venting, you know! This is just a messageboard afterall!