Why do I crave a GF at night, and not want one in the morning?

[moonbit]

Lists don't work. While you're comparing girls to a checklist, you may miss the girl that may not have all of the qualities you desire (or not in the quantity), but will have some amazing traits you never thought of, and may surprise you with how "perfect" she is.

I'm not saying relax your standards, but relax in general. Be open to just having fun with a girl that may not meet your criteria. However, you mention that you're tired of the girls with no ambition...so try digging up your dates somewhere differently than you usually do.

And again, nothing wrong with standards, but the way you describe them you come off with a slightly "superior" air. This will turn off many girls of the type you desire. Unless you find one with a similar air.....then you may just annoy the hell out of each other. Then again, some can actually build a successful relationship out of that kind of adversity, and it may just be the kind of challenge you're looking for.

 

[Alienwho]

Originally posted by: dderidex

Originally posted by: drinkmorejava

So you want, good looking, smart, and talented. Good luck with that, it took me long enough to find my girlfriend and you can't have her.

QFT++

What you want is a dude, not a girl. Biological differences in the genders mean that - while there certainly ARE women that fit the outline you've provided - they are rare. Women (gross generalization, and likely by interests tend to preclude those that post here) tend as a group to value different things than guys do.

And, of course, it certainly doesn't help that society forces on them the idea that they don't have to be smart or work hard if they are hot.

I'll be damned if I ever get serious with a girl that isn't good looking, smart and talented. I didn't realize the average guy has such low standards. This is the reasons why girls can get away with it.

I know it's possible, when I lived in Brazil I met plenty of girls that fit the above criteria. And to boot they would be from extremely wealthy families, be multilingual and they would love me because I'm an American with standards. This thread is now about how American women suck. I'd prefer marrying an American but hell I'll gladly go back for a Brazilian that knows how to treat her man.

 

[nageov3t]

to quote a bright eyes song... "what's simple in the moonlight by the morning never is."

 

[Alienwho]

Originally posted by: moonbit
Lists don't work. While you're comparing girls to a checklist, you may miss the girl that may not have all of the qualities you desire (or not in the quantity), but will have some amazing traits you never thought of, and may surprise you with how "perfect" she is.

I'm not saying relax your standards, but relax in general. Be open to just having fun with a girl that may not meet your criteria. However, you mention that you're tired of the girls with no ambition...so try digging up your dates somewhere differently than you usually do.

And again, nothing wrong with standards, but the way you describe them you come off with a slightly "superior" air. This will turn off many girls of the type you desire. Unless you find one with a similar air.....then you may just annoy the hell out of each other. Then again, some can actually build a successful relationship out of that kind of adversity, and it may just be the kind of challenge you're looking for.

Good point. Honestly I dig up most of my dates either through friends or on campus. There are plenty of girls on campus though that are going to school but it doesn't change the fact that they have no ambition and are only there to meet guys who will take care of them. And in reality I WANT to take care of her, I just want her in return to not expect me to. You know it's the thought that counts.

And I have never discussed my standards with these girls. They have no idea. I only talk about it with my friends. I don't come across with the superiority air until I already have her and I get sick of her lack of motivation and what not, and by then like I said before, I'm just trying to get her to break up with me for being a jerk to save me from having to do it myself (which never works btw).

And my standards don't necessarily have to be those EXACT things, but I weigh the positives and negatives with girls as I date them. Far to often it goes like this:

Negatives:
No ambition
No talents
No artistic ability
Crappy family
Terrible conversation
Has no life, therefore she texts me 8000 times a day
Squandering any gifts or possible pluses in her life
High Maintenance
Not smart enough (I mean honestly I don't want to have to explain every detail everytime we watch the history channel)

Positives:
Hot
Nice
...


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I should mention I'm going for completion here. I don't want a copycat of myself or anything, but I want somebody who brings something to the relationship. I want a girl who is better at things that I am to bring completion to us. I hate being better at everything and having to carry the burdon for all.

 

[imported_Snagle]

Originally posted by: loki8481
to quote a bright eyes song... "what's simple in the moonlight by the morning never is."

"it was so simple in the moonlight now it's so complicated
it was so simple in the moonlight...
so simple in the moonlight...
so simple in the moonlight..."