What percentage of attraction would you say is attributed to looks?

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JimmiG

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People subconsciously attribute positive characteristics to physically attractive people, so the two are closely linked. People generally remember attractive people as honest, intelligent etc., while they tend to forget such characteristics of less good looking persons.

A working relationship obviously has very little to do with either love or physical attraction. It's all about social skills and being able to stand living so close to another person for such a long period of time. But in order to snare your victim, you have to be physically attractive.
 
Lean L

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dr150 said:
That happens to every married couple. You get lazy with staying fit.

I stopped my 2AM jogs when I got married.

Plus your metabolism slows after 40, so most gain weight anyways....and a woman more so if she's had kids. It takes a really dedicated wife to stay fit looking through all those barriers.
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Not necessarily. Some people actually plan to become lazy after marriage. I've overheard girls saying that they will stop working out after getting married. Followed by "You knew what you were getting into".

Truly disgusting.
 
zanejohnson

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i would say that it's almost all "vibes," we create an electromagnetic energy field, either positive or negative, and people subconsciously pick up on it, it CAN be manipulated :)
 
zerocool84

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You wouldn't even be talking to that person in the first place if they were butt-ugly so of course looks matter near 100%. Plus the way someone looks says a lot about their personality as well. Only real ugly people say otherwise because the only way they can get any is if looks didn't matter.
 
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zerocool84 said:
You wouldn't even be talking to that person in the first place if they were butt-ugly so of course looks matter immensely. Only real ugly people say otherwise because the only way they can get any is if looks didn't matter.
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Actually I find it's usually the attractive people that claim that looks don't matter. They do it so they can pretend that their success with the opposite sex has to do with something other a lucky roll of the dice WRT their genes.

Confidence/Personality/Sense of Humor/Extroversion/Game... whatever.

You don't hear much from the ugz, we just accept it an move on. I joned a sailing club this summer. Fun! I don't sit around trying to convince people that looks don't matter.
 
polarmystery

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Physically attractiveness is typically 100% when seeing someone new. Staying physically attractive to someone after you meet varies with time. You can only base initial attractiveness on someone's physicality if you've never had a conversation with them.
 
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Yep, how smart you are has no bearing on how hot you are. This is especially true for girls, and yes, for guys as well.
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It kind of does. I accept that it doesn't really have a role in one offs, when you hardly know them, but after you start getting to know them...
 
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It does somewhat matter initially. But I have found that positive, charismatic, confident, charming, happy people become more physically (and generally) attractive as I get to know them, and selfish, angry, bitter, stuck up, rude people become less attractive over time.

The first time I noticed this was in high school. New guy in school, very cute at first, but he was always angry and rude to everyone in general. After a couple months he was no longer physically attractive according to me, even though his appearance did not likely change that much.

Also, a couple weeks ago I went dancing. The first guy who asked me to dance was not physically attractive, but he was a very confident dancer, funny, and a good enough leader to make me look like I knew what I was doing. I don't remember the dance, merengue maybe, but I didn't have a clue what I was doing and still had loads of fun. The confidence he had made him MORE physically attractive, to me, in just 5 min.

You can argue neither of them changed their level of "physical" attractiveness, but my perception would disagree. Physically they appeared more attractive, as well as being overall more attractive.

Also, it's been said before, but how "hot" someone is, is not the same as how attracted you are to them.
 
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ShawnD1

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polarmystery said:
Physically attractiveness is typically 100% when seeing someone new. Staying physically attractive to someone after you meet varies with time. You can only base initial attractiveness on someone's physicality if you've never had a conversation with them.
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Shens. I make a lot of personality guesses based on looks. If i think a girl will be a bitch, i am turned off before i even say anything to her.
 
OverVolt

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Someone in here thought male attractiveness was based 100% on looks. I lol'd.

Also you can tell personality before getting to know the person. If you notice someone in a situation reacting the same way you would then they probably think the same.
 
KaOTiK

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Hard to say, but looks do play a big part in the first seconds you see someone and that can lead to more.

Personality is the big big thing to me, you can be average/plain and if you have an good personality and getting along well with you, you become pretty damn attractive to me.

I've met girls that I thought were gorgeous and after talking to them and getting to know them some I've found them to be in some cases damn near unattractive or much less attractive then they were both talking to them.
 
Lean L

Lean L

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Cookie said:
It does somewhat matter initially. But I have found that positive, charismatic, confident, charming, happy people become more physically (and generally) attractive as I get to know them, and selfish, angry, bitter, stuck up, rude people become less attractive over time.

The first time I noticed this was in high school. New guy in school, very cute at first, but he was always angry and rude to everyone in general. After a couple months he was no longer physically attractive according to me, even though his appearance did not likely change that much.

Also, a couple weeks ago I went dancing. The first guy who asked me to dance was not physically attractive, but he was a very confident dancer, funny, and a good enough leader to make me look like I knew what I was doing. I don't remember the dance, merengue maybe, but I didn't have a clue what I was doing and still had loads of fun. The confidence he had made him MORE physically attractive, to me, in just 5 min.

You can argue neither of them changed their level of "physical" attractiveness, but my perception would disagree. Physically they appeared more attractive, as well as being overall more attractive.

Also, it's been said before, but how "hot" someone is, is not the same as how attracted you are to them.
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Took a couple of months huh? I would have thought it took less time than that to lose attraction.

I completely hear what you're saying about the confidence thing. People who know how to hold themselves in all situations have a better handle with others. What's interesting is that the confidence can be completely baseless. The person can be completely lacking in most respects and as long as they are comfortable in their own skin, they are respected for that. Personally, when I'm uncomfortable in a situation, it looks like I'm trying to sit on a flaming rod of liquid nitrogen...

I have noticed quite a number of women lose interest in me. The quicker ones lose interest within a minute after realizing that I can't match the level of confidence they have. The longer ones took months before they finally basically said fuck it. Tis a shame, I can't even count the number of occurances anymore. All you need is one to work out... nope. :(
 
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Lean L said:
Took a couple of months huh? I would have thought it took less time than that to lose attraction.
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That's a good point. From what I remember he was quite nice at the beginning. High school was a long time ago, I have no idea how long it took before I realized he was no longer attractive, I'm only guessing on "a couple months". I just clearly remember being amazed that he did not LOOK as good as he did in the beginning.

Lean L said:
I completely hear what you're saying about the confidence thing. People who know how to hold themselves in all situations have a better handle with others. What's interesting is that the confidence can be completely baseless. The person can be completely lacking in most respects and as long as they are comfortable in their own skin, they are respected for that. Personally, when I'm uncomfortable in a situation, it looks like I'm trying to sit on a flaming rod of liquid nitrogen...

I have noticed quite a number of women lose interest in me. The quicker ones lose interest within a minute after realizing that I can't match the level of confidence they have. The longer ones took months before they finally basically said fuck it. Tis a shame, I can't even count the number of occurances anymore. All you need is one to work out... nope. :(
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That's true too, even in my dancing example, the only thing I know he was confident in is dancing. He may have been lacking in all other areas in his life, I don't know, but in that situation he was clearly confident. Confident enough that it was contagious.

Maybe you could find something you are confident about and use it to your advantage? You could meet girls in a location where you are confident or doing an activity that you feel confident doing. I guess that only gets you so far, but it's a start.
 
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edro

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Kabob said:
It depends on the stage of the relationship. Very early on it's going to be a much higher percentage than after you've been with someone for a while.
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Yes. If you aren't sexually attracted early on, it will fizzle out quickly.
And of course married couples in their 90s don't care about physical attraction anymore.
 
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