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why do I feel so apathetic towards life

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Dear Summer

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About 3 months ago, I think I was happy. Living on my own, busy with work, and trying to make it on my own in a new city. I liked the fact that I was motivated to be proactive with my life and try to be out there all the time.

my dad calls me after getting fired from his job saying he wants to move in with me. I didn't know many people in this city so we talked about it and he said he will find a job to pay for the full rent. I thought okay fine, I will be able to save more money. I didn't like the fact that I would be living with my dad as a college grad but saving money sounded good.

We found a place together that was within our budget but twice the rent that I was paying before. To make a long story short, he moved up, stayed unemployed for nearly 2 months due to the economy and currently work a crappy job that barely covers anything. I blew all of my savings to make the rent each month and the security deposit to make this work. All these bills that come in my name and I have not been able to save a penny. My credit card debt just goes higher and higher. He works M-F but it pisses me off to see him in front of the TV all the time and not really caring because he feels no urgency. I'm in danger of losing my job as my company goes through a wave of layoffs starting next week and I feel like I'm starting to just give up on everything. Up to this point, I had a sense of control and once I lost that grip, I just feel unmotivated now.

this is just scratching the surface of how I feel. I just don't feel like doing anything anymore. Work and I go to church. I wanted to meet a girlfriend in this city, make some friends, and build a social life but I gave up on all of that. I just don't care. I used to go to the gym daily, but now I go once a week at most. I stay home on the internet and just let time pass. Is this a phase that will pass? I certainly hope so
 
I was once like you. Then I discovered the joy of killing. I am now employed by an organization that specializes in the slaughtering of innocents. I have never been happier.
 
Wow that sucks. I would hate to be in that situation. Once in on my own I don't want others living with me, but then if a parent or any family asks, how do you say no? Damn, that's got to suck.
 
Sounds like something he did for you, you know, growing up for all those years so you had that chance to go to college and get that job and move out on your own...

I'm sure you sat around for plenty of years while he paid the bills, you probably didn't complain then.
 
I sometimes feel apathetic towards life. But then I remember that things happen and will work themselves out in the end. Just keep a positive attitude and keep on living dude.
 
As weird as this may sound, your dad should not be the motivation to your success, you should be the motivator for it. The point is to try to make your life better the best way you know how. It is a hard road to travel but I've been down it and nothing will ever change until you do something about it.
 
It just sounds like you're entering a depressive state, you will pull through, try to eliminate unnecessary stressors.
 
I'm not sure what sort of advice to give you, but wish you the best of luck through everything..keep us updated on it all.
 
Its all part of the trip we call life. Things will get better man. Maybe ask him to get a second job? You are in a weird position though since he's your father. Do you guys at least get along pretty well?
 
Originally posted by: theflyingpig
I was once like you. Then I discovered the joy of killing. I am now employed by an organization that specializes in the slaughtering of innocents. I have never been happier.
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The military?

Or did you just go to Israel?
 
Originally posted by: Capt Caveman
Have you spoken to your dad about him not keeping up his end of the deal? Sorry to hear it man.
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What can I really say to him? He tried getting a job all over the place so he's lucky to even be employed right now. When this lease ends or if I get laid off, whichever comes first, I am out of here, hopefully with a new job and grad school.

We get along but I rarely leave the house now and that's a problem. I regret passing up on the opportunity to live with two of my co-workers because that would've been more helpful to me.

 
Originally posted by: Dear Summer
About 3 months ago, I think I was happy. Living on my own, busy with work, and trying to make it on my own in a new city. I liked the fact that I was motivated to be proactive with my life and try to be out there all the time.

my dad calls me after getting fired from his job saying he wants to move in with me. I didn't know many people in this city so we talked about it and he said he will find a job to pay for the full rent. I thought okay fine, I will be able to save more money. I didn't like the fact that I would be living with my dad as a college grad but saving money sounded good.

We found a place together that was within our budget but twice the rent that I was paying before. To make a long story short, he moved up, stayed unemployed for nearly 2 months due to the economy and currently work a crappy job that barely covers anything. I blew all of my savings to make the rent each month and the security deposit to make this work. All these bills that come in my name and I have not been able to save a penny. My credit card debt just goes higher and higher. He works M-F but it pisses me off to see him in front of the TV all the time and not really caring because he feels no urgency. I'm in danger of losing my job as my company goes through a wave of layoffs starting next week and I feel like I'm starting to just give up on everything. Up to this point, I had a sense of control and once I lost that grip, I just feel unmotivated now.

this is just scratching the surface of how I feel. I just don't feel like doing anything anymore. Work and I go to church. I wanted to meet a girlfriend in this city, make some friends, and build a social life but I gave up on all of that. I just don't care. I used to go to the gym daily, but now I go once a week at most. I stay home on the internet and just let time pass. Is this a phase that will pass? I certainly hope so
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bolded is your problem. why the hell would you move to a place that was twice your current rent, especially if your dad was unemployed? it seems like you are placing a lot of this blame on your dad but i don't see why you needed to do this if you were fine at your other place. seems like you wanted to take advantage of your dad but it backfired and now you blame him.
 
op, you need some motivation and goals again. it appears that when you needed your goals to maintain your stamina they failed you, i would suggest create new and better ones that will not fail you when you need them.
 
tell urself that this is all temporary.

just stay focused on ur goals and everything will work itself out. 🙂
 
pontif highlights good point, how come your paying twice as much rent? Is that the total or your half is twice as much rent?

And mate its your father! He has looked after your sh@t for yours, can't you help him out? You can earn more money later hut family is family.

Get to the gym a bit more, go for some drinks with your work buddies. You have to make things happen for yourself. Join a rick climbing place etc

Koing
 
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