Why are women incapable of leaving abusing or criminal men?

[GoingUp]

Well evidently the two girls murdered in Illinois were killed by the father of one of the girls.

http://www.cnn.com/2005/US/05/10/illinois.girls/index.html

Hobbs was released from prison in Texas last month after serving nearly two years for violating his probation. He had been serving time after pleading guilty to assault in 2001 against Laura's mother, Sheila Hollabaugh, said Rick Mahler, an assistant district attorney in Wichita Falls, Texas.

"He started chasing people around with a chainsaw that was running," Mahler said. "Somebody hit him with a shovel, knocked him down. Those people held him until the police arrived."

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,156032,00.html

Hobbs had been living with the Hollabaughs after his release, Arthur Hollabaugh said. He said he worried authorities might be trying to railroad Hobbs in their search for the girls' killer.

Gee, so your husband comes after you with a chainsaw and you take him back. In my opinion, the woman is partially responsible for her daughters death for not getting rid of this asshat. What a terrible tragedy.

 

[Landroval]

low self-esteem, lack of social support, fear, poor education, dependent personality, etc.

 

[Rogue]

Originally posted by: Landroval
low self-esteem, lack of social support, fear, poor education, dependent personality, etc.

Yep, all of these and then some. I must say that in the time I worked as an MP doing law enforcement duty, spousal abuse was one of those situations that you just can never quite understand.

 

[Sluggo]

http://www.drirene.com/understanding.htm

Why does the victim stay?
Why would a woman whose face is disfigured, whose bones are broken, whose pregnancy is lost, remain with a spouse who might beat her to death?

For some, there is simply no exit. The door is open but she cannot leave. She has no resources of her own. Her children need her. She is terrified of the police. Social workers are people who can declare you an unfit mother. The perpetrator has threatened to kill her if she leaves or if she tells and she knows no safe haven from him. There is no federal witness protection program for domestic assault victims. Her fear is real, the threat is real, the pathway to freedom cannot be found.

For some the shame is crushing. To heal in private, behind dark glasses, behind closed blinds is far better than to be seen by others. Physical pain is more bearable than shame. The shame is deeper than embarrassment. It is mortification, humiliation, dehumanization. Shame depends on the eyes of others. Avoid the eyes, avoid the shame. Stay home. Endure.

Some harbor hope for better times. The cycle of tension, abuse, relief; tension, abuse, relief has periods in which optimism is rewarded. Hope for the cessation of battering is realized and the relief experienced in the periods of peace is profound. Animal experimenters and human inquisitors know there is nothing as powerful as relief from torture as a positive reward for desired behavior. For some battered women the thin thread of hope and the episodic experience of relief reinforces her decision to stay.

 

[91TTZ]

Not only that, but women seem to be attracted to that type of men. Even before they get trapped in those types of relationships, their stupidity attracts them to it in the first place. Many women like the "bad boy" image, but the bad boys go to jail with the other bad boys.

 

[0roo0roo]

for every mentally disfunctional man there is a mentally disfunctional woman. makes sense.

 

[phantom309]

Originally posted by: 91TTZ
Not only that, but women seem to be attracted to that type of men. Even before they get trapped in those types of relationships, their stupidity attracts them to it in the first place. Many women like the "bad boy" image, but the bad boys go to jail with the other bad boys.

That's true. Some women are just naturally attracted to the biggest assholes they can find.