Been there, done that though I usually don't remark on these type of things.
I was the kid standing up at the time, and was a Marine at the time, both families never got along with each other, and she pulled all kinds of crap and ended up getting a Divorce after 5 years.
Mike making a move at that point would have been more than stupid, personally it sounds to me the families are not gonna be compatible to begin with.
Then dated awhile and married a second wife that was her idea that had a Masters in Psychology and was independent.
That didn't work out either, lasted about 6 months after we had been dating a year and a half.
Finally moved to FL and ran into a woman I met and we seemed to have a lot in common. Due to no families in the area other than her sister, we've been married 20 years now and happy.
My two cents.