What is your attitude towards your daughter dating?

[Orsorum]

For parents, that is. I've seen this attitude throughout most of these threads, mostly from young men (and from myself).

(this next part shamelessly ripped from another one of my posts )

It's funny to hear so many young men spouting off about how they're going to be "waiting at the door for her boyfriends with a shotgun."

Honestly. Would you have wanted your girlfriends's fathers to be doing the same thing?

I was talking to my cousin in law as we were hanging out at a family party a month or so ago, we were watching his 6-month-old daughter tumble around on the living room floor. I made a joke about dating and the whole waiting with a shotgun thing, and he responded, "I'm not going to baby her. She's a human being. She'll make mistakes, she'll scrape her knees, and she'll learn." It made me think quite a bit about relationships and family and what it means, and it made me reevaluate exactly how mature I am.

Thoughts?

 

[hopeless879]

I'll take the same approach as your cousin in law is. As long as she isn't in danger that is, she will make her own mistakes and learn from them.

 

[Mill]

Pray she isn't a slut like dear old mom.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: Millennium
Pray she isn't a slut like dear old mom.

Yeah, I hate that part of the deal.

 

[dman]

We'll see. Hopefully she has a good head on her shoulders and can make smart decisions about her life with some 'careful direction' from us.

 

[gigapet]

secure chastity belt.....

hide key


commence dating

 

[Electric Amish]

Make sure she has condoms and/or is on BC

 

[Gunslinger08]

The hell is a cousin in law?

 

[TheCorm]

My friend and his dad are like this about his sister....she is 17.....legal age of consent is 16 here in the UK....she is old enough to make her own mistakes and deal with it.

Yeah if someone like raped her I could understand but if it's like over some bloke standing her up....well it happens....you go around trying to beat people up for that and either you are gonna end up in trouble/jail or they are gonna be tougher than you think and kick the cr@p out of you!

Although....as his dad reminds me soooo much of Jack from meet the parents....I had trouble not laughing when he said "if he hurts her....i'm gonna invite him over...force him to lay in the road...and run him over the with merc"...he did with a really serious look on his face...lol

 

[Viper GTS]

I'm VERY protective of the women in my life, & I can only assume that would extend to my daughters as well.

Viper GTS

 

[DaiShan]

I'm not a parent, but my parent's policy towards my sister was 16 then she could date. I don't think I would follow a similar policy, that just made her sneak around, and being daddy's girl she always got out of it, then when she turned 16 (3 weeks ago) she got a BMW, go figure.

 

[Reel]

Yeah, 6 mos. is definitely too young for dating.

 

[conjur]

Well, I think I've done a good job of instilling values in my oldest daughter (now 16). Plus, she has seen a cousin of hers become a mother at the ripe ol' age of 17 and the problems she has to deal with. And, my daughter is now babysitting for her cousin's new baby so gets to care for a baby on a regular basis and realizes how much work it is! She's also on birth control to help control her cycle and reduce the pain she was having w/her period (caused her to miss several days of school last year) but she knows that 's not a free ride. She says she wants to go to college, get her degree, start a career and then look to settle down. <sniff> I'm so proud!

That said, she's been dating the same boy (her "first love") for a year now. He's a quiet type and at times they'll be off hiding in a room somewhere, making out, I'm sure. But there's always adult supervision if he is here or she is at his home. He doesn't have his own car yet so I guess I'm lucky at this point.

 

[BlamoHammer]

Originally posted by: conjur
Well, I think I've done a good job of instilling values in my oldest daughter (now 16). Plus, she has seen a cousin of hers become a mother at the ripe ol' age of 17 and the problems she has to deal with. And, my daughter is now babysitting for her cousin's new baby so gets to care for a baby on a regular basis and realizes how much work it is! She's also on birth control to help control her cycle and reduce the pain she was having w/her period (caused her to miss several days of school last year) but she knows that 's not a free ride. She says she wants to go to college, get her degree, start a career and then look to settle down. <sniff> I'm so proud!

That said, she's been dating the same boy (her "first love") for a year now. He's a quiet type and at times they'll be off hiding in a room somewhere, making out, I'm sure. But there's always adult supervision if he is here or she is at his home. He doesn't have his own car yet so I guess I'm lucky at this point.

Hate to say it but if they have ben together for a year, they are doing a little more than making out.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: AngryPirate

Originally posted by: conjur
Well, I think I've done a good job of instilling values in my oldest daughter (now 16). Plus, she has seen a cousin of hers become a mother at the ripe ol' age of 17 and the problems she has to deal with. And, my daughter is now babysitting for her cousin's new baby so gets to care for a baby on a regular basis and realizes how much work it is! She's also on birth control to help control her cycle and reduce the pain she was having w/her period (caused her to miss several days of school last year) but she knows that 's not a free ride. She says she wants to go to college, get her degree, start a career and then look to settle down. <sniff> I'm so proud!

That said, she's been dating the same boy (her "first love") for a year now. He's a quiet type and at times they'll be off hiding in a room somewhere, making out, I'm sure. But there's always adult supervision if he is here or she is at his home. He doesn't have his own car yet so I guess I'm lucky at this point.

Hate to say it but if they have ben together for a year, they are doing a little more than making out.

Arrrrrr.....

 

[Beau]

hehe... that custom song pops into head.

Man I hope I never have a daughter, though I'm sure I'm gonna have nothing but girls. Gut feeling on this.

 

[conjur]

Originally posted by: AngryPirate

Originally posted by: conjur
Well, I think I've done a good job of instilling values in my oldest daughter (now 16). Plus, she has seen a cousin of hers become a mother at the ripe ol' age of 17 and the problems she has to deal with. And, my daughter is now babysitting for her cousin's new baby so gets to care for a baby on a regular basis and realizes how much work it is! She's also on birth control to help control her cycle and reduce the pain she was having w/her period (caused her to miss several days of school last year) but she knows that 's not a free ride. She says she wants to go to college, get her degree, start a career and then look to settle down. <sniff> I'm so proud!

That said, she's been dating the same boy (her "first love") for a year now. He's a quiet type and at times they'll be off hiding in a room somewhere, making out, I'm sure. But there's always adult supervision if he is here or she is at his home. He doesn't have his own car yet so I guess I'm lucky at this point.

Hate to say it but if they have ben together for a year, they are doing a little more than making out.

Nope. Granted all I have is their word but they don't really see each other that much. And, when they do, it's always with family to the movies, an amusement park or one parent's house or the other.

 

[BlamoHammer]

Originally posted by: conjur

Originally posted by: AngryPirate

Originally posted by: conjur
Well, I think I've done a good job of instilling values in my oldest daughter (now 16). Plus, she has seen a cousin of hers become a mother at the ripe ol' age of 17 and the problems she has to deal with. And, my daughter is now babysitting for her cousin's new baby so gets to care for a baby on a regular basis and realizes how much work it is! She's also on birth control to help control her cycle and reduce the pain she was having w/her period (caused her to miss several days of school last year) but she knows that 's not a free ride. She says she wants to go to college, get her degree, start a career and then look to settle down. <sniff> I'm so proud!

That said, she's been dating the same boy (her "first love") for a year now. He's a quiet type and at times they'll be off hiding in a room somewhere, making out, I'm sure. But there's always adult supervision if he is here or she is at his home. He doesn't have his own car yet so I guess I'm lucky at this point.

Hate to say it but if they have ben together for a year, they are doing a little more than making out.

Nope. Granted all I have is their word but they don't really see each other that much. And, when they do, it's always with family to the movies, an amusement park or one parent's house or the other.

Hehe.....ok.

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

Originally posted by: AngryPirate

Originally posted by: conjur

Originally posted by: AngryPirate

Originally posted by: conjur
Well, I think I've done a good job of instilling values in my oldest daughter (now 16). Plus, she has seen a cousin of hers become a mother at the ripe ol' age of 17 and the problems she has to deal with. And, my daughter is now babysitting for her cousin's new baby so gets to care for a baby on a regular basis and realizes how much work it is! She's also on birth control to help control her cycle and reduce the pain she was having w/her period (caused her to miss several days of school last year) but she knows that 's not a free ride. She says she wants to go to college, get her degree, start a career and then look to settle down. <sniff> I'm so proud!

That said, she's been dating the same boy (her "first love") for a year now. He's a quiet type and at times they'll be off hiding in a room somewhere, making out, I'm sure. But there's always adult supervision if he is here or she is at his home. He doesn't have his own car yet so I guess I'm lucky at this point.

Hate to say it but if they have ben together for a year, they are doing a little more than making out.

Nope. Granted all I have is their word but they don't really see each other that much. And, when they do, it's always with family to the movies, an amusement park or one parent's house or the other.

Hehe.....ok.

Thats not what I saw on the webcam. BTW, their webcam was #452 if you ever wanna check it out at teensfvckingwithoutconjurspermission.com j/k

 

[CPA]

My daughter is 4 and I'm dreading the day her hormones kick in and she's dating. I don't worry about my boys as much, though.

 

[ghostman]

I knew you would end up forking the topic into a new thread.

In any case, since I mentioned the shotgun comment on the last thread, I figure I should back it up.

she will make her own mistakes and learn from them.

Sure, I think people should learn from their mistakes. But when we're talking about having sex while still in high school (17 years old, as the other thread mentioned), there is no way I'm going to let my daughter make that kind of mistake. What happens if she gets pregnant at age 18? Her financial, social and academic life may be ruined. Sure, she might meet a nice guy and he'll actually stick around. But that's not certain and I would trust my shotgun a lot more than I would trust some college freshman's word.

I realize I'm overprotective. I wish I could grill the guys that my older sister hangs out with. I think that she's likely to be blind of his faults early on in the relationship, so I find it my duty to help point them out as an...ahem...unbiased third party. I just need to see security for my loved ones. So, all my sister has to find is a successful medical student, going to a well-respected school, coming from a well-respected undergrad program (who doesn't show off), has a stable family and doesn't own a riced-out car. Is that so much to ask?

 

[conjur]

Originally posted by: AgaBooga

Originally posted by: AngryPirate

Originally posted by: conjur

Originally posted by: AngryPirate

Originally posted by: conjur
Well, I think I've done a good job of instilling values in my oldest daughter (now 16). Plus, she has seen a cousin of hers become a mother at the ripe ol' age of 17 and the problems she has to deal with. And, my daughter is now babysitting for her cousin's new baby so gets to care for a baby on a regular basis and realizes how much work it is! She's also on birth control to help control her cycle and reduce the pain she was having w/her period (caused her to miss several days of school last year) but she knows that 's not a free ride. She says she wants to go to college, get her degree, start a career and then look to settle down. <sniff> I'm so proud!

That said, she's been dating the same boy (her "first love") for a year now. He's a quiet type and at times they'll be off hiding in a room somewhere, making out, I'm sure. But there's always adult supervision if he is here or she is at his home. He doesn't have his own car yet so I guess I'm lucky at this point.

Hate to say it but if they have ben together for a year, they are doing a little more than making out.

Nope. Granted all I have is their word but they don't really see each other that much. And, when they do, it's always with family to the movies, an amusement park or one parent's house or the other.

Hehe.....ok.

Thats not what I saw on the webcam. BTW, their webcam was #452 if you ever wanna check it out at teensfvckingwithoutconjurspermission.com j/k

:| :|

 

[Acts837]

I have five children and I believe in courting the way it was done many moons ago. Just call me old fashioned.

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: conjur
Well, I think I've done a good job of instilling values in my oldest daughter (now 16). Plus, she has seen a cousin of hers become a mother at the ripe ol' age of 17 and the problems she has to deal with. And, my daughter is now babysitting for her cousin's new baby so gets to care for a baby on a regular basis and realizes how much work it is! She's also on birth control to help control her cycle and reduce the pain she was having w/her period (caused her to miss several days of school last year) but she knows that 's not a free ride. She says she wants to go to college, get her degree, start a career and then look to settle down. <sniff> I'm so proud!

That said, she's been dating the same boy (her "first love") for a year now. He's a quiet type and at times they'll be off hiding in a room somewhere, making out, I'm sure. But there's always adult supervision if he is here or she is at his home. He doesn't have his own car yet so I guess I'm lucky at this point.

Pics?

 

[BigJ]

16 probably as an age to actually start dating (single dates, double dates, for example). As long as the guy is respectful towards me, wouldn't really be that worried. You know, getting out of the car instead of honking like a maniac, greeting ol' pops, getting her home on time, stuff like that. If all that occurs, not a problem.

But the minute the guy turns into an asshat, the switch for being over-protective is on.