So, as I've mentioned in a half dozen threads, we are moving to the Portland/Vancouver area.
Wonderful, right?
Except....well, we need to find a house.
And here is the problem.
*I* want one of those gorgeous 900-1100 sq. ft. condos in the Pearl District of downtown Portland. No yard, small easy to clean house, very neat and modern, easy access to shopping and great dining.
*She* wants a house in the suburbs of Vancouver - 2100 sq. ft.+ and very much wants a yard she can garden in.
Why does this bother me? Can you picture a few years hence once the 'newness' the area and house has worn off? "I'm working just as much as you do, you need to help clean around the house more", "I'm working just as much as you do, you can help mow the yard and tend the gardens", "I'm working just as much as...."
And while it's true she DOES work just as much as me (and makes nearly as much - probably 80% of my pay) - HOW DO I HAVE TO DO THAT WORK?
I didn't WANT a yard!
I didn't WANT a 2100+ sq. ft. house that is going to be "so much work to clean"!!
Why do I have to get conned into maintaining stuff I *SPECIFICALLY* DID NOT WANT!!
*sighs*
So, naturally, we are going to 'compromise' which means, roughly, "we buy a 2100+ sq. ft. house in the suburbs with a yard and garden and I start working on stuff I didn't want to even have".
Wonderful, right?
Except....well, we need to find a house.
And here is the problem.
*I* want one of those gorgeous 900-1100 sq. ft. condos in the Pearl District of downtown Portland. No yard, small easy to clean house, very neat and modern, easy access to shopping and great dining.
*She* wants a house in the suburbs of Vancouver - 2100 sq. ft.+ and very much wants a yard she can garden in.
Why does this bother me? Can you picture a few years hence once the 'newness' the area and house has worn off? "I'm working just as much as you do, you need to help clean around the house more", "I'm working just as much as you do, you can help mow the yard and tend the gardens", "I'm working just as much as...."
And while it's true she DOES work just as much as me (and makes nearly as much - probably 80% of my pay) - HOW DO I HAVE TO DO THAT WORK?
I didn't WANT a yard!
I didn't WANT a 2100+ sq. ft. house that is going to be "so much work to clean"!!
Why do I have to get conned into maintaining stuff I *SPECIFICALLY* DID NOT WANT!!
*sighs*
So, naturally, we are going to 'compromise' which means, roughly, "we buy a 2100+ sq. ft. house in the suburbs with a yard and garden and I start working on stuff I didn't want to even have".