When - if ever - do you pay for your dates' dinner/ticket/etc?

[Fraggable]

This is something I probably messed up on in my last 5 dates, I was wondering what the concencus is. I'd like to get opinions from women too.

 

[Alienwho]

NEVAR!

yeah just consider this a free bump.

 

[Fraggable]

so... is that a vote for never?

 

[BigJ]

If you ask them out, you pay for the first few dates.

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by: Fraggable
concencus

It's spelled consensus.

I usually pay for everything.

 

[Fraggable]

Originally posted by: Vincent

Originally posted by: Fraggable
concencus

It's spelled consensus.

I usually pay for everything.

I thought you weren't supposed to pay to avoid the gold diggers?

Though I can see paying if you asked them out... it makes sense.

 

[mrjminer]

I pay until she offers to pay. When she offers to pay, try to play it off by saying "no, it's ok I've got it," the first time, then if she insists further, then let her. If she lets you pay without following through with her request to pay (ie, after you say 'no ive got it' she doesn't give another attempt to pay), when the check arrives jokingly say (add a bit of laughter with this), 'I'll let you get the next one" as you look at the check with a slightly grimaced face. Usually, she'll pick up the check after that one or, if not, the one after that.

 

[z42]

If you invite someone to an event/dinner/etc. you should pay for it.

 

[Alienwho]

Well if a girl asks me out, which does happen, I expect them to pay for everything. If I like her, i'll return the favor by paying next time (and probably most of the time from then on out).

If I ask her out, I can only expect that i'm going to pay. If she passes the test by either volunteering to pay, or saying she'll have to pay me back with another date, then i'll continue seeing her.

 

[JS80]

setting the tone of going dutch in the beginning will save you a lot of money from the inevitable break up

 

[Jeeebus]

as someone who is happily married...

pay for the date. Unless you don't ever want to be happily married.

 

[MaverickBP]

Mix it up or just stop really going out alot. she'll get the hint. The first few dates I do simple cheat dates that allow you to get to know the person...not them getting to know your paycheck. As long as she isn't immature you can actually talk to her about it. If both people make the same amount of money...no one should be fitting the bill 100% of the time after the first few dates and especially if it leads to a relationship.

 

[ArchCenturion]

Seems to me like the one who asks the other out initiallly should pay for the first few dates. After you guys get to know eachother better, consider taking turns paying for things depending on each of your financial situations.

I know that with my old gf, her parents paid for almost everything she had, so everything she made by working she kinda just saved. I on the other hand have to pay for my car, my insurance, and my tuition. So i really had no problem when if ever, she offered to pay.

 

[olds]

I invite, I pay.

 

[puffff]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
I invite, I pay.

ditto.

 

[yowolabi]

Originally posted by: Fraggable

Originally posted by: Vincent

Originally posted by: Fraggable
concencus

It's spelled consensus.

I usually pay for everything.

I thought you weren't supposed to pay to avoid the gold diggers?

Though I can see paying if you asked them out... it makes sense.

First few dates I pay. But i'm also choosing the places we go, and I don't choose expensive things. Bowling, Ice Skating, a Museum, a walk, an outdoor event like the Jazz Festival or Air&Water show..... I might have to pay for lunch or dinner, but it won't be at some expensive place.

After the first 1 or 2 dates, she should be offering to pay. Usually i'll decline at first and tell her she can get the tip or something, and then after that, i'll tell her she can get the next one. If she doesn't start paying or offering after we're dating regularly, then that's a problem unless i know she makes a lot less than me.

 

[giantpinkbunnyhead]

I always pay, even if she invites me. It's just something I feel good doing and I've never had trouble with gold diggers either.

The only time I dont, is if she is one of those types who doesn't appreciate having other people buy her stuff (including food). Then we just split it, or take turns (I buy this one, you buy next one).

 

[giantpinkbunnyhead]

Double post... whoops. Someone shoot me.

 

[spidey07]

first day I'll almost always pay as I'm "taking them out for a good time"

second date I'll normally pay but they'll offer to help with somethihng and I'll let them.

3rd date - well that's dinner at my place and sex, normally forget who pays but if she does the dinner, I bring the wine and Jack Daniels.

 

[Dragoon42]

it's a date man, pay for it, wtf?! When you start dating you can reverse it around, but it's a date, wtf

 

[gooseman]

The only way I would ever consider NOT paying would be if she asked me out. The man should always pay basically. But then again, I grew up in a different time than most of you guys.

 

[JackRipper]

O dang... all these years i've been payin for everything... this sux.