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Sounds like those two were in it for the reasons you go on to state: money, the bar=free entry/beer (most likely). Some women figure out early on (late teens, early 20s) the benefits of "gold digging" (I hate that term, and I'm sorry if that offends anyone, but I don't know what else to call it). And the older men get without finding the perfect mate, the more vulnerable they become to these tactics. I should know. The last girl I was with (over two years ago) was 23 and her only interest in me was to take her there, buy her that, etc...she never wanted to get to "know me" or do things I liked to do, nor did she ever let me hang out with her friends or want to meet my friends. I put an end to that quickly. So, for all you younger guys out there who know girls that are "dating" older men, think about it for a minute. Are they in it for a meaningful relationship, or are they in it just to have some fun? And do you really want to be with that someone if they're only in it for the money, cars, etc.? I doubt it. Find yourself a girl that wants to be with you for what you are, not what you have.