what happens when you move in with your SO???

[slsmnaz]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
I might move in with my gf next year. Only things I ask are:

1. Don;t talk to me in the morning, I'm a grouch
2. Don't change the channel when either football or Seinfeld is on.
3. Don't move things arround and rearrange everything all the time.

Good luck w/ that one. Be sure to update us on how it works out.

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: grrl
You have LESS sex.

fixed.. and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension...

and if you think this is bad.. wait till the day after your honeymoon LOL.. everything changes

Sorry, but again, this only applies if you are a loser.

yah come back and talk to me in 15-20 years when you are old enough to talk from experience..

also quit dating teenieboppers and date a real woman 30-40 with a career and (or) kids and let me know how much time and desire she has for sex.

Umm, I am married...

but how old.. things were alot different when i was married to a 20 year old versus a 41 year old..

You said, "and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension... "

I've been living with her 4 years and have been married over 2. My wife has no "do" list for me whatsoever. I have no limits, etc. We communicate. I would never date/marry someone that would make such demands on me or control me in ANY way.

 

[CVSiN]

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: grrl
You have LESS sex.

fixed.. and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension...

and if you think this is bad.. wait till the day after your honeymoon LOL.. everything changes

Sorry, but again, this only applies if you are a loser.

yah come back and talk to me in 15-20 years when you are old enough to talk from experience..

also quit dating teenieboppers and date a real woman 30-40 with a career and (or) kids and let me know how much time and desire she has for sex.

Umm, I am married...

but how old.. things were alot different when i was married to a 20 year old versus a 41 year old..

You said, "and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension... "

I've been living with her 4 years and have been married over 2. My wife has no "do" list for me whatsoever. I have no limits, etc. We communicate. I would never date/marry someone that would make such demands on me or control me in ANY way.

again you dodge the real question.. nice dodge!
you sound and write like a youngster with very limited knowledge on the subject..

like I said come back in a few years when the honeymoon has worn off completely and the grind takes over.

 

[Ilikepiedoyou]

good topic!

 

[Al Neri]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: Don Rodriguez

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
We were dating for one year when we made the choice to live together.

We got a joint bank account, bought furniture, pots, pans, etc and that was that. Sure there were times we argued and fought and threatened to leave, but we didnt and when we got married, it was a smooth transitition, aside from the fact that i got my name changed on everything.

I told my husband this and i think he agrees... if we had never lived together BEFORE getting hitched, i do not think we would have lasted more than a few months!

It was the best experience for us. we learned about each others quirks and deepest personality issues and strengths.

Now, it is five years later and we are still together.

mistake numero uno.

:roll:
AND WHY was that a mistake? We are still together today... 6 year later.

wow. home finances 101 says never get a joint bank account!

http://www.mainelse.org/library/kyr/client%20ed/bankaccount.htm

rules in life to abide by:

Trust only yourself.

Quite cynical, but prepare for the worst right?



remember young buck said it best, "I trust no one, not even my own homeboy "

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: grrl
You have LESS sex.

fixed.. and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension...

and if you think this is bad.. wait till the day after your honeymoon LOL.. everything changes

Sorry, but again, this only applies if you are a loser.

yah come back and talk to me in 15-20 years when you are old enough to talk from experience..

also quit dating teenieboppers and date a real woman 30-40 with a career and (or) kids and let me know how much time and desire she has for sex.

Umm, I am married...

but how old.. things were alot different when i was married to a 20 year old versus a 41 year old..

You said, "and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension... "

I've been living with her 4 years and have been married over 2. My wife has no "do" list for me whatsoever. I have no limits, etc. We communicate. I would never date/marry someone that would make such demands on me or control me in ANY way.

again you dodge the real question.. nice dodge!
you sound and write like a youngster with very limited knowledge on the subject..

like I said come back in a few years when the honeymoon has worn off completely and the grind takes over.

My age doesn't matter... if you read the quote that I requoted for you, it addressed YOUR comment... you said, and again I quote:

"and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension... "

Living with someone for 4 years and being married for 2 certainly counts as long... unless long is 10+ years... If I get married young, that means I am not qualified to speak on the subject because all of a sudden you add an age limit after the fact? Many of the people here are young...

If you think your post only applies to older people, say, "if you are 35 and above, expect to get a "honey do" list and everyone older than 35 knows what I am talking about!". That is not what you posted.

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: Don Rodriguez

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: Don Rodriguez

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
We were dating for one year when we made the choice to live together.

We got a joint bank account, bought furniture, pots, pans, etc and that was that. Sure there were times we argued and fought and threatened to leave, but we didnt and when we got married, it was a smooth transitition, aside from the fact that i got my name changed on everything.

I told my husband this and i think he agrees... if we had never lived together BEFORE getting hitched, i do not think we would have lasted more than a few months!

It was the best experience for us. we learned about each others quirks and deepest personality issues and strengths.

Now, it is five years later and we are still together.

mistake numero uno.

:roll:
AND WHY was that a mistake? We are still together today... 6 year later.

wow. home finances 101 says never get a joint bank account!

http://www.mainelse.org/library/kyr/client%20ed/bankaccount.htm

rules in life to abide by:

Trust only yourself.

Quite cynical, but prepare for the worst right?



remember young buck said it best, "I trust no one, not even my own homeboy "

Exactly.. watch a show like Judge Judy to get a sample of just how many young girls especially, get ripped off by doing the joint bank account "playing house" thing before marriage.

 

[CVSiN]

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: grrl
You have LESS sex.

fixed.. and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension...

and if you think this is bad.. wait till the day after your honeymoon LOL.. everything changes

Sorry, but again, this only applies if you are a loser.

yah come back and talk to me in 15-20 years when you are old enough to talk from experience..

also quit dating teenieboppers and date a real woman 30-40 with a career and (or) kids and let me know how much time and desire she has for sex.

Umm, I am married...

but how old.. things were alot different when i was married to a 20 year old versus a 41 year old..

You said, "and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension... "

I've been living with her 4 years and have been married over 2. My wife has no "do" list for me whatsoever. I have no limits, etc. We communicate. I would never date/marry someone that would make such demands on me or control me in ANY way.

again you dodge the real question.. nice dodge!
you sound and write like a youngster with very limited knowledge on the subject..

like I said come back in a few years when the honeymoon has worn off completely and the grind takes over.

My age doesn't matter... if you read the quote that I requoted for you, it addressed YOUR comment... you said, and again I quote:

"and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension... "

Living with someone for 4 years and being married for 2 certainly counts as long... unless long is 10+ years... If I get married young, that means I am not qualified to speak on the subject because all of a sudden you add an age limit after the fact? Many of the people here are young...

If you think your post only applies to older people, say, "if you are 35 and above, expect to get a "honey do" list and everyone older than 35 knows what I am talking about!". That is not what you posted.

Yup basically thats exactly what I'm saying.. you young pups have no life experience yet..

and thats why you did indeed dodge the question ..

ive got more time living with women than you have on the planet

 

[Conky]

Originally posted by: chusteczka

Originally posted by: Beachboy
I've never made it past 8 months of living together. I figure if I can live with her for a year and still want to be with her then I can go the distance with her and get married. My "one year rule" has saved me more than once.

I know someone who had a similar "one year rule". What he did not know was that his live-in girlfriend also had a "one year rule" except that she would move out if he did not propose within that one year of living together.

She moved out after 11.5 months, breaking off the relationship; while he was out looking at diamond rings and planning a proposal. She ended up marrying a man who she did not like as much and he is still single. Both of them are still sad at the end result.

Do not forget that she may also be making plans.

Oh, I make the "one year rule" abundantly clear up front and repeat it whenever she brings up the subject of marriage.

I'm getting ready to move in with my gf now and I really do think she is the one but I feel compelled to stick to my rule only because of the previous one who went only 8 months... I thought she was the one too but she ended up cheating on me and breaking my heart.

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: grrl
You have LESS sex.

fixed.. and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension...

and if you think this is bad.. wait till the day after your honeymoon LOL.. everything changes

Sorry, but again, this only applies if you are a loser.

yah come back and talk to me in 15-20 years when you are old enough to talk from experience..

also quit dating teenieboppers and date a real woman 30-40 with a career and (or) kids and let me know how much time and desire she has for sex.

Umm, I am married...

but how old.. things were alot different when i was married to a 20 year old versus a 41 year old..

You said, "and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension... "

I've been living with her 4 years and have been married over 2. My wife has no "do" list for me whatsoever. I have no limits, etc. We communicate. I would never date/marry someone that would make such demands on me or control me in ANY way.

again you dodge the real question.. nice dodge!
you sound and write like a youngster with very limited knowledge on the subject..

like I said come back in a few years when the honeymoon has worn off completely and the grind takes over.

My age doesn't matter... if you read the quote that I requoted for you, it addressed YOUR comment... you said, and again I quote:

"and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension... "

Living with someone for 4 years and being married for 2 certainly counts as long... unless long is 10+ years... If I get married young, that means I am not qualified to speak on the subject because all of a sudden you add an age limit after the fact? Many of the people here are young...

If you think your post only applies to older people, say, "if you are 35 and above, expect to get a "honey do" list and everyone older than 35 knows what I am talking about!". That is not what you posted.

Yup basically thats exactly what I'm saying.. you young pups have no life experience yet..

and thats why you did indeed dodge the question ..

ive got more time living with women than you have on the planet

Maybe so, but I'd bet anything that I found one with more quality than all of yours combined, especially if they had you following them around even with a "honey do" list : ).

 

[Toastedlightly]

Someone seems sour

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: doze
The first few months are great, sex all the time, go out and do fun stuff together, pick out stuff for the place, dinner and drinking etc... The next few months are good, the sex becomes less frequent but still 2~3 times a week, you still do stuff together but not every night, your settled in to your place, and you start hanging out with your own groups of friends together now.

After the good part has been going on for a while all of a sudden you feel like your married. The sex goes down to 3~4 times a month and you never seem to have a dollar in your wallet. You start going out with other couples and you get a curfew again like when you were 15. When you start to look around your place you realize that there is ten tons of random crap everywhere and the only things you picked out in the place are the TV, PC, and DVD player.

But I would gladly do it all over again b/c most of the time it's better than living alone.

edit: We dated about 5 years, lived together about 3, was engaged for 1 year and split as the wedding planning began

/QFT

That is the most honest, finely-detailed and most importantly, CORRECT "And that's the way it is" I've read in a long time. It's also pretty much word for word what happened the last time I cohabitated. That was...1998-1999; awhile ago.

That said, I've learned what the warning signs are. If I knew then what I know now, I'd never have moved in with that manipulative, functional alcoholic woman. She did have really nice boobs though. :heart:

 

[thomsbrain]

Originally posted by: phantom309
The first time I moved in with a SO I discovered that she was an insane, manipulative slut and pathological liar who insinuated herself into every corner of my life, hopelessly damaged a bunch of my friendships and business connections and generally ruined what would otherwise have been a great, fun romantic time in my life.

Several years later I moved in with another SO. Within a few weeks I found out we liked to do the same things, have about the same level of neatness (incredibly important) and could spend enormous amounts of time together without getting on each other's nerves, that we respected each other's space, and that in addition to being madly in love with each other, we liked and trusted each other too. I married her and to my amazed delight, nothing much has changed in eight years.

Pick one.

basically my story, too. one turned out to be psycho and messed things up for me, one turned out to be better than i imagined (and i'm sticking with her!).

 

[thomsbrain]

oh yeah, i have to second the people who have mentioned weight gain.

try 35 pounds in a year and a half! because my gf is an excellent cook and likes to cook for me, i eat three square (and often plentiful) meals a day, instead of my previous irregular eating habits. it has really added up around my middle.

 

[BKLounger]

Originally posted by: doze
The first few months are great, sex all the time, go out and do fun stuff together, pick out stuff for the place, dinner and drinking etc... The next few months are good, the sex becomes less frequent but still 2~3 times a week, you still do stuff together but not every night, your settled in to your place, and you start hanging out with your own groups of friends together now.

After the good part has been going on for a while all of a sudden you feel like your married. The sex goes down to 3~4 times a month and you never seem to have a dollar in your wallet. You start going out with other couples and you get a curfew again like when you were 15. When you start to look around your place you realize that there is ten tons of random crap everywhere and the only things you picked out in the place are the TV, PC, and DVD player.

But I would gladly do it all over again b/c most of the time it's better than living alone.

Holy CRAP!!!! You really just described the last year of my life.

 

[Toastedlightly]

Me and rosy get along just fine.

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: doze
The first few months are great, sex all the time, go out and do fun stuff together, pick out stuff for the place, dinner and drinking etc... The next few months are good, the sex becomes less frequent but still 2~3 times a week, you still do stuff together but not every night, your settled in to your place, and you start hanging out with your own groups of friends together now.

After the good part has been going on for a while all of a sudden you feel like your married. The sex goes down to 3~4 times a month and you never seem to have a dollar in your wallet. You start going out with other couples and you get a curfew again like when you were 15. When you start to look around your place you realize that there is ten tons of random crap everywhere and the only things you picked out in the place are the TV, PC, and DVD player.

But I would gladly do it all over again b/c most of the time it's better than living alone.

edit: We dated about 5 years, lived together about 3, was engaged for 1 year and split as the wedding planning began

/QFT

That is the most honest, finely-detailed and most importantly, CORRECT "And that's the way it is" I've read in a long time. It's also pretty much word for word what happened the last time I cohabitated. That was...1998-1999; awhile ago.

That said, I've learned what the warning signs are. If I knew then what I know now, I'd never have moved in with that manipulative, functional alcoholic woman. She did have really nice boobs though. :heart:

Why though? Why would anyone let a situation get like that?

"After the good part has been going on for a while all of a sudden you feel like your married. The sex goes down to 3~4 times a month and you never seem to have a dollar in your wallet. You start going out with other couples and you get a curfew again like when you were 15. When you start to look around your place you realize that there is ten tons of random crap everywhere and the only things you picked out in the place are the TV, PC, and DVD player."

Why would sex go down? What has changed? Did you try communicating?

Why would a relationship affect your money EVER? If the so in your relationship requires you to maintain him/her, then they are using you. You shouldn't even consider it a real relationship.

A curfew? Well, considering there is NOTHING my so would/could do to POSSIBLY restrict how I spend my time.. again I chalk this up to people being horrible communicators and wusses. She has her time, I have my time, and we spend time together. No one is controlling the others. Again, if there are control issues, it is part your fault for failure to communicate and going out with the wrong person.

I have a whole wall for my stuff- posters from my sci fi shows, a klingon steel blade, a banner, posters from comics, figures, models, etc. We pick out our furniture, appliances, decorations, lighting together... and we decorate the rest of the house together. why would it be any different? This isn't just the SO that created the problems, you let it get that way by failure to communicate, picking poor partner and moving in with them, letting things get out of control!

 

[Garet Jax]

Originally posted by: Ilikepiedoyou
Anyone with experience and knowledge gained from making the transition to living together with there S.O. please post up. Whether it be just boy/girlfirend or marriage, please post your experiences.

I've done it once:

1) It allows you to see more closely what marriage will be like (all things are the same except finances).
2) It forces you to see the good, bad and ugly. When you are dating she/he only lets you see them at their best.
3) Forces you to compromise on everything. Temperature, food, clothes, TV, telephone, bathroom, etc...
4) Forces you to decide who is going to do what: cooking, cleaning, straightening, etc...

I would not recommend it to improve a relationship, but I would recommend it to see if you are compatible to take the next step.

 

[CVSiN]

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: doze
The first few months are great, sex all the time, go out and do fun stuff together, pick out stuff for the place, dinner and drinking etc... The next few months are good, the sex becomes less frequent but still 2~3 times a week, you still do stuff together but not every night, your settled in to your place, and you start hanging out with your own groups of friends together now.

After the good part has been going on for a while all of a sudden you feel like your married. The sex goes down to 3~4 times a month and you never seem to have a dollar in your wallet. You start going out with other couples and you get a curfew again like when you were 15. When you start to look around your place you realize that there is ten tons of random crap everywhere and the only things you picked out in the place are the TV, PC, and DVD player.

But I would gladly do it all over again b/c most of the time it's better than living alone.

edit: We dated about 5 years, lived together about 3, was engaged for 1 year and split as the wedding planning began

/QFT

That is the most honest, finely-detailed and most importantly, CORRECT "And that's the way it is" I've read in a long time. It's also pretty much word for word what happened the last time I cohabitated. That was...1998-1999; awhile ago.

That said, I've learned what the warning signs are. If I knew then what I know now, I'd never have moved in with that manipulative, functional alcoholic woman. She did have really nice boobs though. :heart:

Why though? Why would anyone let a situation get like that?

"After the good part has been going on for a while all of a sudden you feel like your married. The sex goes down to 3~4 times a month and you never seem to have a dollar in your wallet. You start going out with other couples and you get a curfew again like when you were 15. When you start to look around your place you realize that there is ten tons of random crap everywhere and the only things you picked out in the place are the TV, PC, and DVD player."

Why would sex go down? What has changed? Did you try communicating?

Why would a relationship affect your money EVER? If the so in your relationship requires you to maintain him/her, then they are using you. You shouldn't even consider it a real relationship.

A curfew? Well, considering there is NOTHING my so would/could do to POSSIBLY restrict how I spend my time.. again I chalk this up to people being horrible communicators and wusses. She has her time, I have my time, and we spend time together. No one is controlling the others. Again, if there are control issues, it is part your fault for failure to communicate and going out with the wrong person.

I have a whole wall for my stuff- posters from my sci fi shows, a klingon steel blade, a banner, posters from comics, figures, models, etc. We pick out our furniture, appliances, decorations, lighting together... and we decorate the rest of the house together. why would it be any different? This isn't just the SO that created the problems, you let it get that way by failure to communicate, picking poor partner and moving in with them, letting things get out of control!

Its called age... people get older and change..
like I said youre much to young to "get it" yet..
but rest assured you will..

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: doze
The first few months are great, sex all the time, go out and do fun stuff together, pick out stuff for the place, dinner and drinking etc... The next few months are good, the sex becomes less frequent but still 2~3 times a week, you still do stuff together but not every night, your settled in to your place, and you start hanging out with your own groups of friends together now.

After the good part has been going on for a while all of a sudden you feel like your married. The sex goes down to 3~4 times a month and you never seem to have a dollar in your wallet. You start going out with other couples and you get a curfew again like when you were 15. When you start to look around your place you realize that there is ten tons of random crap everywhere and the only things you picked out in the place are the TV, PC, and DVD player.

But I would gladly do it all over again b/c most of the time it's better than living alone.

edit: We dated about 5 years, lived together about 3, was engaged for 1 year and split as the wedding planning began

/QFT

That is the most honest, finely-detailed and most importantly, CORRECT "And that's the way it is" I've read in a long time. It's also pretty much word for word what happened the last time I cohabitated. That was...1998-1999; awhile ago.

That said, I've learned what the warning signs are. If I knew then what I know now, I'd never have moved in with that manipulative, functional alcoholic woman. She did have really nice boobs though. :heart:

Why though? Why would anyone let a situation get like that?

"After the good part has been going on for a while all of a sudden you feel like your married. The sex goes down to 3~4 times a month and you never seem to have a dollar in your wallet. You start going out with other couples and you get a curfew again like when you were 15. When you start to look around your place you realize that there is ten tons of random crap everywhere and the only things you picked out in the place are the TV, PC, and DVD player."

Why would sex go down? What has changed? Did you try communicating?

Why would a relationship affect your money EVER? If the so in your relationship requires you to maintain him/her, then they are using you. You shouldn't even consider it a real relationship.

A curfew? Well, considering there is NOTHING my so would/could do to POSSIBLY restrict how I spend my time.. again I chalk this up to people being horrible communicators and wusses. She has her time, I have my time, and we spend time together. No one is controlling the others. Again, if there are control issues, it is part your fault for failure to communicate and going out with the wrong person.

I have a whole wall for my stuff- posters from my sci fi shows, a klingon steel blade, a banner, posters from comics, figures, models, etc. We pick out our furniture, appliances, decorations, lighting together... and we decorate the rest of the house together. why would it be any different? This isn't just the SO that created the problems, you let it get that way by failure to communicate, picking poor partner and moving in with them, letting things get out of control!

Its called age... people get older and change..
like I said youre much to young to "get it" yet..
but rest assured you will..

You think age will break down a perfectly happy married long term relationship? I feel sorry for you. If anything, the opposite happens.. people are generally less mature the younger they are. therefore, it is much more indicative of a success relationship if you could get it all to work right when young.

I'm almost 25 and been married for 2 years, 5 year relationship, 4 years living together.

 

[RaiderJ]

Dated for 3 years, got engaged, moved in, split up 3 months later.

Moving in is risky, since if things don't work out, you still have to deal with them for awhile. 2 months of living with someone but not being together is a PITA.

I won't live with someone again until I'm married after my experience. However, to be fair, I had my doubts about things going into it.

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: RaiderJ
Dated for 3 years, got engaged, moved in, split up 3 months later.

Moving in is risky, since if things don't work out, you still have to deal with them for awhile. 2 months of living with someone but not being together is a PITA.

I won't live with someone again until I'm married after my experience. However, to be fair, I had my doubts about things going into it.

That is illogical. MARRYING without trying living together first is risky... In your situation, no harm done.. no legal worries, etc... Marriage is just signing a legal document.. it doesn't change a relationship.

After moving in with someone failed, you'd think you'd be smart enough to realize that it isn't so easy to just marry and move in.. and therefore you test the waters first.. but you say that now you'd do the opposite! Great idea! That way if it doesn't work out you could both get to hire lawyers and have to deal with money and assets!

 

[Scarpozzi]

Originally posted by: richardycc
you will know if she/he is the right one within the first month or so.

You better know, for the most part, before you let her move in. But the 2 or 3 key elements can be found by checking her current habitation.

1. Fridge - Should be somewhat healthy food with decent food group distribution. If there are lots of sweets or unhealthy tv dinners...steer clear. These bad eating habits may indicate that she's going to get fat when her metabolism slows down. Worse yet, she may not know how to cook a decent meal.
2. Bathroom - Should be clean of debris from when she puts on her face in the morning. If she doesn't clean up around the sink or take care of her things in the bathroom, be prepared to make space for her items: Curling iron, hair dryer, make up, tampons, various hair care products, cleansers, soaps, etc...
3. Bedroom - How many clothes does she have in her closet? Too many is probably the answer, but you need to make sure she isn't a packrat. Holding onto too many garments is a good sign that you won't be able to find room for your stuff when she moves in...thus your stuff will get thrown out to make space. Also, check floor space? Does she use a hamper or throw clothes, shoes, etc on the floor?
4. Laundry - Does she do laundry daily, weekly, or monthly? This can cause laundry backups, pileups, or a high water bill/detergent bill. Find out her practices.

It may take a good 3-6 months for you to get angry with each other....so I advise living with the person for a while...but keep in mind that if you have any doubts up front, you should go with your gut feeling and not move in.

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: CVSiN
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Its called age... people get older and change..
like I said youre much to young to "get it" yet..
but rest assured you will..

I am really annoyed... just because you might have issues with relationships and you might have had a past relationship "burn" you and make you cynical, that does NOT mean every other person will have the same experience... EVEN IF they are half your age.
cripes.
Just because someone has a bad experience, it is their choice to learn from it and move on and not dwell on the past in a negative way.

I am not saying you are right and everyone else is wrong, but do not knock other people for their choices or if they are happier or had a better experience than you did at their age. :|

 

[SolMiester]

Okay, to Mr CVSin, I was married 7 yrs, lived together 5 mths before marrage. Yes things changed after marrigae however that was really only a mental attitude. Most of that posted above about sex etc was true, BUT the reason was as also stated, 'communication'
Have now been divorsed 4 yrs, but the experience and knowledge I will take into my up coming marriage next year. At the tender age of 40, even with a failed marriage behind me, I couldnt think of anything worse than living alone.