when does flirting become cheating?

[eakers]

in your opinon:

at what point does flirting in good fun become cheating? is it when romantic intentions develop or is it when you actually get physically intimate? what about going out with someone alone (say for coffee or renting a movie) and lots of flirting is involved but no "physical actions" occur? what about cyber sex, is that cheating?

whadda think?

*kat. <-- flirt.

 

[pg22]

When you post pictures of your breast on messageboards..?

 

[TallBill]

the act of flirting is cheating... when i was with my gf... i wasnt even attracted to other women at all.

of course, in that sense.. i did cheat a little.. but it wasnt intentional

 

[N8Magic]

I think that flirting becomes cheating when you have intentions of something happening, even though you are just flirting.

To explain, I think there are two types of flirting. The first is when you approach the situation knowing nothing will ever happen. In this case, while saying the flirty stuff, your mind may wander and say "What if?", but it goes no further than that.

The second is when you approach the situation HOPING that something will happen. That I consider cheating.

 

[pulse8]

I think that anything that you can't tell your significant other about is cheating.

Some couples are more open than others, but ultimately, if you have to lie about it you shouldn't be doing it.

 

[cavemanmoron]

well they say eating Ain't cheating...

 

[b0mbrman]

<< I think that anything that you can't tell your significant other about is cheating.
Some couples are more open than others, but ultimately, if you have to lie about it you shouldn't be doing it. >>



Hmmm...I don't know about that one

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

When your heart or mind betrays the person you're currently involved with. You can cheat on someone without making any sort of social interaction at all. Stop it before it goes too far, and you're

Nik

 

[pyonir]

i would say when someone REALLY wants to spend more time with someone than their significant other. i don't know if i would call it cheating per se, but i would think it not to be right. of course i will admit that i am the jealous type, so i don't really like it if my g/f is hanging out with any other guy more than me or substantially more than would be normal. of course, i have no g/f so i don't have to worry about this

btw: eakers, i like the link in your sig now...very clever

 

[TallBill]

actually.. i agree with that.. but take it a step further... if yer doin somethin that if yer significant other was there it'd piss em off... then... its not cheating.. but rude..

 

[vi edit]

I think that it really comes down to intent.

If you intend it to be something of an advance then it would rapidly be approaching that cheating threshold.

 

[pulse8]

Well, I think something that really needs to be defined is flirting. I think we can all agree to a certain extent on what cheating is, but everyone has their own idea of what flirting is.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

I must admit that I am a very jealous boyfriend. If my significant other does anything with another guy, I have to swallow it every time and realize that the committment between us is more than that and that it's my mind that's playing games with me.

Nik

 

[AreaCode707]

For me, flirting is to show a guy that I like him, as in, I'm interested in him. I consider flirting to be a kind of go-ahead signal for a guy and there's no one that's getting that from me besides my bf.

 

[TallBill]

<< I think that it really comes down to intent.

If you intend it to be something of an advance then it would rapidly be approaching that cheating threshold. >>

yes, but yer sig other might not feel the same.. whats in good intentions to one person might not be to another... for example.. i know some girls kiss their guy friends on the cheek.. its just normal for them.. nothing meant to it at allk.... well i saw a gf of mine do this once.. and i realized what it meant.. but it really felt super weird when she was doin that at all.. let alone when im standing right next to her...

basicly.. you really have to respect your partners rules of a relationship as well... they should be the same.. "cheating" to you.. has to be what "cheating" is to them

 

[Tripleshot]

Uh I'm pretty sure swapping body fluids qualifies as cheating.

 

[spanky]

its not cheating if u don't get caught *hint hint*

 

[TallBill]

<< For me, flirting is to show a guy that I like him, as in, I'm interested in him. I consider flirting to be a kind of go-ahead signal for a guy and there's no one that's getting that from me besides my bf. >>

AH HAH!!! so girls DO know that they are flirting!!! when i flirt its purely unintentional and unplanned... the secret is out.. me puts on the flirting radar

 

[erikiksaz]

<<is it when romantic intentions develop or is it when you actually get physically intimate>>

I would like to think physically intimate, but i wouldn't sit well NOT KNOWING that my partner's developing feelings about some other person as well!!

 

[pulse8]

<<

<< For me, flirting is to show a guy that I like him, as in, I'm interested in him. I consider flirting to be a kind of go-ahead signal for a guy and there's no one that's getting that from me besides my bf. >>

AH HAH!!! so girls DO know that they are flirting!!! when i flirt its purely unintentional and unplanned... the secret is out.. me puts on the flirting radar >>


The bad part about women is that most of the time you don't know if they are flirting or just being nice.

 

[Bignate603]

When clothes cease to be involved in your flirtation you've probably crossed the line.

 

[TallBill]

<< The bad part about women is that most of the time you don't know if they are flirting or just being nice. >>

lol, i second that. altho.. sometimes its quite obvious.. like the time i was alone in an elevator with a girl.. she kept lookin at my pants.. and was like "nice pants" .. i was wearin super ugly boards shorts.. yet she sounded sincere.. i went back to my room and bragged to my roomate that she wanted me... he was like "no f'in way".. then i asked some females friends.. and they were like "hahaha, she wanted yer donger"

 

[chickenhead]

If you have to ask, it is probably cheating.

 

[Random Variable]

when there's penetration :Q

 

[Dually]

Flirting is romantic intentions, face it. That is the whole point of flirting.