Whats the best way to ask a girl out

[GrantMeThePower]

People always say, "just ask her out" but what exactly does that mean? I mean, seriously, who would say yes to a guy that just randomly walks up to them and says, "Hi I'm ____. Would you like to go to dinner?"

How, then, do you go about it? Is it always dinner? Coffee? Drinks? How do you determine which to ask? Do you always ask for a number and then make plans, make plans immediately, or give your number to reduce pressure?

These practical issues are more difficult for me to really get a grasp on than just the "having the balls to ask" part.

 

[Jeeebus]

you should definitely over-analyze it here while cute girl after cute girl passes by unapproached.

 

[James Bond]

You need to get a conversation going, then ask her what she is doing later.

 

[Skunkwourk]

You don't literally walk up to someone randomly and ask. You try to strike up a conversation first. If you get a good feeling then you can think about asking.

 

[Aikouka]

Haha last girl I tried to talk to in a bank just tooooootally brushed me off . But it kinda felt good, because I don't normally do things like that. Just do something to go along with the situation. If the situation is tense, do something to ease it up, if the situation is really really lackluster, go over and liven things up a bit. Just be you and introduce yourself. If she doesn't like you for you, then chances are she won't like it down the road either .

 

[KK]

say "nice shoes," well you know the rest.

 

[montypythizzle]

Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
People always say, "just ask her out" but what exactly does that mean? I mean, seriously, who would say yes to a guy that just randomly walks up to them and says, "Hi I'm ____. Would you like to go to dinner?"

How, then, do you go about it? Is it always dinner? Coffee? Drinks? How do you determine which to ask? Do you always ask for a number and then make plans, make plans immediately, or give your number to reduce pressure?

These practical issues are more difficult for me to really get a grasp on than just the "having the balls to ask" part.

Tell her youll show her your conroe superpi results

 

[randay]

"sup b!tch, prom?"

 

[James Bond]

Originally posted by: montypythizzle

Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
People always say, "just ask her out" but what exactly does that mean? I mean, seriously, who would say yes to a guy that just randomly walks up to them and says, "Hi I'm ____. Would you like to go to dinner?"

How, then, do you go about it? Is it always dinner? Coffee? Drinks? How do you determine which to ask? Do you always ask for a number and then make plans, make plans immediately, or give your number to reduce pressure?

These practical issues are more difficult for me to really get a grasp on than just the "having the balls to ask" part.

Tell her youll show her your conroe superpi results

Lol.

 

[IronWing]

Follow her home and scream sweet nothings at her windows. According to what I see in the movies, she'll find this endearing and agree to go out with you.

 

[fLum0x]

tell her "i'd hit it"
j/k

 

[tomywishbone]

"Hey Kittycat, how 'bout a drink?"

 

[IronWing]

Originally posted by: montypythizzle

Tell her youll show her your conroe superpi results

Thank goodness for wikipedia. I'm hip.

 

[randay]

"pics?"

 

[Cal166]

When in doubt...

 

[IronWing]

Originally posted by: randay
"pics?"

Yes, by way of introducing yourself you should whip out your cell camera and snap a couple pics. It should get the conversation rolling.

 

[TreyRandom]

Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
People always say, "just ask her out" but what exactly does that mean? I mean, seriously, who would say yes to a guy that just randomly walks up to them and says, "Hi I'm ____. Would you like to go to dinner?"

How, then, do you go about it? Is it always dinner? Coffee? Drinks? How do you determine which to ask? Do you always ask for a number and then make plans, make plans immediately, or give your number to reduce pressure?

These practical issues are more difficult for me to really get a grasp on than just the "having the balls to ask" part.

If she thinks the guy is cute, and she's unattached, she will. If she says no, don't take it personally.

Doesn't matter whether it's dinner or coffee or drinks. Let's start with step one... just ask her for a date. If she says yes, THEN start stressing (for no reason) over what to do on the date.

If she wants to give you her number, she will give you her number. If she wants to make plans on the spot, she'll make plans on the spot with you.

Dude, the responses you'll get are as varied as the people you'll see on here. Remember, there are two sides to this conversation. You can't plan for every contingency. One girl might say "Yes." One girl might ignore you completely. One girl may kiss you on the spot. One girl might laugh in your face. So for us to tell you exactly how to script your conversation would be as useful as telling you which direction to face in order to feel the wind blow across your face sideways. Best advice we can give you is to man up and just do it.

 

[SonnyDaze]

You: Hi! Say, do you like apples?

Her: Hmm...yeah, I do.

You: Great! What'd ya say we go back to my place and I fvck the sh|t outta ya? How ya like them apples?

Her: :shocked:

You:

 

[KoolDrew]

You: "Are you single?"
Her: "Yes."
You: "Great, so when are you going to ask me out?"

After you have already started a conversation, of course.

 

[yowolabi]

Originally posted by: Eghck
You don't literally walk up to someone randomly and ask. You try to strike up a conversation first. If you get a good feeling then you can think about asking.

Exactly, except I'd say that once you went through the conversation you ask unless she mentions a husband or says something specifically to warn you off.

You start a conversation about something that's going on whether it's how long the line is or how much you like her shoes. If she doesn't blow you off immediately, keep talking to her and try to find out some things about her about her whether it's her name, why she's in the location she is, or things she likes to do. Be lighthearted and try to make her laugh, but don't force it and look like a homer. As soon as you feel you've established a rapport, introduce yourself and get her name, if you haven't already done this. Then say something to the effect that you have to go but that you enjoyed meeting her and you would like to take her out this weekend and get to know her better. If you managed to find out something she likes to do during the conversation ask her to do that specifically. Ask for her phone number to arrange the details, smile and leave.

That's the formula you should start with. I tried to be vague on purpose. You shouldn't go into the conversation with any preconceived ideas except that you want to find out what she's like, establish some chemistry, and arrange some way of hooking up with her later if you still like her after hearing her speak. The conversation can be as short as 1 minute or as long as hours, but make sure that you end it before you start scrambling for conversation topics.

 

[randay]

You: Are those real?
her: what?
you: HONK! HONK!

 

[GrantMeThePower]

Do you ask her if she's single first, or just go for it and then let her say, "sorry i have a boyfriend" or whatever?

What about the question of getting her number vs. giving your number?

 

[OSX]

Whip it out.

 

[anxi80]

Jerry: I gotta talk to her. What do you think?
George: Cold? How are you going to do that? You're not one of those guys.
Jerry: I'm going to psyche myself into it like those people that just walk across the hot coals.
George: They're not mocked and humiliated when they get to the other side.
Jerry: I have to. I won't be able to live with myself.
George: Wait a minute Jerry, there's a bigger issue here. If you go through that wall and become one of those guys I'll be left here on this side. Take me with you.
Jerry: I can't.
George: What are you going to say?
Jerry: I don't know, "Hi".
George: You think you're going to the other side with "Hi"? You're not going to make it.

 

[yowolabi]

Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
People always say, "just ask her out" but what exactly does that mean? I mean, seriously, who would say yes to a guy that just randomly walks up to them and says, "Hi I'm ____. Would you like to go to dinner?"

How, then, do you go about it? Is it always dinner? Coffee? Drinks? How do you determine which to ask? Do you always ask for a number and then make plans, make plans immediately, or give your number to reduce pressure?

These practical issues are more difficult for me to really get a grasp on than just the "having the balls to ask" part.

Oh, and to answer some other questions.

You determine where to ask her based on the flow of conversation, the circumstances under which you met her, and what you like to do. There is no right answer. Dinner is a "safe" choice because everyone eats and is willing to go to a restaurant. Not everyone drinks coffee or goes to bars, but it's okay to ask if she does before asking her to one of those places.

You always get her number. She can have yours too if you wish, but if she only has yours then you'll probably never see her again. You approached her, so you need to stay the aggressor. Pretty girls get approached all the time, and even if you're perfect for her she doesn't know it yet.