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Why do guys ask girls out?

J

joohang

Lifer
And not the other way around?

I know it's not always true, but it tends to be this way.

Do women feel afraid to ask out guys or something? Well.. I guess it's the same with many guys, but somehow it is expected that the guy asks the girl out. So why is that?
 
i think it goes back to that whole dominant male submissive female thing. it's weird... i hear girls go "why won't he ask me out?"... and i ask "why don't you ask him out?" and they go "that's not the way it's supposed to work!"
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My first g/f asked me out.
My second g/f asked me out.
My third g/f asked me out.
My fourth and current g/f asked me out.

I don't know what you're talking about.
 


<< i think it goes back to that whole dominant male submissive female thing. it's weird... i hear girls go "why won't he ask me out?"... and i ask "why don't you ask him out?" and they go "that's not the way it's supposed to work!"
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Yeah. There were a couple of girls (actually, make that quite a few girls) that I swear they fell for me (and a couple of them even told my sister, so I knew) but they never did anything. 😕

Or maybe I just scared them all for some reason. Or maybe they found out that I'm a pathetic geek who nefs at ATOT all day. 🙂

Or maybe they aren't horny enough to do anything. 😉 So they can just live with it unlike us guys? 😕
 


<< My first g/f asked me out.
My second g/f asked me out.
My third g/f asked me out.
My fourth and current g/f asked me out.

I don't know what you're talking about. >>


Oh.

Did you date any East Asians by any chance?
 
Eek, no. Asian girls are nutty.
All of my women are caucasians.
1st - Italian/american
2nd - Irish/english
3rd - French/French-canadian
4th - Irish/Cherokee

 


<< Eek, no. Asian girls are nutty.
All of my women are caucasians.
1st - Italian/american
2nd - Irish/english
3rd - French/French-canadian
4th - Irish/Cherokee >>



*whistle* I like your collection of women, dude.... wow. I've had... one Korean, one... German? and one Danish...

I'll have to try an Irish/Cherokee mix sometime, 😀
 
Yeah. The only girl I dealt with who was relatively more open about her feelings was a British-French Canadian girl.

I also had a German-Polish girl who hinted some stuff but never really did anything. She's pretty hot, but I didn't like her back then. Now I think I was a complete idiot. Oh well. 🙂

Other than those two girls, I dealt with mostly Asians and most of them seem to expect the guy to make the move. It's weird. Maybe it's a cultural thing.
 


<< Yeah. The only girl I dealt with who was relatively more open about her feelings was a British-French Canadian girl.

I also had a German-Polish girl who hinted some stuff but never really did anything. She's pretty hot, but I didn't like her back then. Now I think I was a complete idiot. Oh well. 🙂

Other than those two girls, I dealt with mostly Asians and most of them seem to expect the guy to make the move. It's weird. Maybe it's a cultural thing. >>



I'm fairly certain it is... I've never met an asian girl who would make the first move. It's irritating, not that I want a woman who makes the first move, but it's nice to have more of an indicator. It's incredibly hard to reach their facial expressions... grr.
 
My last three ex's asked me out...and they were asian. Well...one didn't ask me out...she kinda stuck her hand down my pants so i kind of got the hint.
 


<< she kinda stuck her hand down my pants so i kind of got the hint. >>



Dear Penthouse, I never thought I'd be writing to you...
 
Actually, I'm kind of glad it's not the other way around. Can you imagine waiting around all the time for the girl to make the move? Don't get me wrong - I've been asked out a few times and it's sort of nice not having to do the work, but actually, I kind of like being in the driver's seat.
 


<< Actually, I'm kind of glad it's not the other way around. Can you imagine waiting around all the time for the girl to make the move? Don't get me wrong - I've been asked out a few times and it's sort of nice not having to do the work, but actually, I kind of like being in the driver's seat. >>


Well it doesn't have to be the other way around to that extreme. Why isn't this considered a mutual thing to some girls?
 
My last g/f asked me, but the one before that I had to ask. Just different personalities, I guess. Maybe it is a cultural thing, though. I don't know - I don't understand women. 🙂
 


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<< she kinda stuck her hand down my pants so i kind of got the hint. >>



Dear Penthouse, I never thought I'd be writing to you... >>


How exactly does someone kinda stick their hand down your pants? To me it seems she did it with the intention of giving you a ginormous hint, not kinda did it like she didn't mean to, eh? *shrugs* 🙂
 
I'd rather have the guy ask me out initially, to show that attraction to me. After the first time, I'm perfectly willing to ask him out on dates, but I'm a tad old fashioned and want him to start things off.
 


<< I'd rather have the guy ask me out initially, to show that attraction to me. After the first time, I'm perfectly willing to ask him out on dates, but I'm a tad old fashioned and want him to start things off. >>


And if he never asked you out, you'd just sit there doing nothing? 😕
 


<< Maybe it is a cultural thing, though. I don't know - I don't understand women. 🙂 >>


Aha! That's my problem right there. I'm trying to understand women. 🙂
 


<< I'd rather have the guy ask me out initially, to show that attraction to me. After the first time, I'm perfectly willing to ask him out on dates, but I'm a tad old fashioned and want him to start things off. >>



most girls want to be asked out as then they have no problems with the attraction thing and then they do not take any pushiment to there egos. When us guys have to take the plunge and go for it.

first girl asked me out so that was good. Hell I didn't even know she liked me until she asked me out.

2nd girl I asked out. She wanted me to ask her out sooner but I was a bit nervous is a friend.

 
i met an asian girl who asked me out first.

but her family has been here for quite a few generations, so they're not that asian in practice anymore.
 


<<

<< I'd rather have the guy ask me out initially, to show that attraction to me. After the first time, I'm perfectly willing to ask him out on dates, but I'm a tad old fashioned and want him to start things off. >>


And if he never asked you out, you'd just sit there doing nothing? 😕 >>



Ah, but if he didn't ask me out, he's missing one of the qualities I want in a guy, which is initiative and at least a little courage, plus the willingness to tell me he likes me. If he doesn't approach me, since that's the cultural male perrogative, I take it as a sign that he's not interested in me, so why would I ask him out?
 


<< Ah, but if he didn't ask me out, he's missing one of the qualities I want in a guy, which is initiative and at least a little courage, plus the willingness to tell me he likes me. If he doesn't approach me, since that's the cultural male perrogative, I take it as a sign that he's not interested in me, so why would I ask him out? >>



What if he's looking for a girl with initiative and courage? This works both ways.
 
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