what to do about a "friend"

[bonk102]

Ok, i need some opinions here folks,
first, a quick story synopsis:
last night i finally get to chill with a girl i've been trying to for awhile who i like, i go out wiht 2 other guy friends and her, one of my friends, knows i like this girl and asks me about it multiple times, one of his friends asks this girl if my friend has a shot, so now the girl thinks he likes her, which he doesn't, the comment was meant to be towards me, but oh well, anyway, we all go back to this kids house, and my "friend" ends up hooking up with a girl he knows i like, after telling me earlier that night that "friends come first", what do i do??


let's rephrase this too:

would you ever do that to one of your friends??

i know i wouldn't

 

[virusag13]

The cock block, what an under handed move. I say call him on it and tell him what you think about it. Don't let him give you a line and then let him act like that.

 

[bonk102]

i didnt have to call him on it at all, she called me the next day because when i left i told her i didnt' want to talk to her again, she said she just wanted a hookup for the night and he was there, she doesn't like him at all, which i guess is a good thing but still, when i brought it up to him, he just sagged his head and woudln't say anything, pretty pathetic if you ask me

 

[virusag13]

I still think that if he said "friends come first" he should have stuck to it. And why do you want to go after a girl that slept with a friend just to hook up (if you are still interested that is).

You should still talk to your friend about it. Dont let it just sit there and fester.

 

[bonk102]

she didn't sleep wiht him however, which made me feel better, and on the upside, this is only the 4th time she's hooked up at college, including one who turned out to become a bf, i have that number beat already this year, so i can't really say too much negative on that one,

and i do agree with you, he should have stuck to "Friends come first", oh, and the best part, we were both fraternity pledge brothers together, so much for unity huh?

 

[luckydragon]

man thats low

 

[virusag13]

I guess that is better that they didn't bonk (sorry). I say talk to him, if he doesnt want to just let it cool off for a week then go hang out and see if the atmosphere is still wierd or not. As for the girl, I guess go for it if she is the one you want.

 

[bonk102]

at this point, i kinda doubt if i really do want her though, too much baggage for me right now, not what i need, but back to the original question, let's rephrase it,
would you ever do that to one of your friends?

 

[virusag13]

Never, one has done it to me, but he was drunk. If I see my friend going after a girl he likes, I will do anything I can to help him out, that is what a friend is for. I think about my friends before myself (unless there's cake involved, or mud wrestling).

BTW we laughed at my drunk friend because he got "whiskey dick"

 

[bonk102]

that's a funny story because the friend in questions' nickname is "ed" which stands for erectile deficiency cuz he had the same problem, hahahah

 

[Missus]

Take her out without any friends...

Show her why you are the best match by not talking too much about yourself and making her feel like she is queen of the world...

And don't forget to smile!!!

 

[eakers]

just have a fist fight until you are both unmad
then go for beers and forget her.
i highly doubt they end up married.

*kat. <-- knows how boys are.

 

[miniMUNCH]

I would never do that to any of my friends...it is against the rules of friendship.

Many years ago...I was gone over this girl who was a mutual friend of ours. Well, anyway, I thought my friend had the hots for her too and he kind of mentioned it first so I backed off (this was all in my mind, of course)...man was it painful, but he was and still is my best friend. Well I finally just asked him about it a couple days later, with pain in my gut, and my friend says, &quot;What?! ya, she's hot...but I know you like her so I'm not interested.&quot;

We were both backing off for the same reason, although she had the hots for me...and we are now married as a matter of act. It'll be two years in July.

Speaking of which, I need to go to bed.

 

[Hamburgerpimp]

Son, when you're almost 30, you'll hit anything that comes your way! Best start practicing now!

 

[loveturtle]

so be it!friend no more!
you should date her and say things like your ex friend has a lot of bladder problems and that he told you that the doctor told him that he had a drippy dong when they checked him for STDs at the free clinic but he told you not to tell anyone but you trust her
he probably nailed her

 

[urameatball]

to answer the question, NEVER!!!

but I do have another story about the so-called friend.

during high school, I was trying to hook up with this TOTALLY HOT model-like girl. I was keeping my best friend updated on what's happening and stuff and he just kept on saying negative things about her... I had no idea why!?! anyway, I ended up hooking up with her for about 2 weeks and my friend STILL kept on babbling about this bad that bad and I was like... &quot;fine, I trust you better than myself because I can be just blinded by her beauty&quot; or something along those lines... so I ended up breaking up with her after a few dates!! turns out a few months later, this so-called best friend ends up saying that she has lots of good qualities and starts 'hanging out' with her!! I got SOOO PISSED OFF!!

I mean, before this incident, I use to put my total trust in this guy. And just when I thought I could trust someone, this guy takes advantage of it and killed a relationship that could have lasted forever. Cuz back when I was dating this girl, she did have few minor negatives in her personality but who didn't? And through the last 3 years, I've never met a girl that came close to her...

Now, I'm more cautious these days, I only have 2 friends that I could totally trust and one of those people I have been friends with since I was 9years old.

Anyway, just typing this out makes me depressed... so [/end post]

 

[buck]

Beat the sh!t outta him. That sounds more like a former acquaintance than a friend. That is one of the worst situations ro be in, emotion-wise. . Sorry to hear that bud, there will be more man....

 

[Gorgonzola]

urameatball, id never break up with a girl just because a mate said to. did he actually find enough bad qualitites and proof to back them up to cause you to make this decision? he was probably just jelous.

 

[dc]

time for mr. @ss beating?

seriously though, talk to him and confront him about this.
then it's time for the @ss whooping. hehe.

 

[bonk102]

hey everybody, thanks for the helpful comments, i have yet to do anything actually, i just haven't gotten around to it yet, and as for the girl, &quot;she just wants to be friends&quot;, so it looks like i get screwed from all sides on this one, but i'm sure there's a silver lining in here somewhere, i just have to look pretty freakin hard to find it

 

[kru]

ditch him. he's not a real friend.

i've been in a similar situation that had a totally different outcome. i hooked up with a girl and found out later on that she was together (in the official sense of the word) with one of my best friends. none of us in our circle of friends even knew they were together since they had kept the whole thing underground.

when i heard the rumor, i confronted her and she admitted that she was together with him. first thing i did was tell him straight up about it and apologize. felt like scum thinking i had betrayed one of my best friends. i was pretty surprised at his reaction -- he just told me that he had more respect for me for coming out and telling him myself, and the only person he held accountable for what happened was the girl.

and this isn't about ripping on girls for any reason. but if that guy valued his friendship with you at all, he never would have done what he did. if you can't trust the guy in a matter as minor as NOT making a pass at someone you're interested in, you can't trust him in more important matters. :|