What to do? Ex wants to be friends... story inside

[her209]

I was with this girl for 2 years but broke up 3 years ago. Its was one of those long distance things. The break up was out of the blue and was on bad terms (she did it). I suspect she was cheating on me, but her reason was that the distance was getting to her plus I wasn't calling her as much as I used to. But she knew that I was having my finals and was going to be homeless for the summer. The reason why I think she was cheating was because she was never home when I tried to call her, always out partying. Well, two weeks later, I found out that she was already going out with another guy and two weeks later hooked up with him. And low and behold, it was a long distance relationship because she goes home for the summer and the guy lives locally. Wtf?

Well, I went to my brother's graduation and she knew I was going to be there and was there for her sister as well. Somehow we didn't run into each other. We have a group of mutual friends that we hang out with but never there at the same time. Then I check my email today and I get an email from her. The graduation was on Wednesday and I got the email on Sunday... I checked email all days in between so it didn't come earlier than Sunday.

I'm a forgiving person but when it comes to her, I have no remorse for ignoring her for the last 3 years. Should I just keep ignoring her or am I being childish? Love hurts

 

[minendo]

I would ignore her. I went through I similar situation. I dated this girl for almost 3 years and then we broke up on really bad terms. I tried the friends thing for about a week and then I could not deal with her any more. She was constantly calling me, telling me about all the new guys she was dating, and always telling me her problems. The best advice I can give is save yourself the troubles and just ignore her.

 

[gopunk]

ignore.

think about it, what do you have to gain? NOTHING. it's not like she's going to magically bang you.



after you're over this whole thing, then if you still want to be friends, go ahead. but don't do it if you're still bitter about it.

 

[Gooberlx2]

amen

 

[b0mbrman]

I've tried and have never had good luck staying friendly with ex's but I'm just that kind of guy...

Maybe you could use the advice (if only for a quick laugh) an old fraternity brother once passed on to me--"Remember that there was a reason you two broke up...As such, there are only two choices to pick from when an ex-girlfriend comes around: either kick her a*s out, or stick it in the butt."

 

[CasioTech]

I've decided not to read the post..... All the atot break up posts all sound the same.....




I will tell u this. Once they wanna be friends, it's another way of saying "fuk off", maybe you will say hi when you see each other.....

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: b0mbrman
I've tried and have never had good luck staying friendly with ex's but I'm just that kind of guy...

Maybe you could use the advice (if only for a quick laugh) an old fraternity brother once passed on to me--"Remember that there was a reason you two broke up...As such, there are only two choices to pick from when an ex-girlfriend comes around: either kick her a*s out, or stick it in the butt."

I say ignore her. She cheated on you then she pulls this one. Ignore her and enjoy your life

 

[KaBudokan]

Which movie was it where a guy says, "Ex-girlfriends are like old tax returns... When you're done with them, stick them in a filing cabinet for three years, and if you haven't needed them in that time, throw them out."

 

[Vadatajs]

What to do... ex wants to be friends

Be honest. If you're not comfortable with a friendship at the moment, tell her. If you are, then be friends. I didn't bother reading the story because common sense dictates the proper course of action.

 

[Atrail]

Originally posted by: KaBudokan
Which movie was it where a guy says, "Ex-girlfriends are like old tax returns... When you're done with them, stick them in a filing cabinet for three years, and if you haven't needed them in that time, throw them out."

LoL
Good One!

Another vote for ignoring her alone!

 

[melly]

i'm learning you have to ignore.

 

[datalink7]

Originally posted by: CasioTech
I've decided not to read the post..... All the atot break up posts all sound the same.....




I will tell u this. Once they wanna be friends, it's another way of saying "fuk off", maybe you will say hi when you see each other.....

lol... should have read the thread

 

[Soybomb]

I'm going to offer a different piece of advice. I've always been friends with my g/f's before we've dated, and so far I've always been friends with them afterward. I'm pretty sure one of them was cheating on me too, but that part is long gone now and she continues to be a friend just as she was before.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: Soybomb
I'm going to offer a different piece of advice. I've always been friends with my g/f's before we've dated, and so far I've always been friends with them afterward. I'm pretty sure one of them was cheating on me too, but that part is long gone now and she continues to be a friend just as she was before.

I don't want to wake up one day and get the inevitable question "How come we aren't together?"

 

[Tiger]

If you do get the ineviable question the answer is easy.
"Because, you mattress back ho, I can't trust you".
It works.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: CasioTech
... maybe you will say hi when you see each other.....

That's what it is with all of my ex-gfs... the "Let's Try to Be Friends" thing just doesn't work for me, generally.

We'll see with this new girl, if/when we ever go out and if/when we ever break up...

 

[tcsenter]

Whenever my Ex's call me up and say they 'want to be friends', I usually end up getting some the following weekend. IOW, they're not calling because they 'want to be friends'. Bed friends, maybe, and that's OK by me!

 

[her209]

Well, I don't want to be bed friends with this gal cause she fvcked me after all the sh!t and drama with no thought whatsoever. I can get plenty of action from other female friends

 

[tcsenter]

Well, I don't want to be bed friends with this gal cause she fvcked me after all the sh!t and drama with no thought whatsoever.

Hey...grudge sex can be awesome. You have a lot of frustration there, unload that frustration on her...through your hips. lol!