Grow some balls and ask her out. If she says yes, awesome. If she says no, get your fooking head out of the clouds and find someone else to fornicate with.
Yours in Christ,
CLINT
Yours in Christ,
CLINT
At your next meeting, let her know you have found a new therapist and you won't be seeing her any more. Then ask her out
This reminds me of the episode of The Sopranos when Tony wants to go out with his therapist. Remember a therapist always seeks advice from a therapist as well
Like others have said, it's probably a pseudo-emotional attraction common with therapists and patients, so don't put too much stock into it. Let her know about your feelings. She can help you to work through your situation without breaking your heart.
SMOGZINN
Lifer
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I really do not feel comfortable replying to this.
I feel that I should point out that it is very important to discuss these feeling with your therapist. As others have said, this is rather common, but it is also something you must discuss. Your therapist will most likely discuss these feelings with you, and depending on the requirements of your therapy, might refer you to a different therapist.
You should not feel bad about this, or feel bad about the fact that she does not feel the same way about you. Do not take this as rejection. It is not because you are unlovable, or there is something wrong with you as a person. A relationship with you would be unethical. She could very easily lose her license to practice if she dated you. Because of this almost all practicing psychologists have learnt to not form emotional attachments to the persons they deal with.
That does not mean she does not like you, it means that she does not allow those feelings to grow into anything. It is a difficult skill to learn, and is probably the number one reason that psychologists burn out. You become a psychologist because you loved people and wanted to help them, but to do that you have to learn not to get too close to them, and all too often that breaks your heart.
So please understand that does not reflect on you as a person, she is just trying help you be happy, and to be happy herself.
Good counsel.
Have you explored why you are attracted to your therapist? Have you acted on these desires? Has your therapist helped you act on these desires?
Regardless, I'd seek counseling from a new therapist.
MikeyIs4Dcats
Lifer
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"Freud" and "Jung" are viewed by many as akin to cursewords in psychology today, as is "unconscious."
Oh, and yeah, client-therapist relationships generally don't happen. They're heavily discouraged by the APA, and I think the minimum amount of time that must pass before it can even occur is something like 5-7 years from the termination of your therapy with her...and even then, only if she views the situation as non-detrimental to your overall health.
It's nice to have someone you can trust, though. Just deal with things as they come, and you'll get it worked out.
Oh, and yeah, client-therapist relationships generally don't happen. They're heavily discouraged by the APA, and I think the minimum amount of time that must pass before it can even occur is something like 5-7 years from the termination of your therapy with her...and even then, only if she views the situation as non-detrimental to your overall health.
It's nice to have someone you can trust, though. Just deal with things as they come, and you'll get it worked out.
I am a person whos feels more than just infinitely imprecise words or labels. I am not a lab rat that can be classified, im a fvcking person WHO FEELS and my FEELINGS ARE REAL
MikeyIs4Dcats
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