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Why are divorces so expensive?
- Thread starter RichardE
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moshquerade
No Lifer
so you are married and want to get divorced?
BobDaMenkey
Diamond Member
It's a minor attempt to make sure you actually want to do it. That and if you use a good lawyer, you'll keep more of your stuff, but it'll cost more. Most of the guys offering $200 divorces aren't actually licenced to practice law, FYI.
moshquerade
No Lifer
don't get married ftw!
BlueFlamme
Senior member
Marry for life FTW
As to why they are expensive, because they pretty much will have to deeply investigate every faction of your two lives. Divorces get ugly and can get drawn out over years, especially when you throw in parental custody and financial assets (and if the cause of the divorce is adultry, which requires proof). EDIT: Not to mention alimony or child support which from what I've heard typically the women will want an increase every 2-5 years or anytime you get a raise (this is based on having worked with over a dozen divorced military men)
Honestly it is kind of funny how people respond to the cost. Just this past month a friend's daughter (age 19) got married unexpectantly and after 2 weeks he shoved her down a quarter flight of stairs and said he wanted a divorce (he is bipolar but won't take his medicine). After she agreed, spoke with a lawyer and told him the cost, he said he'll start taking his medicine and try to work things out...
marvdmartian
Diamond Member
Yep! According to Willie, at least!! :laugh:
meltdown75
Lifer
because you lose half of your sh|t?
BlueFlamme
Senior member
Well she kinda proved that by marrying him when all of her family said she needed to get away from him when they had only dated for a week. If her father wasn't in Iraq i'm pretty sure that boy would be in the hospital (tho he still might be when the father gets back next month).
phantom309
Platinum Member
It's very, very complicated, but the original intent of the laws was to make sure that any children involved are provided for - and to discourage people from marrying for frivolous or shortsighted reasons.
I think there are some outdated ideas in play also - fifty years ago, a housewife abandoned by her husband at, say, 40 would have had a very, very hard time making a decent life for herself with no marketable skills in a highly sexist working world. So in a very real sense the woman in a traditional family was a dependent also, like the kids.
These days, of course, almost everyone works - so it's not so cut-and-dried. Now you have two incomes pouring into a single partnership. Who paid for what? Who owns what? That's when things really start getting ugly.
I think there are some outdated ideas in play also - fifty years ago, a housewife abandoned by her husband at, say, 40 would have had a very, very hard time making a decent life for herself with no marketable skills in a highly sexist working world. So in a very real sense the woman in a traditional family was a dependent also, like the kids.
These days, of course, almost everyone works - so it's not so cut-and-dried. Now you have two incomes pouring into a single partnership. Who paid for what? Who owns what? That's when things really start getting ugly.
dullard
Elite Member
I think I wrote a nice answer in last month's thread of the exact same title.
DainBramaged
Lifer
Thats what I thought he was going to say.
They dont have to be expensive. When my wife filed for divorce, I went to her lawyers (and he was afarid of me LOL) and paid for her fees, and to file. Then went to my lawyer, asked what my rights and responsibilities were. He was pi$$ed that I would just voluntarily sign over everything she was due...he wanted me to pay him $250 an hour to fight over $20 lawn furniture (well, the business, the house, and the daughter too, but I wasnt falling for that)
My wife and daughter deserved our assets more than some rich @$$ lawyer, so I figured.
Oh, btw, she never filed the signed decree...and 6 months later realized what a truly decent guy I was. its been 20 yrs now...and I dont regret a moment of it.
DevilsAdvocate
Banned
As AT's resident divorce lawyer, I'd say that a divorce is only as expensive as it needs to be. Some divorces are very complicated, particularly when there are a lot of property and child custody issues to work through.
Life is not always neat and easy.
I always counsel my clients to work through as many issues as possible, and we'll hash everything else out between the lawyers or at mediation. I try relatively few cases for this reason. It simply does not make since for many couples to litigate their petty little squabbles in a very public, very painful forum.
The average divorce costs between $1500 and $2500... that is not much.
Life is not always neat and easy.
I always counsel my clients to work through as many issues as possible, and we'll hash everything else out between the lawyers or at mediation. I try relatively few cases for this reason. It simply does not make since for many couples to litigate their petty little squabbles in a very public, very painful forum.
The average divorce costs between $1500 and $2500... that is not much.
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