what to do...

[fLum0x]

okay, so i have had a girlfriend for almost four years. she and i got along and we have had our ups and downs. there are times where i just tell her to leave me along and i game and so forth. this typically happens like once a week (fridays with my friends from school). she always wants to be with me more, and its not that i dont want to be with her more, its the fact that i dont always want her in my face. i like her being around, but still being able to do our own thing.

so, anyways, it was that way for like 6 months. we broke up for the summer, started in like early may, and i havent seen her since. i have gone out on a handful or so dates and none of the females really came up to par with her. i just kept thinking about her when i was on the date. when i look back to how it was, sometimes i am really happy, and other times i am pissed off and glad i am not with her.

i am seeing her for the first time this summer on friday. going out on a date/movie thing and i want to see how it goes. there are other girls i wouldnt mind going on a date with, but im not sure if i want to be single or with her. i am graduating college soon and everything just seems to move forward and kind of push you into marriage after a 4 year relationship.

another big issue is her diet. it wouldnt be so bad if she was vegan or something like that. but she has this disease called celiac. if none of you have heard of it, this is what it is. she cannot eat anything associated with gluton or wheat. so basically, she can't eat any sort of bread or breading or anything. things have to be kept super clean because she cant even eat the smallest amount of it or she gets sick. for example, even if i cook something on the stove and its boiling, she can't cook in that pan again until she thoroughly washes it. it kind of sucks to deal with and it was a real pain because we found out about it while dating. thats where the interesting part comes in. if you love someone and see yourself marrying them, and something like this happens, it changes your whole perspective on things. it would be hard for me to have a son that couldnt even eat bread...

the sex life is not in doubt by any means. we did have sex alot and it was great. obviously that is a part that is missed

since then, she has gotten an internship and become kind of known in her field in indianapolis. the company offered her a job during school and she will probably get an offer after school. but the big thing there is she might get a bigger and better deal somewhere else. i graduate 6 months ahead of her and i dont have a job lined up yet, so i dont know where i will be living. so anyways, one of the happiest moments in the past couple years of my life was when she got some money. she used to struggle for money because of alot of issues, but she made it through them. she now has a job and is making enough money to easily survive on her own. in all honesty, i was almost so proud for her that i cried.

so basically, the question is, what do you do? go out on a date and see what there is with her...but how do you really know that someone is right for you? if you see traits in them that make you super happy, but some traits that piss the living sh!t out of you...how does it all work? very confused in the relationship at the moment :*(

cliff notes:
1) dated a girl for 4 yrs
2) broke up
3) reasons i broke up (celiac, pushing marriage, good times AND bad times)
4) she gets alot of things taken care of this summer and i get proud of her
5) going on date and dont know what i should feel if she is really right for me

also, let me look for a recent pic

 

[akubi]

end yourself.

 

[fLum0x]

sweet, i will get right on top of that.......

 

[astralusion]

add yagt to your topic, though i'll let others ask for pics...if you like what you had there's nothing wrong with seeing if somethin gis still there...there are going to be good and bad in any relationship...it's your choice whether or not you're willing to take the bad with the good

edit: oh and add some cliffs

 

[Schadenfroh]

write cliff notes

 

[calvinbiss]

go on the date, its that simple.

/thread

 

[Gamer X]

You should add a YAGT inyour title and cliffs at the end of your post.

 

[lightweight]

Yes, I read the entire story. As far as dating goes, I don't think that you should be tied down to one girl. Be upfront with the girl and tell her you're interested in dating other women. There's nothing wrong with that, dating is supposed to be fun. As far as the diet goes, you have permission to be picky. Personally I wouldn't count a girl out because of something like that. If your lives are taking different directions, then maybe it's best that you are not together for now. Take your own path, have goals, and be the center of your own life. She can be an interesting part of it, but ultimately you should be directed on your path of life.

Comedy option: does she get sick if she swallows?

 

[gigapet]

not sure why you discussed her whole wheat issue. It was completely unnecessary.

I'd say hit it one more time if you can and move on. Trouble now only spells bigger troubles down the road.

and lets face it.....you are too young for marriage.

 

[DivideBYZero]

If you really love someone then a little thing like an allergy is nothing to have to deal with together.

Try motor-neuron disease or something like that, then it would be hard, but a wheat and gluten intollerance? CLEAN THE POTS!!

 

[fLum0x]

Originally posted by: calvinbiss
go on the date, its that simple.

/thread

that is not in question, the part in question is how are you suppose to feel with a girl in love. at times you would do anything for them and care about them with everything. and the next moment they piss the hell out of you and you dont want to put up with them. is it normal to be in a relationship where you -EVER- wonder if it is right to be with her? or doubt yourself basically.

 

[Saint Nick]

so many YAGTs popping up lately!!!

i think you need to go on a date with her.

 

[fLum0x]

Originally posted by: lightweight
Yes, I read the entire story. As far as dating goes, I don't think that you should be tied down to one girl. Be upfront with the girl and tell her you're interested in dating other women. There's nothing wrong with that, dating is supposed to be fun. As far as the diet goes, you have permission to be picky. Personally I wouldn't count a girl out because of something like that. If your lives are taking different directions, then maybe it's best that you are not together for now. Take your own path, have goals, and be the center of your own life. She can be an interesting part of it, but ultimately you should be directed on your path of life.

Comedy option: does she get sick if she swallows?

hahaha, no

 

[Stinkfinger]

Sounds like the good outweighs the bad. Should be an easy decision.

 

[HBalzer]

Originally posted by: gigapet
not sure why you discussed her whole wheat issue. It was completely unnecessary.

I'd say hit it one more time if you can and move on. Trouble now only spells bigger troubles down the road.

and lets face it.....you are too young for marriage.

Video tape it for memories as well

 

[Jzero]

If after 4 years you're not sure you would want to spend forever with her....you don't want to.

 

[fLum0x]

Originally posted by: gigapet
not sure why you discussed her whole wheat issue. It was completely unnecessary.

I'd say hit it one more time if you can and move on. Trouble now only spells bigger troubles down the road.

and lets face it.....you are too young for marriage.

first off, it wasnt unnecessary. i am not allergic to anything and having to deal with stuff like this is hard as hell for me...just in general. my family has no running diseases or illnesses, so it's a hard thing to just all the sudden have hit you.

second of all, i am not a d!ckhead to the point that i would just hit it and leave it. it is easy for you to say on forums, but do that to someone you dont want to hurt.

third of all, how is 23 too young for marriage? hell, my mom got married to my dad at 17...and they are still going strong at 35 yrs.

 

[ajayjuneja]

I think you should try her out again

I may yet be doing something similar myself (see apology note thread)...

Edit: 1000th post!!!

Woot!

 

[chowmein]

"old flames are like old tax returns ..."

 

[miniMUNCH]

I got when I was 23 right out of undergrad...wife and I are still married 6 years later.

As far as the cooking utensils and stuff goes...get a place with a big kitchen and have two sets of pots/pans, etc. so that you don't cross mingle your food.

If you really like her then what are your huge hang ups. If you want guy time, stag night, or whatever just tell her...she'll probably be cool with it.

But...on the other hand, as someone said above, if not sure you want to be with her after 4 years, you may not want to be with her at all...rather you may just miss her company because it is familiar.

 

[SaturnX]

Originally posted by: DivideBYZero
If you really love someone then a little thing like an allergy is nothing to have to deal with together.

Try motor-neuron disease or something like that, then it would be hard, but a wheat and gluten intollerance? CLEAN THE POTS!!

I completely agree.

--Mark

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: fLum0x

Originally posted by: gigapet
not sure why you discussed her whole wheat issue. It was completely unnecessary.

I'd say hit it one more time if you can and move on. Trouble now only spells bigger troubles down the road.

and lets face it.....you are too young for marriage.

first off, it wasnt unnecessary. i am not allergic to anything and having to deal with stuff like this is hard as hell for me...just in general. my family has no running diseases or illnesses, so it's a hard thing to just all the sudden have hit you.

second of all, i am not a d!ckhead to the point that i would just hit it and leave it. it is easy for you to say on forums, but do that to someone you dont want to hurt.

third of all, how is 23 too young for marriage? hell, my mom got married to my dad at 17...and they are still going strong at 35 yrs.

1) what someone eats is really not that big of a deal. I go days without eating bread/wheat all the time

2) What makes you think she doesn't miss the sex more than you? She most likely would not be mad about getting laid.

3) posting this stuff on a forum generally shows me that you are not ready for marriage regardless of your age. But you tell me......have you sewn all your wild oats? Are you ready to have only one vagina for the next 50-60 years?

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: fLum0x
sweet, i will get right on top of that.......

That's what she said...