What makes someone unapproachable?

[Lola]

There have been times i have been out in the mall, etc and i notice certain people and i either say to my s/o or myself, "god, she/he seems like a b!tch"

Is it because they seem stuck up? Too good for everyone else? just what they are wearing? what is it? Or is it because they are just shy?

has someone ever told you they were initially afraid/hesitant to come up and talk to you beacuse of how they thought you were acting or how you looked?

There are the typical... they smelled, they were yelling...

Have you ever experienced this feeling? What about a particular person made you feel that way?

 

[Stuxnet]

I've found that if I sport a "fsck off" look on my face, people leave me alone.

 

[minendo]

People's own insecurities make it so they won't approach someone else. No one is unapproachable.

 

[Stuxnet]

The only people I can't approach are the ones that look all wired up. I honestly really don't care what people think, so I've found I can approach people pretty well. This includes people who present themselves with great confidence as well as those who don't.

My own apathy towards you is what makes you approachable, nothing else. But if you want to think it was that nifty new sweater you bought or your $100 haircut, that's fine too.

BUT if the person looks like they're all jacked up on the crack, then I won't even bother. Too much effort. If you're the kind of person who will just keep yammering on and on and on, I'll avoid you at all costs in the first place.

 

[BooGiMaN]

the chainsaw and hockey mask seems to put off most people especially skimpy clothed college girls in small isolated cabins in the woods by a lake....

i have been meaning to change my deoderant, or maybe get some tide with bleach to wash off the bloodstains from my clothes.....

what do you guys think do the jean overalls make my butt look big and serial killerish?

 

[DaShen]

There demeanor as well as the way they look.
But mostly there demeanor.

Example, you might not approach someone who is dressed up in gang colors or someone dressed like a streetwalker. But you also wouldn't approach a person who had the look of having a stick up there ass (someone who can't relax).

Some people's personalities make them hard to approach. They haven't grown up and never will. They don't know how to deal with people. They are ill tempered.

Plenty of reasons not to approach someone, and makes the person have varying level of unapproachability.

 

[sygyzy]

Permapissed faces. Mostly it's women, but some men are affected too.

 

[JulesMaximus]

You looking for a replacement/upgrade from your hubby? :laugh:

 

[ohtwell]

For me, it has a lot do with their facial expression when I see them. A person I would consider approachable would smile or wouldn't scowl. I've seen people whose facial expressions just give my the idea that they aren't a person I could approach.


: ) Amanda

 

[ForumMaster]

most people that are like that usually act like elite. they make you feel "lower" and thus you don't approach them.

 

[BooGiMaN]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
You looking for a replacement/upgrade from your hubby? :laugh:

or looking to add some spice int he bedroom....

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
You looking for a replacement/upgrade from your hubby? :laugh:

LOL! not at all!

I was just curious because of what a coworker and i were chatting about. thats all.

I always thought i looked approachable and i make it a point to always smile, but my dearest husband said that when we first met, i looked like a stuck up person, yet that is the farthest thing away from the truth.

Then my friend at work was talking about how she met her husband and he thought the same thing about her and she is the sweetest person i know.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
You looking for a replacement/upgrade from your hubby? :laugh:

LOL! not at all!

I was just curious because of what a coworker and i were chatting about. thats all.

I always thought i looked approachable and i make it a point to always smile, but my dearest husband said that when we first met, i looked like a stuck up person, yet that is the farthest thing away from the truth.

Then my friend at work was talking about how she met her husband and he thought the same thing about her and she is the sweetest person i know.

That's just something dorky guys with low self esteem say about chicks they think they have no chance of getting with.

 

[Baked]

The smell.

 

[GuitarDaddy]

Restraining order

The threat of arrest is a powerful deterrant


Seriously, arrogance and that strut that says "I'm better than everyone else" does it for me everytime

 

[DainBramaged]

The way you carry yourself, the way you react to other people, your facial and bodily expressions.

 

[49erinnc]

Really just comes down to facial expressions and posture. You can usually tell right away, provided you have decent gut instincts, if someone is approachable or not just by observing them for a couple seconds. Usually, their body language or their facial expression will indicate if they're nice, bitchy, stuck up, cheerful, etc. There are always exceptions but for the most part, I don't think personalities are all that difficult to assess from a distance.

I think there are a lot of really attractive women who actually have a hard time with people approaching them because of the intimidation factor. Many of them are very down to earth, humble, sweet and very easy to talk to. But most men would never know that because they feel that just because the female is a knock out, that they would treat the guy like he's some loser with no shot of striking up a conversation with.

I liked the Seinfeld episode where it was suggested that everyone be required to wear name tags and that it would make for a much more pleasant society. You could just walk by someone in the mall and be like "Hi 'Frank'...how are ya?"

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: 49erinnc
I liked the Seinfeld episode where it was suggested that everyone be required to wear name tags and that it would make for a much more pleasant society. You could just walk by someone in the mall and be like "Hi 'Frank'...how are ya?"

Or "Hey, Frank! Fsck you in the asshole!"

That way you could fast-forward through all the getting-to-know-each-other bullshit, like where he has sex with your sister or forgets to return your weedwhacker.