whoa, this isnt good...

[BigToque]

My uncle is good friends with his neighbors, and I've sorta become a friend of the family. In the family, there is a mother (not older than 40), and she has 3 daughters, aged 10, 14 and 17.

I'm over there a fair bit, helping out at the house and helping the girls learn things on the computer (use the cd-burner/scanner/etc) (I built the computer for them as well).

Anyway, the bad part is I have become incredibly attracted to the 14 year old! I'm turning 19 in a few days, and she?s turning 15 in January, so I'm 4 1/2 years older than her.

I can't believe I actually like her, cause I KNOW its wrong! I mean she looks like she could be 17, but I know she?s only 14!

grrrr... I don't even know what kind of response I'm expecting here. (Don?t call me a pedophile though cause that?s sick and disgusting and will really piss me off if you say that)

 

[Alienwho]

what about the 17 year old?

 

[frizzlefry]

LMAO!!! hahahah... why not the 17yo?

-edit-
damn! alien beat me to it!

but hey, if you can wait a few more years.....

 

[fake]

dude step it up a notch and go for the 17er.. thats semi-ok

 

[n0b7e]

ya what the f, man?

im a sec away from callin u a pedo... u betta have a good excuse

 

[HansHurt]

(Don?t call me a pedophile though cause that?s sick and disgusting and will really piss me off if you say that)


I have nothing to say then.

 

[Ulfwald]

Actually, if you look at it, You are really only about 3.5 years older. Nurture a friendship for a few years, and then when she is 18, ask her out. Don't do anything now, because that would be WRONG!!!. Be nice, treat her with respect, show her how a lady should be treated, that way she will not hook up with some loser as she matures.

 

[Pretender]

<< My uncle is good friends with his neighbors, and I've sorta become a friend of the family. In the family, there is a mother (not older than 40), and she has 3 daughters, aged 10, 14 and 17.

I'm over there a fair bit, helping out at the house and helping the girls learn things on the computer (use the cd-burner/scanner/etc) (I built the computer for them as well).

Anyway, the bad part is I have become incredibly attracted to the 14 year old! I'm turning 19 in a few days, and she?s turning 15 in January, so I'm 4 1/2 years older than her.

I can't believe I actually like her, cause I KNOW its wrong! I mean she looks like she could be 17, but I know she?s only 14!

grrrr... I don't even know what kind of response I'm expecting here. (Don?t call me a pedophile though cause that?s sick and disgusting and will really piss me off if you say that) >>

Alright, just to clarify, you're getting attracted to this girl who's in the NEIGHBOR's family, not your uncle's family, right?

My opinion - if she was a year or 2 older it'd be aight (the parents may have been a little upset), but 4.5 years is a lot. First, it may be illegal where you live, since you're over 18 and she's not close to 18 yet. Second, her parents are gonna want to kick your ass.

If I were you, I'd either wait a few years or try to find the same qualities you like from the 14 year old in the 17 year old. 14 is too young.

 

[Scrapster]

dude, do NOT do anything with this girl. I mean it's ok to talk to her, teach her about computers, fantasize, use her to masterbate with (ABSTRACTLY!), hang out with the family, and be a good neighbor. But DO NOT act on your feelings.

I think it's a proximity thing myself. You are over there all the time. Why not ween it down to once a week?

 

[Wallydraigle]

When she's 90 and you're 94.5 you think it'll still matter? Just chill till she's a little older and don't lose touch.

 

[BigToque]

<< what about the 17 year old? >>



I would if I could. Shes very attractive, but shes got a bf and in that case, I feel its not right to try to interfere.

 

[vash]

Its only natural to like the younger of the ladies, but just don't do much with it. Help her out, hang with her for a few years and see if you're still interested. When she turns of legal age, then you know what can happen.

Of course, you two could visit a few foreign countries that have more lax laws on that sort of thing.

vash

 

[BigToque]

<< Alright, just to clarify, you're getting attracted to this girl who's in the NEIGHBOR's family, not your uncle's family, right? >>



Right.



<< dude, do NOT do anything with this girl >>



I won't. I know its wrong, its just something that kinda hit me a few days ago.



<< You are over there all the time. Why not ween it down to once a week? >>



I wasnt very clear, but its not all the time. sometimes it is just once a week. I dont think I've been there more than 3 times in one week.

 

[frizzlefry]

Still LMAO!!! Dude.... what's up with that man? Aren't there any girls your own age?
Yeah, seriously though, try staying away for a while. Use your computer for pr0n.
That way, you'll be less likely to want the 14yo, and you'll have a fun time at home! Maybe you could get yourself a nice GI Joe Kung Fu Grip like Stormrider hahaha

But in all honesty, are you just physically attracted to her?

and hey, the pedophile thing (not saying you are one) is a product of society. If you take the features that are considered attractive on a woman, then you have yourself a child. Small jaw line (no one want an Arnold), small figure, all delicate features, etc. IMO.

 

[compuwiz1]

Better ignore your urges and leave that one alone. She ain't legal, and you could find yourself in trouble. That's boarderlined pedophile. :Q Now if she was like 17-going on 18, it would be different. 14-15 is too young.

 

[Rage187]

15/19 Is kinda shady..

But its still 14/19 till january and thats walking a very thin line..

and having too taking legal recourse may come with it

 

[kami]

Nothing wrong with being attracted to her. I've seen lots of girls that age who are very umm &quot;mature.&quot; Anyone who calls you a pedophile is an idiot. It's not like you're 35.

just wait until she's 17-18 and see if she's still available.

 

[khc200]

go for the mother.... heather locklear still looks damn fine to me.

serious tho... not worth it, wait it out, meanwhile mess with the sister or the mother... then in a few years, move on to the lil' one.

 

[HansHurt]

Anyone who calls you a pedophile is an idiot


Mental note : Don't let my daughter anywhere near you.



Truth be known though, my first was 15(almost 16), and I was 17. Also I hear about these young girls that have had multiple &quot;contacts&quot; w/ guys even before 14----->>:frown:

 

[kami]

<< Mental note : Don't let my daughter anywhere near you.



Truth be known though, my first was 15(almost 16), and I was 17. Also I hear about these young girls that have had multiple &quot;contacts&quot; w/ guys even before 14----->> >>


what the hell? i said that because he's not doing ANYTHING. he said he wouldn't act on anything. he just said he is attracted. How the f*ck is that being a pedophile?

 

<< im a sec away from callin u a pedo... u betta have a good excuse >>


Then you better be a second away from calling most of the other cultures in the world &quot;pedos&quot; too.

That sucks man, I feel for ya, as I get older it seems that more and more girls are popping up in my area, but its just them getting older.
Can't help checkin out 17 yr olds, but can't touch, just in fear of law.

 

[HansHurt]

what the hell? i said that because he's not doing ANYTHING. he said he wouldn't act on anything. he just said he is attracted. How the f*ck is that being a pedophile?


Calm down Kami...all in good fun...relax...that's it.. breath. Notice I did not call him a pedophile for being &quot;incredibly attracted&quot; to a 14 year old little girl. Notice my following comments. I essentially validated his feelings w/ my own experience of young &quot;love&quot;




Btw a 19 year old mixing w/ a 14 year old is wrong...YES I realize he is not going to pursue it, but it APPEARS as though he at least thought about it. No need to get hot under the collar dude.

 

[Emulex]

dude im 30 with a 20year old gf. Does that make me a pedo??

wait a few years on it dude, statutory rape is a 10 years to the door..

 

[kami]

I'm sorry, I guess I was supposed to use my magical powers to know that you were calling a good guy like Stefan a pedophile &quot;all in good fun.&quot; :disgust:

 

[compuwiz1]

Kami, pedophile would only apply if there were action...that is what I was referring to.

14= Girl (not woman)
19= Man

The two together are not a legal.

If anyone that age would have moved on my daughter when she was that age, it would have resulted in someone getting whacked with a 2x4. Just warning him to not let it get anywhere beyond where it is, while she is too young, is all.