Why do I catch so much flack for not wanting kids one day?

[Pr0d1gy]

It's perfectly normal to not want to have kids at 25, even more so if you're gay.

 

[z0mb13]

Originally posted by: Trygve

Originally posted by: z0mb13
imagine when you are 60 or 70, no one that takes care of your bday parties, no grandkids to send you presents.. no one to invite you over for christmas or thanksgiving.

And that would be different than now...how?

now you have your health.. and mobile enough to go to places with friends

 

[webcammie]

Originally posted by: Mojoed

Originally posted by: Nitemare
Got married at 24, divorcing at 32. I'd definitely like to have kids though. I just need to find a sane woman.

Good luck with that endeavor!

yups. no such thing. accept us for who we are. we accept you guys for everything you're not!!!!!!!!! =P

 

[AdamSnow]

I dont want you to have kids either... :laugh:

 

[miniMUNCH]

Originally posted by: Wallydraigle
The greatest act of love you can display for your children is not having them.

That is possibly the silliest statement I have ever read.

If you don't have children, then your children don't exist...you cannot love "nothing" (i.e. children you'll never have).

Not to mention that your statement flies in the face of a preponderance of evidence that most people "love" being alive and experiencing life and, thus, fear death, etc.

That being said...if folks don't want children, there is nothing wrong with that...to each their own. But if you don't have children and aren't strongly involved with your extended family (i.e. your brother and/or sister's kids) then yon may find yourself one extremely lonely mofo later in life.

 

[djheater]

I'm VERY happily married with 3 beautiful children I adore. My girlfriend (now wife) was 20 when I got her pregnant, I was 22. My relationship with my extremely sweet and emotionally stable wife is a pillar of strength to me. I cherish it, her and my life has meaning and purpose due to my children. I'd been in some pretty low spots, but settling down with them gave me purpose and I've been very successful. I owe it all to them.

Now... that being said, I DON'T think that you need children or, necessarily even a relationship to have a meaningful and gratifying life. As long as you're happy and try not to leave the world any worse off for your having been here, I think you're doing fine...

 

[Svnla]

I am over 25 and never married and don't have any kids. I am good with kids, ask my nieces and nephew. I just don't feel that I am ready to be a dad yet.

I am working hard to build up assets and whenever I meet a nice gal, then marriage and kids will come.

 

[xSauronx]

Originally posted by: Kalbi
wtf you can reverse a vasectomy?

yes

i think i read about it once...

not remotely pleasant, iirc.

but if you reverse it, get someone pregnant, she screams at you how you have no idea how painful it is, i do believe it would be arguable at that point.

 

[blakeatwork]

Originally posted by: Cattlegod
In soviet russia, the kids have you by the marbles!

Fixed for clarity and accuracy

 

[mdchesne]

Originally posted by: surge84
Maybe I'm selfish. Maybe I don't know what I'm talking about. Maybe it's because I grew up poor. I just don't think I want kids.
I'd much rather have freedom and money to do the things I want to do when I want to do them. I don't ever want to be too tied down. I know this greatly limits my relationship opportunities, but oh well. I'm sure there is someone out there that feels the same way. I've already had a vasectomy. I figured if I ever wanted it reversed and I didn't have the money to reverse it, I shouldn't be reversing it.

the reason is thus (told to me by a lady firend of mine):
By implying you don't want kids, but you still want a relationship... that means you want free sex without the "repurcussions" of fatherhood. You'd be able to leave the relationship easier without kids or support payments.

 

[AbAbber2k]

Originally posted by: ITJunkie
Having children is a choice...you've made the choice not to have them. The world is bulging with unwanted children and on that note alone I applaud your decision. If you change your mind later you can always adopt. Biology does not a father/mother make...other than biological of course.

:thumbsup:

 

[imported_Ed]

Originally posted by: surge84
Maybe I'm selfish. Maybe I don't know what I'm talking about. Maybe it's because I grew up poor. I just don't think I want kids.
I'd much rather have freedom and money to do the things I want to do when I want to do them. I don't ever want to be too tied down. I know this greatly limits my relationship opportunities, but oh well. I'm sure there is someone out there that feels the same way. I've already had a vasectomy. I figured if I ever wanted it reversed and I didn't have the money to reverse it, I shouldn't be reversing it.

just give up the snatch and god will handle the rest.

 

[AbAbber2k]

Originally posted by: Pr0d1gy
It's perfectly normal to not want to have kids at 25, even more so if you're gay.

:thumbsup: for the most ignorant post in this thread.

 

[cjgallen]

Originally posted by: Kalbi
wtf you can reverse a vasectomy?

I wouldn't be here otherwise

 

[Sketcher]

I'm family oriented and I'm passionate about kids but I would NEVER tell someone that they should have kids, that they're missing out or that they'll find fulfilment if they have kids. There's nothing wrong with erring on the side of not having kids.

It's a life responsibility, not just an option on your next vehicle.

 

[OdiN]

Originally posted by: Nitemare
Got married at 24, divorcing at 32. I'd definitely like to have kids though. I just need to find a sane woman.

Oxy moron.