Where does your spouse or SO fall on the political spectrum in relation to you?

[MrSquished]

Here in Northern NJ a stones throw from Manhattan, it's very much blue country. In the city, Brooklyn-Queens-Manhattan-Bronx, and excluding Staten Island, voters went Hilary like 75-80%.

I'm on online dating. On OKCupid I'd say a decent amount of female profiles say something like "Keep moving if you are a Trump or Republican supporter". They aren't missing much opportunity since so many voted left vs right.

Last night I went on a date with a fervent Trump supporter. I found that out immediately so avoided political talk for the most part. It went ok but still not sure that could become a serious relationship. But open to checking it out. It could become a major obstacle if you are someone who likes to talk politics on a regular basis and has a passionate point of view. Like myself.

What's your situation?

 

[TheVrolok]

I'm a moderate Democrat (probably more of a libertarian), and my wife is a pretty similar, maybe a bit more left. My father and mother were on opposite ends and they worked out just fine, though.

 

[bshole]

Here in Northern NJ a stones throw from Manhattan, it's very much blue country. In the city, excluding Staten Island, voters went Hilary like 75-80%.

I'm on online dating. On OKCupid I'd say a decent amount of female profiles say something like "Keep moving if you are a Trump or Republican supporter". They aren't missing much opportunity since so many voted left vs right.

Last night I went on a date with a fervent Trump supporter. I found that out immediately so avoided political talk for the most part. It went ok but still not sure that could become a serious relationship. But open to checking it out. It could become a major obstacle if you are someone who likes to talk politics on a regular basis and has a passionate point of view. Like myself.

What's your situation?

My wife is completely apolitical.

If this girl was hot, go for it! How many times are you going to get the chance to literally screw a Trump supporter?

Seriously though, I know atheists that married fundamentalist Christians and their relationships lasted an entire lifetime. If there is chemistry, that is all that really matters.

So what do you do if the person you’re dating—a person who is usually reasonable, insightful, logical, and full of sanity—for some reason can’t see the light when it comes to the upcoming election? How in the world do you two make it during these last few weeks and still maintain some semblance of a loving and respectful relationship?

Well, it’s a tough situation you’re in, but plenty of couples have weathered this type of storm in the past. In fact, a lot of very compatible people with opposite political views can have successful marriages. What’s important is to agree on a strategy for how to address the reality that one of you is a donkey and the other, an elephant. Here are a few different approaches you might consider.

http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/relationships/im-right-shes-left-are-we-doomed/#.WMaLbvnytaQ

 

[Hayabusa Rider]

I'm whatever is compassionate, respects the rights of all people without favoritism, and for prudent, well informed action.

My wife is appalled by ignorance and foolish self serving behavior.

We're pretty close.

 

[vi edit]

My wife is more lefter than me.

 

[JulesMaximus]

I'm fairly moderate with left leanings. My wife is also fairly moderate but with conservative leanings. I've voted for democrats and republicans, so has my wife.

We both think Trump is an inept moron with the temperament of a spoiled child.

 

[emperus]

Here in Northern NJ a stones throw from Manhattan, it's very much blue country. In the city, Brooklyn-Queens-Manhattan-Bronx, and excluding Staten Island, voters went Hilary like 75-80%.

I'm on online dating. On OKCupid I'd say a decent amount of female profiles say something like "Keep moving if you are a Trump or Republican supporter". They aren't missing much opportunity since so many voted left vs right.

Last night I went on a date with a fervent Trump supporter. I found that out immediately so avoided political talk for the most part. It went ok but still not sure that could become a serious relationship. But open to checking it out. It could become a major obstacle if you are someone who likes to talk politics on a regular basis and has a passionate point of view. Like myself.

What's your situation?

I would think with concern with dating a fervent Trump supporter is more than talking politics. The fervent Trump supporters I've me seen to be devoid form reality, highly conspiratorial, easily manipulated and incapable of self thought. Those don't seem to be qualities of a life partner. Now, if she said something like he's a complete moron, but he's going to cut my taxes in half.. well..

 

[s0me0nesmind1]

Here in Northern NJ a stones throw from Manhattan, it's very much blue country. In the city, Brooklyn-Queens-Manhattan-Bronx, and excluding Staten Island, voters went Hilary like 75-80%.

I'm on online dating. On OKCupid I'd say a decent amount of female profiles say something like "Keep moving if you are a Trump or Republican supporter". They aren't missing much opportunity since so many voted left vs right.

Last night I went on a date with a fervent Trump supporter. I found that out immediately so avoided political talk for the most part. It went ok but still not sure that could become a serious relationship. But open to checking it out. It could become a major obstacle if you are someone who likes to talk politics on a regular basis and has a passionate point of view. Like myself.

What's your situation?

I can definitely relate. To start, i met my wife on OKCupid... which by the way is awesome. There is no better way to meet a SO than judging them all based on their information - and more importantly on their grammar. Its not hard to judge someone fairly accurately than by evaluating their basic sentence structure. That said, my wife opted to message me first prior to me finding her profile. Take all that for what you will.

Wife tends to lean more liberal while I'm more conservative. We have our similarities and we have our differences. For instance, I am all for government involvement when there is a CLEAR lack of capitalism such as Cable companies, Airlines, and health. That doesn't mean putting government programs in place, it simply means more tight regulations.

It's also funny, since my wife is an immigrant from Latin America at a young age, she takes a more conservative approach to immigration that I agree with. She doesn't say deport them all and lock them up, but she had voiced ideas such as registering all of them, not deporting them, but instead not giving them citizenship and taxing their income at higher rates.

We have our political arguments, but we mesh together just fine somehow

 

[imported_tajmahal]

I'm right and my wife is more moderate. It's always a fun debate.

 

[Younigue]

Before this election we very rarely discussed politics. When I met my husband 18 years ago he was conservative but maturity and years of my taint by introducing him to all kinds of people and to compassion for all, we're both open-minded and lean heavily to the left. That being said we also agree that the majority of politicians are self-serving, liars, inundated with agendas that do not serve their constituents. We don't trust them.

 

[dank69]

I'm left and my wife doesn't care. She hates Trump though and she hates America for voting for him.

 

[soulcougher73]

I'm most likely a left leaning libertarian, but my wife is probably more moderate democrat.

 

[glenn1]

I'm whatever is compassionate, respects the rights of all people without favoritism, and for prudent, well informed action.

My wife is appalled by ignorance and foolish self serving behavior.

We're pretty close.

2 out of 3 Republican for you ain't bad.

I'm medium strength libertarian but not really political when not in front of a keyboard. My wife is democratic and likewise not normally vocally political but the election of Trump has made her speak out more, at least at home.

 

[Blackjack200]

Last night I went on a date with a fervent Trump supporter. I found that out immediately so avoided political talk for the most part. It went ok but still not sure that could become a serious relationship. But open to checking it out. It could become a major obstacle if you are someone who likes to talk politics on a regular basis and has a passionate point of view. Like myself.

Being a Trump supporter goes far beyond a question of political spectrum. They are supporting a confessed rapist and an individual whose personal conduct is beneath what I consider to be the minimum for a humane person. Absolutely not. I've stopped associating with anyone who has declared support for him.

A Trump voter is a little different. I still don't think I could do it, but if someone voted for Trump because they believed some weird things about Clinton, it's far better in my book.

I recently dated a Republican woman who told me she could not vote for Trump or Clinton, but she was going to write in Rubio or something. I feel like that's tolerable in the short term. But with American politics the way they are now, with such deep divisions, I think it's best to just find someone on your side. I can't see myself having the same views over where to live, how to raise a child etc. It's just a completely different way of looking at life.

10 years ago my answer would have been very different, but today? No.

I'm whatever is compassionate, respects the rights of all people without favoritism, and for prudent, well informed action.

My wife is appalled by ignorance and foolish self serving behavior.

We're pretty close.

LMAO. Anything but take a side.

Edit: I should say that I think even being in a relationship with a traditional Pelosi/Schumer type Democrat would be a challenge. The party has serious problems, and if someone can't recognize that... I don't know.

 

[Commodus]

I'm fairly tolerant of political ideology in my partner (though it helps that I haven't run into any real disagreements yet)... what I wouldn't accept is if it was attached to views that reflected profound ignorance.

It'd be one thing if you voted conservative because you believe in smaller government, free market principles or a stronger military. That's fine, even if I have my objections. But it's a dealbreaker for me if you reject basic climate science, if you think Muslims are a massive threat to the country, or if you think LGBT people need to be 'fixed.' Those are the kinds of views that indicate susceptibility at the least, and outright bigotry at worst. I like a woman with intelligence and compassion.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

My preferred hand is to the left of center.

 

[MrSquished]

She basically called Trump something like brilliant or along those lines. The later I brought up NPR because I'm an NPR junkie and go to various events every year. She immediately said she couldn't listen to that liberal garbage, and I'm paraphrasing. I mentioned a great show where amateur storytellers get on stage and tell a story. It's not a political show at all. She said she'd rather not listen to a bunch of amateurs tell stories. I was like wtf? Other than that the conversation was good. Three hours flew by.

Just asked her out again. If she says yes, I'll go and bring up politics and see where she lies on various issues and see if it's tolerable. If not, then move on.

 

[Blackjack200]

She basically called Trump something like brilliant or along those lines.

Hard pass.

 

[bshole]

She basically called Trump something like brilliant or along those lines. The later I brought up NPR because I'm an NPR junkie and go to various events every year. She immediately said she couldn't listen to that liberal garbage, and I'm paraphrasing. I mentioned a great show where amateur storytellers get on stage and tell a story. It's not a political show at all. She said she'd rather not listen to a bunch of amateurs tell stories. I was like wtf? Other than that the conversation was good. Three hours flew by.

Just asked her out again. If she says yes, I'll go and bring up politics and see where she lies on various issues and see if it's tolerable. If not, then move on.

Dude if you are attracted to her, go for it. I wouldn't hit the politics at all. Talk about other stuff and find out what kind of person she is.

The number one thing, get her to talk about herself and minimize talking about yourself. That is the number one mistake guys make.

 

[Zaap]

My wife has very little tolerance for people who get overly bent out of shape over petty politics. And most of it is very petty. The other day she was laughing at how some of the most privileged people in the history of the world, love to act like they are the world's biggest victims. Yup.

When I first met her she probably leaned to the liberal side, but now I'd say she's probably more moderate to conservative, though no one label really applies. On the issues she cares about she can lean either way. Thankfully, she's definitely not down on the "women are victims!" plantation of the Democrats, but she's no fan of clueless Republicans either.

Like me, she thinks Trump is a big joke at best an accident that got elected by being the 'lesser' bad choice. But both of us have shared many a laugh over some of our more rabid friends who are batshit over Trump being elected. One couple in particular we've had to break all contact with, because they've become horrible bores with Trump obsession.

I think it would actually suck to have a really politically rabid spouse, *even if she agreed with me all the time!* I think she keeps me grounded, realizing that none of this shit really matters anywhere near as much as people make it out, and that none of it is anything to get all batshit over.

 

[BoomerD]

Your poll choices suck. I'm a fairly conservative Democrat...actually farther right on lots of things than many Republicans...and my wife has turned into a pretty liberal Democrat.

 

[MrSquished]

Your poll choices suck. I'm a fairly conservative Democrat...actually farther right on lots of things than many Republicans...and my wife has turned into a pretty liberal Democrat.

Didn't want to make too many choices and dilute. Sounds like you are pretty straightforwards, you are further right than most republicans and wife is left.

let me help you out - you are right, she is left.

 

[BoomerD]

Didn't want to make too many choices and dilute. Sounds like you are pretty straightforwards, you are further right than most republicans and wife is left.

let me help you out - you are right, she is left.

Yet I've never voted for a Republican ever.

 

[MrSquished]

Well Trump girl was not interested in a second date. Which is fine. I kinda came to the conclusion that I could not be with someone who is a hardcore Trump supporter, thinking he is totally brilliant. And has no ability to have an open mind about non-political programming just because it comes from NPR.

I could be comfortable with a moderate who went Trump and has an open mind to other experiences.

I just wanted the chance to fuck the Trump right out of this other gal. Alas I did not have that mojo.

 

[NetWareHead]

I'm pretty right and voted for Trump and my fiance is moderate but with some strong right leanings when it comes to issues like welfare, immigration and gun control. She has some artsy-fartsy left leanings too and has a bunch of gay friends so moderate is probably a good way to describe her. She voted for Jill Stein even though she had no chance of winning just because she hates Hillary so much and wanted to show some support for an alternate candidate.