Your best course (IMHO) would be to use a benchmark program....
Set the ap size, run the benchmark, set the size to the next value, run the benchmark, (repeat as necessary).
When you reach the point where speed / quality drops (or improves, depending on if you're going up or down in the vlaues), back up one notch.
The benchmark doesn't have to be 3Dmark, it can be your favorite game in demo mode, whatever you use the system for the most.
Values can be different for different systems, depending on the amount of RAM, , motherboard, disk, video card, drivers, the software ...
I believe that memory set aside for AGP aperature is also tagged for "no swap," which may affect the performance as well (again, depending on RAM, etc).
Good Luck
Scott