Essentialy my wife and I know a lot of indian couples. As they are our freinds one thing we notice about them is they actively and indirectly try to compete with us on everything. Our children, Our electronics!!!!, Everything we do they try to compete with. Is this common???
Why are Indian people very competative and get jealous easily?
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JulesMaximus
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lol. Yes, it is completely common, this is why there are no Joneses in India because they simply could not compete.
Like an example is one family my wife and I know are recent immigrants from india. My wife and I know them because we used to live in teh same apartment complex as they did. We moved up and bought a house. We own much more then they do. They try to stick around us and at the same time try to compete. It dosen't bother me but it's just interesting to see how they do it. As a matter of fact to make them feel better I try to put my stuff down in front of them. "My 8 mega pixle camera is actually not as good as your 3 mega pixle" LOL... If we get something they get something etc.....
Way to stereotype.....
How are they competing? Are they flat out telling you their kids are smarter than yours? Are all of your Indian acquaintances like that?
Being an Indian myself I know that parents will put a lot of pressure on their kids to do the best academically to give the parents bragging rights. But now i am generalizing too!
Most of my friends aren't like this (the indian ones). Maybe because I choose not to hang out with those types of people that kinda stuff can get old after a while.
How are they competing? Are they flat out telling you their kids are smarter than yours? Are all of your Indian acquaintances like that?
Being an Indian myself I know that parents will put a lot of pressure on their kids to do the best academically to give the parents bragging rights. But now i am generalizing too!
Most of my friends aren't like this (the indian ones). Maybe because I choose not to hang out with those types of people that kinda stuff can get old after a while.
You gotta realize that this is probally something common with most immigrants. They likely feel inferior to people who have been in the country for a long time and feel the need to compete.
Being an Indian myself, i agree, but must state that it is "SOME" not "ALL"
I typically slowly remove these types of people from my circle of friends....
I dont know why it is or what started it, but its true!
I typically slowly remove these types of people from my circle of friends....
I dont know why it is or what started it, but its true!
UNCjigga
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This is very common. In fact, this is why Indian households smell so strongly of curry. Over many generations, Indians have been trying to outdo one another by cooking a spicier, richer curry than their neighbors. So now its 2007 and curry flavoring has spiraled completely out of control. Its a badge of honor though--Indians will lose their dinner guests' respect if the curry smells weak.
I feel your pain, one of the first teachings of Buddhism is that life is suffering and one should let go of materialism (that dude was Indian though so he was probably trying to compete with someone)
Mani
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If all they are trying to do is match what you have, it doesn't sound like competition, more emulation. Especially applicable to new immigrants. Also, your sample size of 2-3 probably isn't a good representation of the total indian populace so you should caveat with "some" to not make yourself sound stupid.
Competition is just what Indian culture has fostered. In order to stand out and become something in a country of 2 billion people you have to be spectacular. Most of the indian immigrants I know that are here are only here because they were the ones that stood out, got scholarships and educations in India and then were able to get into the states... Competition is all they really know. Be the best. PERIOD.
As far as the jealousy, I think thats more of an Indian-American phenomenon. I know that a lot of younger Indian families here in the south are buying too much into the "baller" lifestyle so often seen on tv. As a result they dont like it when other people have cooler things than they do.
As far as the jealousy, I think thats more of an Indian-American phenomenon. I know that a lot of younger Indian families here in the south are buying too much into the "baller" lifestyle so often seen on tv. As a result they dont like it when other people have cooler things than they do.
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