when you married your SO did you ask your wife's dad?

[MongGrel]

TIME WARP !!!!!!!!!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sg-vgGuTD8A

 

[MartyMcFly3]

I asked. Wife and I were living together at the time. Her dad scares the hell out of me so had her mom join us when I asked so I wasn't murdered.

 

[Zargon]

It is not meaningless if it is a sign of respect. Could I have skipped it? Sure. But I am not that kind of person. I had known my in-laws for 7 years and had lived with my now-wife for 2 years when I "asked". I knew they would say 'yes', but that was not the point of the act.

Did those of you who did not ask for permission, have their in-laws (or even, just father-in-law) walk their bride down the aisle? Give them away? Hmmmmm....

MotionMan

no and no, but dad is a POS, and in the days when asking mattered, he would have been dead already for being a drunk worthless piece of shit anways


If he weren't, and my indicated prior that it was important, sure, I would have, to appease her

 

[waffleironhead]

I offered him 12 horses and half my flock of sheep for his daughter. Bride prices are out of control, but what can you do?

 

[crab]

Hell no. We didn't get along anyway (to be exact - it was her step-dad but he did adopt and raise her with her biological mother. Her father loves me)...He had already given me indirect death threats.

He refused to walk her down the aisle so my wife just said "Fine, fuck you too" and asked her maternal grandfather to do it (whom pissy step dad dislikes too since he advised my mother-in-law not to marry him either years back). His head sploded since he couldn't get his way and reluctantly agreed to do it.

In all of our otherwise beautiful wedding photos he doesn't smile and looks away from the camera. Crybaby.

 

[GasX]

What exactly do you do when he says no? Just go back to fornicating? I never understood this.

Smart thing to do is to ask for his blessing not his permission. In the modern world, you aren't really asking permission, but it is at the very least a sign of respect.

 

[Remobz]

There's a difference between respect for the in-laws and a meaningless gesture. Are you really going to skip out on asking your girlfriend if her father says no? Probably not. So it is, by definition, a meaningless gesture. And I contend that you can build a rapport with your future in-laws without pandering in the form of "seeking permission" to marry their daughter. I didn't ask my in-laws, but I'd gotten to know them well enough that they had pretty much already accepted me into the family. Why do I need verbal confirmation beyond that from people who aren't even involved in the union? Their opinion has no bearing on anything, even if they are in favor of it.

Granted, I'm a little weird... I got an angry phone call from my mother several days after the engagement asking why she had to learn about it from my fiancee's Facebook page, so clearly I'm not big on strange family traditions like "communicating."

You are weird and I disagree with you