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who knows about pre-nups ???

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Stifko

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Are there any off the shelf contacts that you can buy and use as a prenuptial agreement ?
Is it kind of unromantic to want to have one ?
How do you tell your wife to be that you want to have a prenup ?
 
Kramer: Ask her to sign a pre-nup.
George: What does that do?
Kramer: Because most women when they're asked to sign a pre-nup are so offended they back out of the marriage.
George: They are?... Elaine?
Elaine: I wouldn't sign one.
 
It is a delicate subject, but one worth considering when one partners has substantially more assets that then other.
 
If I ever get married and I make more money than my wife, I'm gettin a pre-nup. I have seen too many people get screwed over by divorces around here.

If my soon to be wife makes more than me and asked me to sign one I would, but I would not bring the subject up.
 
Originally posted by: Stifko
Are there any off the shelf contacts that you can buy and use as a prenuptial agreement ?
Is it kind of unromantic to want to have one ?
How do you tell your fiance to be that you want to have a prenup ?
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If you're signing a prenuptual agreement, you shouldn't be getting married anyway. A marriage is something that is supposed to be for LIFE, with that whole "to death do us part" phrase and everything. If you're not sure you really want to be together for life, and you think you might split up sometime in the future, than you shouldn't be getting married in the first place, it's contrary tothe entire idea of marriage.
 
Originally posted by: acemcmac
Originally posted by: Stifko
Are there any off the shelf contacts that you can buy and use as a prenuptial agreement ?
Is it kind of unromantic to want to have one ?
How do you tell your fiance to be that you want to have a prenup ?
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there's two e's in the female fiancee
 
Originally posted by: godmare
Originally posted by: acemcmac
Originally posted by: Stifko
Are there any off the shelf contacts that you can buy and use as a prenuptial agreement ?
Is it kind of unromantic to want to have one ?
How do you tell your fiance to be that you want to have a prenup ?
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there's two e's in the female fiancee
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and "wife to be" pretty much covered it already...
 
Originally posted by: notfred
If you're signing a prenuptual agreement, you shouldn't be getting married anyway. A marriage is something that is supposed to be for LIFE, with that whole "to death do us part" phrase and everything. If you're not sure you really want to be together for life, and you think you might split up sometime in the future, than you shouldn't be getting married in the first place, it's contrary tothe entire idea of marriage.
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Thats kind of my attitude too, BUT I have seen so much divorce in my family.
I have a hard time beliving that marriage is for life.
Thats the wrong mindset to get married in, eh ?

No, I am not asking you how to talk to my fiancee. I just wanted to hear some opinions.
 
Originally posted by: notfred
If you're signing a prenuptual agreement, you shouldn't be getting married anyway. A marriage is something that is supposed to be for LIFE, with that whole "to death do us part" phrase and everything. If you're not sure you really want to be together for life, and you think you might split up sometime in the future, than you shouldn't be getting married in the first place, it's contrary tothe entire idea of marriage.
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So is getting a divorce, but hey $hit happens.

Sign a prenup, get with modern times.
 
Sounds like a good idea if you don't want to get robbed blind.

I'd try to do it, or better yet just not get married.

EDIT: Say something with the general idea of "How can I know you aren't in it for the money if you don't sign this?" heh heh.
 
Divorce rate is at about 55% from what I understand.

Women Cheat
Men Cheat

People change and grow apart

Marriage is hard work

Lack of excitement

Kids ruin the womens sex drive



I agree, don't get married! Co-habitate. I have been with the same women 11 yrs now and we are not married, we even have child together. Our bank accounts are seperate and we are not joint on anything!

If you have more to lose in a divorce than her, then have her sign a pre-nup. I would definitely consult a lawyer and have it drawn up with your stipulations. Using a home-brew legal software could have it dismissed at a later date. Pay the money if you have so much to lose.






 
unless you have over a million in the bank or one of you has a history of divorce, you shouldn't really need one.
 
Originally posted by: Fmr12B




I agree, don't get married! Co-habitate. I have been with the same women 11 yrs now and we are not married, we even have child together.
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That would work fine for me, but she wants to get hitched, especially if we have kids.
 
Originally posted by: Stifko
Are there any off the shelf contacts that you can buy and use as a prenuptial agreement ?
Is it kind of unromantic to want to have one ?
How do you tell your wife to be that you want to have a prenup ?
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Legalzoom prenups there.
 
Originally posted by: Stark
unless you have over a million in the bank or one of you has a history of divorce, you shouldn't really need one.
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ehh! wrong!

even if you have 10k in the bank and make 50k a year it is a good idea.

i have seen guys get taken for everything they own. A friend of my wife's got a divorce. He bought a house a year before the marriage and had 30k in savings for retirement. he was married a year and a half. She forced the sale of th ehouse (wich i thought tha tsince it was his it wouldnt matter) and got 10k of his money. NOT to mention the $900 a month he had to give her.


They are a good idea. just because you have one does not mean that you are going to get a divorce.
 
Originally posted by: Fmr12B
Divorce rate is at about 55% from what I understand.

Women Cheat
Men Cheat

People change and grow apart

Marriage is hard work

Lack of excitement

Kids ruin the womens sex drive



I agree, don't get married! Co-habitate. I have been with the same women 11 yrs now and we are not married, we even have child together. Our bank accounts are seperate and we are not joint on anything!

If you have more to lose in a divorce than her, then have her sign a pre-nup. I would definitely consult a lawyer and have it drawn up with your stipulations. Using a home-brew legal software could have it dismissed at a later date. Pay the money if you have so much to lose.
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I believe you'd fall under what is known as a common law marriage. Not quite sure, I'm sured a more informed memeber can post details.
 
i'm all for prenup agreements, but on the other hand it kinda makes it easier for the man to fvck up the marriage. Well, if I screw up, I have this thing to protect me... Are there clauses and whatnot that say like "if male cheats, prenup is void?"
 
definitely get a pre-nup. I know two people whom I went to school with who were ruined financially by a costly divorce and ended up taking their own lives becasuse of it. Went from having a nice house with a two car garage, to getting divorced and living in a bachelor appartment, to killing themselves. fvcking crazy.
 
There is nothing wrong with having a pre-nuptual agreement. What is wrong is being afraid to discuss it with your future spouse. IMHO that is an indicator that you do not have good communication to begin with. Prior to getting married, all of those tough things should be openly and honestly discussed (children, religion, finances, ets). That is what pre-marriage counseling is for. Another perspective is that a pre-nuptual agreement is also used to protect the other spouse from previous/future credit issues that may come up.

g/l
 
i would bring the prenup up with my fiancee (if i had one). it actually matters more if you dont make whole lot. lets say you make $50K~$60K. Now thats plenty for one person and decent for two people. But if you are getting a divorce and she demands $1000 a month plus child care, its gonna make life pretty crappy.

prenups are to protect each party in the unlikely event of divorce. Now to make her feel better , she can stipulate a prenup be void is either party has an extramarital affair. (that of course has to be written in the prenup)

the hard part is to convince her that you guys should get one.
 
Originally posted by: cerebusPu

prenups are to protect each party in the likely event of divorce. Now to make her feel better , she can stipulate a prenup be void is either party has an extramarital affair. (that of course has to be written in the prenup)

the hard part is to convince her that you guys should get one.
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