It's all in how you present yourself. If you're short, you're going to be made fun of for being short, that's just how the world is. If you're insecure about it, you're going to have problems until you die. If you're confident & roll with the jokes, then it's a non-issue. I have a friend who is tall, muscular, and bald, and is so insecure about not having any hair that he wears a baseball cap 24/7. Even inside the house. The bottom line is that nobody cares, except you, and the world will make fun of you for any perceived differences, so if you can learn how to let go of that insecurity & just accept it & laugh with people instead of taking it personally (even when people try to
make it personal), then it's not a big deal. On the flip side, I have a friend who is (very) short. He was super insecure about it & was always the loud kid in class because he was constantly frustrated about being short (we may or may not have referred to him as Krillin). At some point in high school, he figured out the game & became a super-secure person. Ended up marrying a gorgeous woman & has four kids now. Confidence is attractive; insecurity, not so much. Realizing how the system operates (that nobody cares & that you can choose how you want to think & feel about it) gives you a leg up, regardless of your physical situation.
I grew up thinking nerds were more or less a sub-group of humanity. I didn't have a lot of confidence because I didn't feel that I measured up to the jocks or the skaters or any of the cool kids or the kids who seemed to have it together. The truth is that everyone else is so worried about themselves that the only people making fun of you are the knuckleheads who have no tact or class & can't help themselves, and what they say doesn't matter unless you
choose to let it matter. It's simple mechanics: you WILL get made fun of or hated on for one thing or another all your life, whether you're a nerd or black or gay or short or ugly or rich or poor or whatever; it's the way you choose to respond that matters, because you're the only one taking the emotion with you. If you let it roll right through you & disappear, then it's no big deal. I look like Bill Gates, complete with a round face, glasses, and pale skin, and yet I have no problem interfacing with anyone & everyone IRL.
It also took me
entirely too long to realize that there are plenty of women who like nerds. There is a vast array of people with a vast array of likes & dislikes out there, and plenty of girls love geeks, believe it or not. Source: got married when I was 21 & am still happily married nearly a decade & a half later. It's not that different from movie demographics...some people like romcoms, some people like space operas, some people like westerns. I think, especially as nerds, that we grow up with this idea that there is a solid, monolithic block that all women are cut from, that they only like certain types of guys (in-shape, rich, funny, handsome, popular, smooth, etc.), and that we're not a part of that in-crowd, and that's totally not true at all.
Also I would totally pick tall baldie, I would
rock that Picard look
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