What to do in life? (Mid life crisis?)

JEDI

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Ok, it's more of a 1/3 life crisis.

I'm 30, single (no gf), own a house ($1k/month mortgage), and am a computer nerd. Last month, I quit a job I didn't like.

I have enough $ to last a couple of years ($60k after taxes). (and maybe 5 years if i sell my house.)

From the beginning of the year, the only thing I've been doing was watching the clock and waiting for my options to vest. I didnt give any specific thoughts to the future except my resignation letter.

During the past month, I've been:
- sleeping late
- playing pool from noon to 6pm
- literally throwing a dart at a map of a neighboring state and driving there for few days for the fun of it
- surfing the web
- gone to Vegas for a week with friends (broke even)

I don't know what I want to do in life.

Suggestions to what to do next (in addition to getting a girlfriend)?

Rephase:
Besides looking for a gf, what would *YOU* do if you had $60k cash and didn't want to work?
 

Hankerton

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$60k will not last you THAT long if unless you're living pretty meager. Why don't you take all that money and open your own pool hall if that's something you enjoy so much?

P.S. Love your sig btw
 

Zim Hosein

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Originally posted by: RabidMongoose
I would get a swimming pool, fill it with jello, and swim through it.

LMFAO :laugh:

Cheers RabidMongoose :beer:
 

amoeba

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you should travel abroad.

getting a gf might be tough when it comes time to tell her what you do though.
 

SouthPaW1227

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Wow, buddy you are in OUTSTANDING shape. What a life.

Hey man if you've got a college degree, and good work experience, do this: Allot $10k-$20k to visiting various cities around America (unless you're gonna go wild & move to Europe, but beware, the exchange rate will cut your funds in half (almost exactly))

Find one you LOVE, and MOVE! Once moved, search for a job. Find a woman, enjoy!

Personally, I'd go to Seattle. I've lived an hour from the Atlantic Ocean (NC) all my life, but Seattle remains my favorite city in all of America. And with Microsoft and Amazon over there, surely you can find a job ;)
 

Doboji

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Originally posted by: JEDI
I'm 30, single (no gf), own a house ($1k/month mortgage), and a computer nerd. Last month, I quit a job I didn't like. Ok, it's more of a 1/3 life crisis.

I have enough $ to last a couple of years ($60k after taxes). (and maybe 5 years if i sell my house.)

From the beginning of the year, the only thing I've been doing was watching the clock and waiting for my options to vest. I didnt give any specific thoughts to the future except my resignation letter.

During the past month, I've been:
- sleeping late
- playing pool from noon to 6pm
- literally throwing a dart at a map of a neighboring state and driving there for few days for the fun of it
- surfing the web
- gone to Vegas for a week with friends (broke even)

I don't know what I want to do in life.

Suggestions to what to do next (in addition to getting a girlfriend)?

Rephase:
Besides looking for a gf, what would *YOU* do if you had $60k cash and didn't want to work?

Find a sponsor, and walk the appalachian trail. Take a camera and have someone post amazing pics on ATOT.

Find sponsors to do all kinds of crazy stuff in life for free. Write a letter to MTV offering to do a "disgruntled computer geeks trek across the planet" reality show.

-Max
 

rudder

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Nov 9, 2000
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Since you have some jack (but be careful, it will be gone before you know it) I would take some time off, do wat you did, then start exploring tons of different career fields. And when I say career fields I am not referring to office jobs. Hell go work on a fishing charter, become a flight instructor, be a dive master. Tons of crap I would do if I did not have a family to worry about.
 

Yossarian

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what I would do myself is move to florida or arizona, enter a flight training school full time, and come out in a year ready to be hired by a regional airline flying jets.
 

Gibsons

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Go back to school

Read War and Peace

Run a marathon

Break 80 in golf

Play computer games for 16 hour stretches
 

Corn

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Originally posted by: JEDI
I'm 30, single (no gf), own a house ($1k/month mortgage), and a computer nerd. Last month, I quit a job I didn't like. Ok, it's more of a 1/3 life crisis.

I have enough $ to last a couple of years ($60k after taxes). (and maybe 5 years if i sell my house.)

From the beginning of the year, the only thing I've been doing was watching the clock and waiting for my options to vest. I didnt give any specific thoughts to the future except my resignation letter.

During the past month, I've been:
- sleeping late
- playing pool from noon to 6pm
- literally throwing a dart at a map of a neighboring state and driving there for few days for the fun of it
- surfing the web
- gone to Vegas for a week with friends (broke even)

I don't know what I want to do in life.

Suggestions to what to do next (in addition to getting a girlfriend)?

Rephase:
Besides looking for a gf, what would *YOU* do if you had $60k cash and didn't want to work?

You will eventually have to work. You can choose to not work now, for what, a year or so ($60k ain't all that much) and piss your money away....thus having to work all that much longer later on in your life.

If your determined to spend your money, at least spend it on a business of some sort.....so long as it's not building computers......

I've felt the way you do (I'd rather not work than work....who wouldn't?) my whole adult life. However, I've turned that laziness into determination to retire early in my life. I've worked long hours and saved my pennies so that when 50 comes, I can retire comfortably. A little sacrifice in my youth will pay off big when I'm older.......I've got 10 more years to go......
 

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dandruff

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1. Find a small college town.
2. Move there. You will feel more energetic.
3. Invest 40K into a affordable student housing - rent apartments - u can never go wrong with cheap housing in a college town. Make a business plan. Get a bank loan with 20% equity down.
4. Optional: rent to hot coeds. Install spycams.
5. PROFIT!

hth!

 

Buickbeast

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Go on and wring my neck
Like when a rag gets wet
A little discipline
For my pet genius
My head is like a lettuce
Go on and dig your thumbs in
I cannot stop giving
I'm thirty-something
Sense of security
Like pockets jingling
Midlife crisis
Suck ingenuity
Down through the family tree
You're perfect, yes, it's true
But without me you're only you
Your menstruating heart
It ain't bleedin' enough for two
It's a midlife crisis...
What an inheritance
The salt and the Kleenex
Morbid self attention
Bending my pinky back
A little discipline
A donor by habit
A little discipline
Rent an opinion
Sense of security
Holding blunt instrument
I'm a perfectionist
And perfect is a skinned knee
You're perfect, yes, it's true
But without me you're only you
Your menstruating heart
It ain't bleeding enough for two
It's a midlife crisis...........


Sorry, this song was playing while I read the topic :)
 

chrisms

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Mar 9, 2003
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Originally posted by: Corn
Originally posted by: JEDI
I'm 30, single (no gf), own a house ($1k/month mortgage), and a computer nerd. Last month, I quit a job I didn't like. Ok, it's more of a 1/3 life crisis.

I have enough $ to last a couple of years ($60k after taxes). (and maybe 5 years if i sell my house.)

From the beginning of the year, the only thing I've been doing was watching the clock and waiting for my options to vest. I didnt give any specific thoughts to the future except my resignation letter.

During the past month, I've been:
- sleeping late
- playing pool from noon to 6pm
- literally throwing a dart at a map of a neighboring state and driving there for few days for the fun of it
- surfing the web
- gone to Vegas for a week with friends (broke even)

I don't know what I want to do in life.

Suggestions to what to do next (in addition to getting a girlfriend)?

Rephase:
Besides looking for a gf, what would *YOU* do if you had $60k cash and didn't want to work?

You will eventually have to work. You can choose to not work now, for what, a year or so ($60k ain't all that much) and piss your money away....thus having to work all that much longer later on in your life.

If your determined to spend your money, at least spend it on a business of some sort.....so long as it's not building computers......

I've felt the way you do (I'd rather not work than work....who wouldn't?) my whole adult life. However, I've turned that laziness into determination to retire early in my life. I've worked long hours and saved my pennies so that when 50 comes, I can retire comfortably. A little sacrifice in my youth will pay off big when I'm older.......I've got 10 more years to go......

Work hard through your prime, long hours and saving pennies, so that when you retire at 50 you can quietly sit at home and wait for death. No thanks.
 

Looks like you're having a good time to me. What's your problem?

I think you feel that true happiness is achieved through success in business. Please understand that is not the case and you should just go and do whatever you want.
 

mcvickj

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Originally posted by: Yossarian
what I would do myself is move to florida or arizona, enter a flight training school full time, and come out in a year ready to be hired by a regional airline flying jets.


:thumbsup: I was going to suggest something similar...
 

StageLeft

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Sep 29, 2000
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Go to school or something. I simply would be diusgusted with myself if I sat on my ass for two years and burned through $60k. Whenever you have kids $60k right now would cover their education/future outright, with ample to go along. I think if you sit on your ass playing pool and burning through the money until you ahve none left you'd be right to off yourself once the money's all run out. There are other jobs. Maybe you need to take that money and go to pilot's school and then sell your house and fly in alaska for a few years. Maybe move to hawaii, get a cheap place, and be a tour guide or something.

Just sitting at home, sleeping in, surfing the web etc is seriously lame. You know that. Stop this.
 

HamSupLo

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Aug 18, 2001
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yeah 60k doesn't sound like too much. go join that one other ATOTer that's traveling the world. Maybe you two can link up in the bush somewhere.
 

jjones

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Oct 9, 2001
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Originally posted by: Corn
Originally posted by: JEDI
I'm 30, single (no gf), own a house ($1k/month mortgage), and a computer nerd. Last month, I quit a job I didn't like. Ok, it's more of a 1/3 life crisis.

I have enough $ to last a couple of years ($60k after taxes). (and maybe 5 years if i sell my house.)

From the beginning of the year, the only thing I've been doing was watching the clock and waiting for my options to vest. I didnt give any specific thoughts to the future except my resignation letter.

During the past month, I've been:
- sleeping late
- playing pool from noon to 6pm
- literally throwing a dart at a map of a neighboring state and driving there for few days for the fun of it
- surfing the web
- gone to Vegas for a week with friends (broke even)

I don't know what I want to do in life.

Suggestions to what to do next (in addition to getting a girlfriend)?

Rephase:
Besides looking for a gf, what would *YOU* do if you had $60k cash and didn't want to work?

You will eventually have to work. You can choose to not work now, for what, a year or so ($60k ain't all that much) and piss your money away....thus having to work all that much longer later on in your life.

If your determined to spend your money, at least spend it on a business of some sort.....so long as it's not building computers......

I've felt the way you do (I'd rather not work than work....who wouldn't?) my whole adult life. However, I've turned that laziness into determination to retire early in my life. I've worked long hours and saved my pennies so that when 50 comes, I can retire comfortably. A little sacrifice in my youth will pay off big when I'm older.......I've got 10 more years to go......
I agree with Corn. You'll go through that 60k in shorter time than you think and you will have to work. I was basically in the same position you were about 10 years ago. At the same time, I met the woman who became my wife. She is Mexican and I've always loved the Mexican Caribbean so, after we got married, we moved to Cancun. I screwed around here for a couple of years doing all sorts of things (not working though) and meeting people. Now I own a small internet business and am basically semi-retired here. I still work but really not very much and I have plenty of time to do the things I like such as going to the beach with my family, camping, scuba diving, fishing, etc.

It's nice that you're in the position you are now and I suggest you enjoy doing nothing, but not for too long. Open a small business if you can. If you're even moderately successful, and you should be since you were able to achieve you current position, you will find that it is one of the best lifestyles there is in today's world.