What should I do?

Scouzer

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I'm sure a few of you remember me mentioning this in the past...

Well, now I've been living about 3000km from my home...in Ontario, as opposed to Alberta. I live in a dumpy town called Cornwall (I'm sure anyone from Ontario just cringed...). I've been here about six weeks now. The town is very depressing because its a blue collar town which has basically died out. Very scuzzy, and very ugly. The women are the ugliest I have ever met too. This does not make it any easier for a single young male!

The school itself is very difficult. There are 14 tests in the 4 months here, and 3 evaluations. Less than 80% on anything means you are cease trained and sent home. Yeah, I know, this isn't terribly hard, but it is stressful. University doesn't kick you out if you get 78%, you just move on. I have been so stressed I get handfulls of hair in my hands everytime I shower.

Now another side note about this school...I'm the youngest here by far. This is a private training facility (by private I don't mean prestigious or whatever, I mean its a private company's school for their employees only). I'm 18 going on 19 in May. My classmates are between 23 and 44, with the average being about 30. This definitely complicates social matters for me, its difficult to have good friends who are 30 years old...

I'm terribly homesick. Terribly. Did I just leave the remainder of being a kid behind, working crappy jobs for $10/hr? I left all my friends, my girlfriend (You may recall my thread about that...her and I resolved totally right before I left...how convenient...and now I'm single). I had just found a decent job (Best Buy + commission pays well and I had a ton of fun)...was still living at home with little expenses and no worries.

Now I've joined a company with the most horrendous policies and management in the universe. However, the job itself is very good because management hasn't ruined it yet. But they try every single day.

Pay is good. After four months training + 2-5 months on the job training = $47,500 climbing to $58,500 at the top end. This is base pay assuming a 37.5hr work week. Excellent benefits. Bad bad company. In addition, its like the military, in my first seven years with the company I can be force relocated with a minimum of 15 days notice at ANY time as much as they want. Generally speaking on average this is between 3 and 6 moves in 7 years, usually about 1000km apart.

Common sense tells me to stay for the career, and I'm here already. My heart and fear of regrets tell me to bail. What do you think, my esteemed comrades of ATOT?
 

FoBoT

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that isn't very long

tough it out for four months +

its called life, staying at home and putting it off until you were a 30 year old loser living in your mom's basement would have been worse
 

Scouzer

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No, its 4 months, then 5 months on the job, the thing is I'll NEVER live at home again.

I get sent wherever they want me, its entirely up to them, and they'll relocate me as many times to ANYWHERE in Canada minus Quebec as much as they damn please.

I missed the I will not be living at home part/
 

D1gger

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You need to suck it up and finish what you have started. Life doesn't get any easier, and if you start a trend of quiting when things are tough, that will be hard to change.

You will look back on this experience with pride if you finish, or you will look back on it with regret if you give up.
 

FoBoT

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Originally posted by: Scouzer
the thing is I'll NEVER live at home again.

that is called growing up

when you are a grown up, your parents home is no longer your home

i married my wife when she was 19. it took her many years to stop referring to her mom's house as "home". it really bugged me at first.

you can do whatever you want. but to me, you made the right decision. hang in there. you can make a difficult situation tolerable with a good attitude. if you keep looking, you'll find a friend where you are at
 

Scouzer

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I'm reluctant to grow up :(

But I do appreciate the positive words, I was expecting very harsh critque from ATOT