I don't know how this all started but I'm from America and he is from Taiwan. To be quite honest, I have NO IDEA what he has against me
It all started well, we even went out together couple times for drinks and etc.
Then suddenly, he stopped talking to me.... okay that's fine with me. I think this happened because I received a phone call early in the morning from my sister which may have woke him up. During the phone conversation he gets up making some angry sound and walks out the door. (I'm guessing this is what the reason was... because I haven't done anything else wrong. I may have received more phone calls in the past from my family when I wasn't there and it could've been built up frustration that he has been holding back)
So we stopped talking... but I was rarely home. I'm guessing the same for him. I did try to make some effort to talk to him and make amends, swallowing my pride and having a bigger heart... but I have come to realize how immature he is for his age. But I mean, maybe it was better off this way... just because we are roommates doesn't mean we need to talk to each other... but completely ignoring a person shouldn't be the way.
So we didn't talk for some time.... but then again I was rarely home. I feel like he started getting too comfortable being there and control the room like it's all his. Plus he may have seen me as a nice guy and take advantage of this subconsciously. Ever since then, he does little things on purpose to piss me off. When I'm sleeping, he closes the door way too loud. I don't know about taiwanese people but in America we have etiquettes, where if someone is sleeping, we try to be as silent as possible. He also makes scoffing sounds to try to make me feel bad. He controls the thermometer and turns the heater way up. The temperature is to the point that I always wake up in the middle of the night because it's so freaking hot. If I try to turn it off, he screams that it's winter. I have to resort to my window to get some cold air in the room. When I'm studying, he turns his music on.. so I have to continuly tell him to turn it down/off and he doesn't seem to like to listen to orders even though they make the most social sense. Small things like this.. but they bother me.
One day his little annoyance was getting too irritating and I had to say something, "aren't you 23? why don't you tell me what your problem is instead of being a little fvcking b!tch about it"
He replied with some line like "you eat in here and you don't clean"
I told him if he expects me to be perfect, I told him that's what living with a roommate is all about... talking about issues like this and overcoming them.
He says, you don't listen so there's no reason to talk to you
Never before has he told me not to eat in here or the room is too dirty. Who the hell does he think he is telling me I can't eat in my own room. The room isn't even dirty, I just have some clothes on my chair.
Ever since this incident, I feel like he has something bigger against me.
Today was the only day in a while that I was home at 6 PM... so I wanted to take a nap. He comes in at 6:40 and turns the music on. He uses his earphones but there is no freaking way someone should be listening to music that loud. I couldn't go back to sleep so I got up... seconds away from bashing his face in. But I walked out... slamming the door and trying to decide what I should do. Do I seriously have to tell him to turn it down every single time?? I can't take a nap or something? I'm rarely in that room except to sleep at night... so what the hell is his problem? I'm PRETTY sure he knows the music can be heard but he tried to play it off like he doesn't know.
Even with all his little annoyances that he has been doing on purpose, I never did it back to him but now I'm thinking I should have. Up to this point, I gave him all the space he needed and maybe that's where it went wrong
I still have to put up with this sh!t for two more months. I really want to smack some sense into him and show him who's the real boss.. but I'm trying not to resort to throwing fists.
I lived with a roommate before during my freshman year in college... and we got along great.
I still remember what he said when we first met.... he said "he doesn't like most college students" or "chinese people" but he is making an effort to like chinese people. He is always crying about how China is different from Taiwan. STFU
He also mentioned he lived in a quad before back in taiwan but he didn't like his roommates because they smelled
Sorry if I sounds biased, please offer some advice on how to solve this problem and I don't think completely avoiding him or moving out is the solution.
I'm going to wait until the next irritating thing he does on and probably explode
It all started well, we even went out together couple times for drinks and etc.
Then suddenly, he stopped talking to me.... okay that's fine with me. I think this happened because I received a phone call early in the morning from my sister which may have woke him up. During the phone conversation he gets up making some angry sound and walks out the door. (I'm guessing this is what the reason was... because I haven't done anything else wrong. I may have received more phone calls in the past from my family when I wasn't there and it could've been built up frustration that he has been holding back)
So we stopped talking... but I was rarely home. I'm guessing the same for him. I did try to make some effort to talk to him and make amends, swallowing my pride and having a bigger heart... but I have come to realize how immature he is for his age. But I mean, maybe it was better off this way... just because we are roommates doesn't mean we need to talk to each other... but completely ignoring a person shouldn't be the way.
So we didn't talk for some time.... but then again I was rarely home. I feel like he started getting too comfortable being there and control the room like it's all his. Plus he may have seen me as a nice guy and take advantage of this subconsciously. Ever since then, he does little things on purpose to piss me off. When I'm sleeping, he closes the door way too loud. I don't know about taiwanese people but in America we have etiquettes, where if someone is sleeping, we try to be as silent as possible. He also makes scoffing sounds to try to make me feel bad. He controls the thermometer and turns the heater way up. The temperature is to the point that I always wake up in the middle of the night because it's so freaking hot. If I try to turn it off, he screams that it's winter. I have to resort to my window to get some cold air in the room. When I'm studying, he turns his music on.. so I have to continuly tell him to turn it down/off and he doesn't seem to like to listen to orders even though they make the most social sense. Small things like this.. but they bother me.
One day his little annoyance was getting too irritating and I had to say something, "aren't you 23? why don't you tell me what your problem is instead of being a little fvcking b!tch about it"
He replied with some line like "you eat in here and you don't clean"
I told him if he expects me to be perfect, I told him that's what living with a roommate is all about... talking about issues like this and overcoming them.
He says, you don't listen so there's no reason to talk to you
Never before has he told me not to eat in here or the room is too dirty. Who the hell does he think he is telling me I can't eat in my own room. The room isn't even dirty, I just have some clothes on my chair.
Ever since this incident, I feel like he has something bigger against me.
Today was the only day in a while that I was home at 6 PM... so I wanted to take a nap. He comes in at 6:40 and turns the music on. He uses his earphones but there is no freaking way someone should be listening to music that loud. I couldn't go back to sleep so I got up... seconds away from bashing his face in. But I walked out... slamming the door and trying to decide what I should do. Do I seriously have to tell him to turn it down every single time?? I can't take a nap or something? I'm rarely in that room except to sleep at night... so what the hell is his problem? I'm PRETTY sure he knows the music can be heard but he tried to play it off like he doesn't know.
Even with all his little annoyances that he has been doing on purpose, I never did it back to him but now I'm thinking I should have. Up to this point, I gave him all the space he needed and maybe that's where it went wrong
I still have to put up with this sh!t for two more months. I really want to smack some sense into him and show him who's the real boss.. but I'm trying not to resort to throwing fists.
I lived with a roommate before during my freshman year in college... and we got along great.
I still remember what he said when we first met.... he said "he doesn't like most college students" or "chinese people" but he is making an effort to like chinese people. He is always crying about how China is different from Taiwan. STFU
He also mentioned he lived in a quad before back in taiwan but he didn't like his roommates because they smelled
Sorry if I sounds biased, please offer some advice on how to solve this problem and I don't think completely avoiding him or moving out is the solution.
I'm going to wait until the next irritating thing he does on and probably explode
