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What is it with this?

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HamburgerBoy

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Why is it that when you initiate conversation with just one person, others will come up to talk to you, yet when you're alone, no one notices you? I know people talk about that in reference to how females seem more interested when you have a girlfriend, but I didn't know it applied to all aspects of social life. Just today I met a lab partner from two years ago in between classes and he has a good minute long "Hey how've you been? Fine, how about you? Fine, what are you up to? Graduating soon? Yeah, how about you?" conversation and shook hands twice. After that, a girl sitting in front of me asked me a lecture-related question (which never happens) and I also got to thank someone for returning something I had left in the previous class session. Not complaining, really, but my monthly quota was met within an hour and a half. Seems like it could be broken up a bit.
 
Initiating any social interaction is always the "riskiest" step. There's always the change of rejection or finding out the other person is a total ass hole or making an ass of yourself. When someone else is already talking to someone that person has sort of broken the ice by proxy. You get to hear the person talking, get to form a quick 2 second opinion of what type of person they might be. When you are alone by yourself initiating contact is emotionally much riskier.

This is the psychology anyway.
 
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